sexual relations and the marriage.?

Question

IS it normal that after 4 years of marriage we have a sexua relations once a month. I dont know the reason but my husbat is allways tired. He is 43 and Im 30. I realy dont know what to do with that, lease help.

Answer 1

Try different things. Bring excitement into the relationship. Do not take each other for granted. Try to love him like you did 4 years ago. Become the sexy girl he liked then. Make passionate love - please him. Heighten his pleasures that he gasps for more and can't wait to have you every night!!! Good luck

Answer 2

I tend to think this is something you need to be discussing with him. Let him know how attracted you are to him, and that once a month doesn't meet your needs. If you're able to have the time with him, try getting him aroused first thing in the morning, when he can't claim he's tired. Guys seem to really like it when you wake them up in a sexual manner. Otherwise, if he's just using tired as an excuse, it might be time to consider couple's counselling, so that you can both work on getting your needs met. Definitely don't suffer in silence or start looking for attention outside the marriage, as that only leads to heartache on both sides.

Answer 3

Sexual relations are very important to keep a marriage going, both parties must be interested to fill their partners wishes and not making it a one way street..( I got satisfied, I am OK, and finish) It is not normal for a 43 years old man not to have sexual relations with a 30 year old.(his wife he is suppose to like)
You must call his attention and make him look at you and let him know that you are waiting for him..Dress nice, a red or black nightgown small and sexy is a flag to look at.
Putting this on after a nice warm bath and two drops of a nice per fum could do a Little trick..one naked leg of yours over his is exiting..kisses are great wherever...
Change some attitudes and brake patterns this is a must..
If this does not works, tell him that you love him, but because you love him you need his sex to calm your desires, let him talk about it..
If all this does not works at all, you will have to take him to Walmarts and ask a refund..Sorry..
good luck...

Answer 4

Try talking to him about it. Don't be condescending when you do or his defenses will go up and that will be the end of the conversation. Even after talking to him and it's still from being tired, ask him what you can do to help him. It might be something as simple as helping out with some things around the house. You need to explain to him that you enjoy sex with him and miss it. Also try to schedule a date night where there are no interruptions. This doesn't mean you have to go out, you can rend movies, cook a nice dinner and relax at home. You also need to be flexible, he might say he's willing before he goes to work so get up when he does, or it might be before dinner. You need to listen to what each other says and be willing to meet each other halfway.

Answer 5

to me, Normal is based on the desires of both people. I know people where 1x per month would be normal to them. I'm assuming you don't feel that way. If so, sit down and talk together. Come up with what can be normal for both of you.

FWIW, you might also try to change the time in which you choose to be intimate. Mornings (before everyone gets tired) can often be a better way (and makes for a really good day ;-) ).


Good Luck,

TBG

Answer 6

My husband and I are very similar in age to you two...yes, same problem. There is some sort of "guy" problem for mine but he won't talk about it or get help so I guess I live a sexless life from now on(lol) I would recommend asking him if that is the case...due to his age. I wish you luck as this sort of thing really creates distance in a marriage and really lowers your self esteem as well. It is a lonely place to be as most women have husbands that want it to often so it makes it very hard to share this problem and be able to seek help.

Answer 7

Talk to him about it. If there's a lot of stress in your lives or he's depressed about something, it will kill his sex drive like nothing else. Stress and depression really tire you out, too.

If it turns out to be depression, then you two can go see a doctor/therapist about it. Or, maybe even better, you two can just talk together about whatever is making him depressed on a daily basis and it'll both help him get it out and also bring you closer to each other. Work together to find solutions, not just focusing on the problems.

If it's not depression, then try to find out what it is. If you work together, I'm sure you'll figure it out.

Answer 8

sure. you recognize what you're doing is faulty interior the 1st place. for the reason that morals bargains with understanding top from incorrect..you would be morally incorrect to try this extraordinarily in case you have not any purpose of actual making transformations. undergo in innovations ' do unto others as you're able to opt for them to do unto you.' which in simple terms ability in case you anticipate somebody to maintain their be conscious on something you're able to desire to keep yours additionally. besides the reality that he's a forgiving God, he won't stand by utilising and be performed like a fool. subsequently as i see it, genuine forgiveness is accomplished the minute you start to make a metamorphosis far off from what you think of is undesirable/morally incorrect.

Answer 9

my husband is 43 and im 35 and we have sex every night . work on it because you have to make time you really do and i have 4 kids i clean the house all day plus do school activities .

Answer 10

You need to return to school.
No husband wants a dummy in the bedroom.
I hope you speak better than you have written this question.
Always check yourself 1st: for--attitude, hygiene and appearance Clean yourself up.