I need to tell my mother that I'm a lesbian. I'm 18 and it's just been too long. But she isn't mentally stable. She might think I'm joking, or she might even try attacking me.
How do I go about this?
2006-10-15 07:12:21 · 10 answers · asked by PNK 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is she in therapy? If so have the therapist or a female relative or friend for a mediater to do it. Someone that can keep her calm and stable. If have a Dad confess to him first. Even if he acts ackward. That's all the ideas I've got. Good luck to you.
2006-10-15 07:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is not stable, then I would be very careful about telling her. Don't know what to suggest really - you know her better than anybody here. Perhaps you should not be quite so careful about preserving an apparently het exterior, and allow her to draw her own conclusions over a period of time.
Good luck, anyway.
2006-10-15 14:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell her? It seems most older people have no issues with two women living together; they do not assume there's anything sexual about it. So why upset your mother?
I believe in closets. I think it should be an option for people to keep private the matters of who goes with them when they close their bedroom door, let alone what they do in there. Ain't nobody's business if I do -- or don't, for that matter.
2006-10-15 14:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have someone else around at the time if you are serious that she may attack you. I wish you the best of luck. I hope you don't live with her if there is a chance she may get mad and kick you out. Wish it wasn't such a big deal. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-15 14:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid she'll attack you have someone else in the room with you when you tell her. Hopefully your mom is in therapy, if she is then go to one of her appointments with her and tell her there, it'll be safer for you. Good Luck Sweetheart!
2006-10-15 14:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and watch the film "In and Out" with Kevin Kline and Tom Selleck.
2006-10-15 14:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Raff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she is your mother and good for you for wanting to come out but as you said yourself she's mentally instable so telling her is really not the smart thing to do. get your gf and be happy
2006-10-15 19:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a gf and don't tell ur mom. When ur mom questions it you can go about it like that
2006-10-15 14:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her when you have supportive friends around just in case she flips out....don't take chances on her physically harming you
2006-10-15 14:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lay down in bed with her n then confess
2006-10-15 14:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bawls 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋