Can a compulsive thief who is otherwise a nice person recover?

Question

My ex seems kind and gentle, but he steals from everyone - me, a former employer, a cousin, who knows who else. We no longer live together (big relief), but I discovered he was writing fraudulent checks on my account, stealing my credit cards, etc. and would buy all kinds of junk he didn't really need and then try to hide his purchases from me. After I left him, I found out he stole from an employer who was very good to him. He would have had a good career opportunity with that job if he hadn't stolen. I've other heard from others such as a cousin who lived with him that he stole from him too. He always seems to get away with his behavior, because he is otherwise helpful and kind, people know his dad died when he was young, he grew up poor, etc. Personally, I don't care what his reason is, I just want to protect myself from his stealing. I now live far away from him, and have some contact with him because we have a son. I wish with all my heart he could change - is this possible??

Answer 1

You say this theif is your ex. To me "ex "means "former". So that is good. He is your PAST. Put distance between you, your money and assets, and your ex. There may be a chemical imbalance in his brain, or ongoing drug use that fuels this compulsive behavior on his part. While he is waiting for rehabilitation, or a medical cure, or a miracle, your bank account could be wiped out! How much abuse do you have to take before you protect yourself from this very sick person? You should hurry up and get some professional counseling for yourself.