i have a friend that he told me he likes me and he would like to be with me.My answer was that although i think he is a very good-looking man, i cannot have a romantic relationship with him because i consider him to be a very good friend of mine.I told him that we have a good time together as friends but that's all.After that,he stopped talking to me.Apart from being just friends,he studies in an area a long way from the place where i live....Please,i would like you to give me some advice what to do,if you can.I don't want to stop being friends......
2006-10-15 07:10:07 · 26 answers · asked by ANGEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may be embarrassed that you don't feel the same way. It sounds like you need to call him up and ask him for coffee or something and just sit and have a long talk and explain how you value his friendship way too much to lose him. But his ego may be way too bruised.
2006-10-15 07:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to reconsider your decision.
What's the deal? I know you knew that he had eyes for you, right? Good relationships start of as friends first. He's handsome and that's good he must have a good personality you befriended each other.
The only true question is whether or not he has any money?....you can't live on love alone, ya know? Do a self check. Think about it really what is it that you don't like? Make a list. If your list contains more good aspects than bad...whats the problem?
If you're simply scared to take the risk because of emotional fear...DON'T BE A CHICKEN!
We take risk everyday!
2006-10-15 07:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by californian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you want to be friends with him...but if he doesn't feel the same way it's rather a moot point...if you can contact him then discuss this with him...however if he simply won't speak to you, return your calls, emails or what-have-you then he's not ready to be friends...
His feelings got hurt when you rejected him...he may or may not have ever had the desire to be your friend, but being turned down hurts (esp by someone you know well)...he may just need time for his ego and feelings to heal and to get over his 'more than friendship' feelings toward you...
Let him know you still want to be friends...but give him space and if he feels the same, he'll let you know when he's ready...
2006-10-15 07:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from. I think that what you did was right! He may be upset for a while so give him space. I was once in your shoes but I chose to have a relationship instead of staying friends and it didnt work out. Now we never talk and I lost that person as a close friend forever.
2006-10-15 07:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by charles j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...... much as you value and enjoy his friendship ... he wants more...........and the fact that he told you his feelings to which you do not return or feel the same as he does....... and also the fact that he stopped talking to you should tell you that he is unable to just be your friend.
So............ if you do not have " romantic feelings " for him, leave him alone and in peace, so he can move on and find someone else.
You wanting and forcing friendship on him at this point is not fair to him or the feelings he has for you. He needs time to work it out of his system.......so give the guy a break, sweetie ... leave him alone.
2006-10-15 07:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few thoughts not in any specific order and rather contradictory, you are the only one who can decide what is best for you. Best of Luck!
I) If he can't just be friends, maybe he isn't such a good friend?
II) Communication is lacking between you, so talk or email about this!
III) There is such a thing as "friends with benefits" - not my thing but each one to their own.
IV) Distance is not a problem for very good friends!
2006-10-15 07:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Eve C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend has moved on, because he wants more than friendship. Apparently, it is too painful for him to be with you and know there can be nothing more.
Some of the best marriages started with a wonderful friendship. Are you sure that's all you want from him? If so, let him go and find someone who wants more than friendship.
2006-10-15 07:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your call. If you can be really ok with his interest and it will not bother you, then you could stay friends. I am sure he likes you and that should come out more as you stay friends. If he stops being interested,maybe he needs more from someone else. In that case, let it go if he can not adjust to the new status quo.
2006-10-15 07:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by shapsjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really don't want to have a sexual relationship with him, there isn't much you can do about the way "he" feels. He put it on the line and you rejected him....he has decided not to be around you any more. That's life and you're probably not going to be able to keep the friendship alive.
Sorry
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