Any tips on overcoming shyness?

Question

I need help im incredibly shy and quiet and want some tips on how to overcome it. I feel im not intersting compared to other people as i dont go clubbing like the majority of people i work with. I also want to be able to not worry what people think rather than feeling intimidated so if anyone has any advice it would be appreciated

Answer 1

The first thing to remember is your not alone.90% of people would feel nervous and shy when walking into a room of strangers.And being reserved is a cute thing-guys are thrown by overconfident extrovert girls!If you dont like clubbing try joining a group doing something you are interested in-you'll find you can talk easier with people you have things in common with.If you feel panicy just breathe in slowly and deeply counting to ten -sounds silly but it works for me!

Answer 2

im a very shy person as well and im also starting college. What iv done is just wait till im in a group of people and try and join into convos what i can join into. If i cant find a convo ill try and join in to what ever there talking about. Another way is by hanging around with your old friends. If they have new friends im sure you will end up speaking to them. Thats happend alot to me over years. You can also try joining alot of clubs. It may sound hard but really its quite easy. I used to be VERY shy. What got me going was when i joined a local hockey team. That boosted my confidence right up. Try joining some college clubs and see what happens. The first answer you got. No dont go and drink lots of beer.... Im not a drinker or smoker and i can overcome my shyness easy. Basicly you can 1: join clubs which make you interact with lots of people. It definatly works 2: hang around with old friends offen and you will get to know there new friends. 3: Join in with convos what you can join in. If none come up just try and say a few words. It does boost your confidence There the things what has helped me. Im sure if you give some a try you will overcome shyness :) good luck!

Answer 3

I have a solution which may help............ i used to be a dj and when confronting a large audience i would think ''what would i be expecting from this dj if i were sat in the audience''? and to be honest i couldnt care less so i did what i did and never worried about it. Confidence comes when you're comfortable with your surroundings and once you've gained enough you would feel you can be yourself. Believe me just being yourself is the best course of action and your confidence will grow. Don't worry what other people think at the end of the day you are you and they are they . Shyness these days is considered cute and people misiterpret it as being pure and innocent so you can't lose here. Good luck.

Answer 4

Try to get involved with people in some way. You don't have to become an outrageous extrovert to be popular, just join in with conversations and seem interested in what others are up to and doing.

Some people talk a lot about nothing, but others can be quiet and not say much, yet they always have something interesting to say.

The worse thing to do would be to not think yourself worthy of anyone's attention and hide away from everyone.

Answer 5

your not going to look confident until you are truly happy with yourself. you need to focus on all the things good about you, like all the things you like about yourself. then write them down and whenever you need a confidence boost read them. trust me it will work just be yourself the worst that can happen is some people might not like you they are obviously not nice people and arent worth your time. everyone will feel intimidated at some point in their life . good luck and i hope you overcome your shyness.

Answer 6

Fake it 'til you make it.

I suffer from anxiety whenever I leave my house or have to enter a room full of people; but you would never know it by watching me. Most people think I am quite outgoing and confident. My utter terror of the world is my little secret.

Answer 7

I know how you feel I use to be the same. The only way to overcome it is to believe in yourself, start to try talk to people in work you normally wouldn't talk to, talk about anything.

Answer 8

this is the real deal!
life isn't a dress rehearsal !
get out there and have some fun!
being shy is a great quality do you really want to be like everyone else? bahh bahh bahh.
do your own thing

Answer 9

confidence can be difficult to gain, if you dont want to try a group specifically for confidence building try an arts/crafts group.. doing practical skills can create interest which in turn create gentle conversation.. good practice

Answer 10

try and go out more have a drink that will make you relax and give you some dutch courage