My wife just moved to Chicago from North Carolina. Lately she has been feeling a little blue. What can I do to cheer up?
2006-10-15 07:24:40 · 23 answers · asked by cave man 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife is very down to earth and not materialistic at all.
2006-10-15 07:25:49 · update #1
I've been in your wife's shoes honey and the only thing that is going to make her feel any better is to get her out and give her reasons to enjoy her new surroundings. As humans, we are creatures of habit. When things have been the same for so long, it's often hard for us to accept change. So, If the sunny skies of North Carolina don't compare to the windy city, then take her to the lakefront and show her how beautiful it can be. Take her on the boardwalk at night to see the skyline while you make new memories. If she's missing the ocean, make a trip to the Shed Aquarium. Whatever possible you can do to get her to find the good things in chicago will definately help.
I wish I could agree with everyone else in saying "send her back home for a week", but having been there, I can't do it in good conscience. When I moved, visiting back home so soon after the move only left me feeling more homesick. It took me a good six months to get use to my new surroundings. But now that I have, I can honestly say moving was the best thing for me. The move opened doors to so many possibilities that I wouldn't have had if I stayed where I grew up. Not all change is bad and it's important that you let your wife experience the good things about the move. The more she experiences, the more she'll adapt, and the less homesick she'll be feeling.
2006-10-15 07:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too weird that you'd say that. I'm at Loyola University Chicago and my girlfriend is from North Carolina and she is really homesick. I think the best thing you could do is buy the both of you a plane ticket for a nice weekend in North Carolina wherever she lives. I bought my girlfriend a plane ticket so she could go back home (I didn't go with her cause I'm really busy), but this seemed to help a little bit.
2006-10-15 07:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never go away. She misses her life. The only thing that will help is to build a new life where she is. Help her make friends, have bbq's with neighbors over. In time she may accept her new life, but she will always long for her old one. Even if she moved back though, it wouldn't be the way it was before. Frequent visits will help, and make it worse. She will not be completely happy until you guys move back there. I've lived in Arizona for over 5 years and I am still soooo homesick for Oregon. I think if I had better friends here it would make a huge difference.
2006-10-15 07:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in sort of the same situation. We moved from South GA to Massachusetts about a year and a half ago. Take her on a day trip to some of the popular tourist sights there so she can see what a great place you guys have moved to. Take a picnic lunch and just talk to her and allow her to talk to you about what exactly it is that is making her so homesick. If it is missing family and friends, I recommend a phone plan that gives unlimited long distance calls for a fixed rate, that way she can call home and talk to family whenever she chooses without worring that she is gonna break the bank with the next bill. Also getting out for public events or if you have kids, take them to public events.That way you can meet people your age, possibly with kids your age. A webcam if you do not have one is great when you want to SEE loved ones and you cant exactly pay the outrageous plane fare, or cant get off work, whatever reason. That is the way I cope. I have 2 small children who only get to see their MeMe and Doo-Da about 2-3 times a year. It makes it easier on all of us if we get out and do things here instead of sitting here and giving us time to do nothing but think about how much we miss "home".
Time heals all wounds darlin' Just give her time to weep if she needs to. Be there for her to talk to or cry to and be understanding. Be the backbone of support for her. It'll get better. I promise.
2006-10-15 07:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the beautiful things about Chicago, I know when I moved from Oh. to Az. I was depressed alot. I missed the trees and the 4 seasons, your lucky if you get only 2 seasons in Az. But don't worry with time she will get better, just make things exciting and fun for her. Good luck
2006-10-15 07:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send for a friend or family member from NC to come visit Chicago with her and they could scope out Chicago together.
2006-10-15 07:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have patience with her.I have been through that same ordeal
and when I met new people and became friends I was okay. Try to work or get a hobby.I have been gone for twenty five years. There is no way I could ever go back to my home town to live.
2006-10-15 07:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on a trip to North Carolina and stay there for like a week or something.
2006-10-15 07:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider sending her on a mini vacation back to north carolina. if she feels she can go visit occasionly she might feel better about being in chicago.
2006-10-15 07:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by m.k.s. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably misses her home town but anyway. show her around in chicago. tell her the traditional events that happen every year. do whatever you can to cheer her up, good luck
2006-10-15 07:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋