I had a huge crush on this man for like 7 or 8 months, I was sure it was only a physical attraction and kept telling myself not to get attached because I knew that a relationship with him would be a dead end road (long story). So we ended up making out a couple of times and then he tells me we can't see each other anymore. Now that I can't have him, I realize that I have feelings for him. I can't stop thinking about him, and I am hurt because I don't think he ever had feelings for me other than lust and seriously doubt he ever even thinks about me. What is something unique or hot that I can say to him that will get him wanting me or at least thinking about the situation again?
2006-10-15 07:23:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a man so listen to this. Remember the part of where he said you could not see each other again and it made you want him even more? That is the key! You have made yourself too available to this guy and took the adventure of the chase all the way out of the relationship. The very first time you were in the make out situation you should have cut it off with one good kiss and said you didn't feel good about this because of his situation. He would have wanted more and you could have kept him on the string. Be more hard to get but show you like him but at the same time don't appear eager or desperate. Men like a challenge, mystery, and want to win over a woman for a long term relationship. If he knows its easy for him then what about your past? Play it cool and things will get hot. I don't know if the man you are referring to is completely lost but my advice will defiantly help you in the future. Good Luck
2006-10-15 07:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by azjimhowe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have this guy you are nuts about telling you he cant see you anymore. Ouch! As hard as it seems, I think the best thing for you to do is to MOVE IN. How do you accomplish this?Immediately get involved in some sort of group, or activity that would invite other people into your life.Stay busy and focused on avoiding any contact with this person. He already told you once. How would you feel if he had to tell you twice? Maybe he is already committed to someone and to continue seeing you would hurt someone else? Why would you want to share a life with someone at the expense of hurting others?Sexual attraction can be overwhelming.But the sexual attraction will fade as other realities in a relationship settle in. Consider yourself LUCKY that he told you early on, and not next year, that he couldnt see you anymore.Remember that his rejection of you is because of something going on in his life, not because you are not irresistable enough! Im guessing you are in your early 20's because thats where I WAS at your age. Hindsight IS 20-20 vision. Move on and forget him. Youll be far better off in all ways.
2006-10-15 07:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you have to persuade him or do anything other than be yourself to get his attention, it will never be the healthy loving relationship that you want. i think your wasting your time and your love on someone who doesnt want to give it back. even if he was physically with you but his heart was somewhere else, how happy could your relationship possibly turnout? and if he had real feelings for you it would already show in his actions. where you put your time and energy, is where your heart is at. his actions prove that his heart is somewhere else and not with you. do yourself a favor and start over with a clean slate and be with someone who shows you that you are the only one that they want to be with. if you really want to live a happy life with a special someone, lose the loser. your heart will thank you later when you find that special someone for you and only you.
2006-10-15 09:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by jcmikemoni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the wrong approach to get a man, if you're looking for a keeper. That is...
It seems that you recognized that lust was the problem, but yet you appear to ask how you can use it to get him back.
BTW, everyone should note that the work is spelled: "Irresistilbe," with an "i."
2006-10-15 07:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there...you can try to entice him with sex but that's all it would be...why put yourself through that when you've decided you like him more than that?
He's apparently not that into you...move on and spare your feelings and save yourself some possible humiliation...
2006-10-15 07:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant make anybody like you because then it wouldnt be you. I'm sure you are a nice person and if they dont like you that is their loss not yours. Be your self. PS: I have this problem with girls all the time
2006-10-15 07:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Captin Picard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of a little joke.
What can a woman put behind her ears to make herself irresistible to men? Her ankles. Sorry, I now this doesn't really answer your question. ;-P
2006-10-15 07:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by dudeman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Touch his arm and gaze into his eyes and if he doesn't pull back rub his thighs...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7-4-nJKgHU
2006-10-15 07:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by SlapADog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant make yourself irresistable.....the person that likes you has to think that you are irresistable...
2006-10-15 07:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you tak to him he will not like you. do the same thing he is doing. let him know he cant have you..and then he will like you
2006-10-15 07:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by ~Happy~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋