You see my boyfriend who I have been with for 5 years whom I love very much I suspect to have cheated on me. I have been in contact with this person after I found an email from her in his mailbox. She told me yesterday that she has slept with him and that it was real good, so I asked her to tell me something that I would only know...she answered back with he does not wear underwear, which is true...What do I do??? He has no idea that I know or at least I think so...
2006-10-15 06:52:35 · 43 answers · asked by Domie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
While he's asleep write an insulting message about this girl right up on the inside of his thigh with a felt tip pen.
If she comes round and slaps you, he's "up to no good" and should have his bits painted with wart remover for the next 3 night as he sleeps.
2006-10-15 07:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was an obvious problem in this relationship before you confirmed your suspicion about him cheating. Two people in a loving relationship are supposed to trust each other. Keep in mind he's not the only person who violated that trust. While I believe cheating is the more severe of the two violations, going through his mail electronic or other was a trust issue as well. Confront him with what you know and how you discovered his dirty little secret, but if you decided that the relationship is worth a second chance you both have some trust issues to work out.
2006-10-15 07:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys don't wear underwear so it may have just been a lucky guess. Does he have any identifying marks under his clothes that wouldn't normally be seen. If she can answer that one I'd be telling him straight out to pack up and vacate the premises or if it was his place I would vacate myself no explanations necessary after all he didn't ask you if it was OK to violate your relationship.Incidentally print off the emails before you approach him about it at least 2 copies one you can show and one you can keep when he tears up the first one if you have to legally separate any property and need it for the courts as evidence.
2006-10-15 06:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assume he knows! If the lady was telling you he's good in bed and wot he doesn't wear, then she'll tell him you've been in contact. It's not a good situation, I suspect you may have complicated it by contacting the other party. Take the high moral ground, don't be drawn into a fight with the other woman. Decide what you want, write it down then do it. If you get angry don't allow it to hurt you but use it to propel you to grow. You may love him very much but you need to love your self more!
2006-10-15 07:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you have stayed calm & collected I will never know but good for you so far because I would've charged at him like a bull to a flag ripping off anything I could grab a hold of!
Find out all the facts from this girl, where it happened , what time, when they met, when they left each other etc then you can have all the facts once you decide to confront your fella, which you're going to have to do! If he admits to it then you need to decide what to do, you can end the relationship but that's 5 yrs of your life thrown away on what may've been silly mistake or you can try & work things out, give him another chance. If you do give him another chance & he blows it please don't give him ANOTHER chance as that will just give him the green light to keep on doing it.
I'm so sorry for your hurt & I hope it turns out to be one big sick joke, good luck!
2006-10-15 07:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that to me was a pretty vague answer she gave to you, he could have just told her that he don't. but instead of asking this girl these questions you should be asking him. come out and tell him that you read his e-mail { that you had no right doing } and tell him that you have spoken with this girl and that she has admitted to you that him and her have slept together, and tell him now you want to hear it from him. now speaking from experience, if he gets mad and starts calling this girl names and saying she is lien and just trying to break you up, chances are that he did sleep with her and he is only mad because he got caught. but if he really seems puzzled by what you are telling him, i would go back to this girl and ask her something other than the fact they he does not wear underwear. but if he did cheat on you, then you need to say good bye to him you don't need him bringing you some kind of std's or worse.
2006-10-15 07:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out ALL the facts and act accordingly,if in fact he has cheated,you must BIN him,there is no other way because it WILL happen again.I take strong exception to JUDY GIRL'S comment about ALL MEN CHEAT-again it is the "tarring brush" syndrome by someone with the mentality of a spoon and obvious previous relationship problems concerning her and the louses she picks.Get your facts straight before you go stereotyping bint,not all men are the same-indeed,you have not met ALL men,therefore you are not qualified in any way to make such a comment.
2006-10-17 22:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is confront him about it. Then there are trust issues ... do you trust a stranger who may or may not be attempting to provoke you by going about what a stud your fella is in the scratcher, or do you trust your boyfriend? You could also ask about birthmarks in secret places, if he has any ...
The thing is, I think you may be playing into the hands of some girl who has not actually slept with your chap, but wants you to think she has, so that you dump him ... so she can get all sympathetic and supportive ... you get the picture.
Learn to be devious. But first of all figure out who it is you can really trust.
2006-10-15 07:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE JUST SEPARATED FROM MY PARTNER. he tried to sting me but I had my head screwed on.
firstly.
Get anything of value put into your name, i.e mortgage if you can afford it or at least joint mortgage as joint mortgagees. Find information that you can prove you bought things ie sofas cookers etc.
Then kick the cheating sod out on his ear with nothing. If the house is in your sole name he is not entitled to the equity and if you get your name put on it you are entitled to 50% if you have paid half.
This is calculating and I have only come away with these things becasue i used my head for the last 7 years, but that didnt stop him trying to get everything in his name for the last YEAR to try to sting me.
In a space of a week I have learned a tough lesson and had to toughen up in the mean time but you will feel very satisfied at the end of the whole debacle.
Good luck
2006-10-15 07:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i nearly read my bf's email today and reading your question has made me glad that I changed my mind. you need to ask him about this and get it out in the open. what ever happens you'll be ok and you don't need a cheat. I don't think my bf cheats but i just don't know how he feels about me and he gets pestered by an ex but i think it's a bad idea to check anyone's text or email unless you are prepared to act on what you find out. you already knew something was wrong with the relationship so you need to work out why you are staying with him..it isn't love
2006-10-15 07:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋