iM 14 YEARS OLD..ABOUT 3 OR 4 MONTHS AGO THERE WAS SOME GUY WHO WANTED TO BE WiTH ME BUT i DiDNT CAUSE i WAS SCARED TO HAVE SEXXX..HE ENDED UP PUTTiNG SOMETHiNG iN MY DRiNK WHiCH i WAS COMPLETELY UNAWARE OF AND NOW i AM 17 WEEKS PREGNANT..iM SOOO SCARED AND i DONT PLAN ON GETTiNG AN ABORTiON CAUSE iM TOO LATE iN THE PREGNANCY..i FiLED CHARGES AGAiNST THE DAD AND HiS HEARiNG STARTS ON WEDNESDAY..HES PROBABLY GOiNG TO BE GOiNG TO JAiL FOR A MiNiMUM OF 8 OR 9 YEARS..i KNOW i WONT BE ABLE TO DO ADOPTiON BECAUSE ONCE i HOLD THE BABY iLL BE SUCKED iN..MY MOM AND FAMiLY ARE VERY UNDERSTANDiNG BOUT THE SiTUATiON AND NOT CRiTiCAL CAUSE OF WHAT HAPPENED..i DONT CRiTiCiSM CAUSE iVE BEEN THROUGH ENOUGH..SHOULD i TESTiFY AGAiNST THE DAD..iF i DO THEN HELL GET LONGER..THANKS.
2006-10-15 06:33:39 · 21 answers · asked by JESSiCA 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Be brave and take advantage of having a mom and family who are supportive of you. What this guy did to you deserves a long jail sentence. You wouldn't want him to do the same thing to another girl. Yes, you should testify against him. It will be hard, but it is the right thing to do. Please reconsider adoption as a choice. Your baby deserves the very best he/she can have. You are so young and unprepared to be a mom. There are wonderful "open" adoptions and you, as the baby's birth mom get to choose the adoptive parents for the baby. In addition, you can get letters and pictures so you know how the baby is doing. My best friend's daughter had an unplanned pregnancy when she was 17. She very nobly chose adoption for her little guy. He is so happy, loved, and well-cared for. My friend, who is the baby's biological grandma, is so relieved that he is living and growing up in a home that is so stable, financially secure with parents who love him so much. Think of your baby's future as well as your own. Giving a baby up for adoption is hard, but is a good choice for many young single moms.
2006-10-15 06:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are scared! And Yes, there is no doubt that you should testify against him. Before you decide to keep the baby or giving him/her for adoption, you should consider throughly what is the better and more selfless and loving thing to do for him/her. There are a lot of consequences that you need to consider and it is not a decision that you should make overnight or based mainly on feelings and emotions. Don't forget that you are deciding on the future of you both. You would profit very much from counseling. May God bless you and give you wisdom and strength.
2006-10-15 07:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to hear about what happened to you. You should testify against him. You're only 14 and going to have a baby. You're not even through high school yet. Imagine trying to finish high school, go to college and maintain your sanity with a baby and the memory of what happened. I was a mom at 18 and that was tough. I moved out of my mom's house, got an appt, went to college and took care of my son (with my boyfriend at the time now husband). Things have a way of working out though so keep your chin up. it's scary when you're going through it but it will get better. I'm 22 now married with a home, a four year degree, a wonderful four year old son and another baby on the way. I woked my @$$ off but I got through it. At least you have the support of your family. I couldn't imagine if I didn't have my family's support. Hang in there and keep your chin up. Try not to worry so much and try to get through it with friends and family near by.
2006-10-15 06:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh definatley testify baby...you are too young to be a mother i got pregnant when i was 15 but i soooo do not regret it my children are my whole world to me...if he did it too you he will do it to someone else prevent that girl...i hope you do the right thing...you will see how it feels to be a mom when you see your baby on the ultrasound...and feel it moving inside of you...Testify if you dont it will happen again only to someone else...if you do decide to put it up for adoption...let people know that way they can help you decide what to do...but i tell you once you see it and hold it you will never want to let it go...hope this helps..
2006-10-15 06:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mean to say you are fourteen years of age and you're running around having drinks with "some guy"? You mean to say you actually knew he just wanted sex from you, and you still hung around...? Well, sounds to me like if you hadn't been there, enjoying your drink with "some guy", you wouldn't be pregnant now.
I think this guy should be incarcerated for as long as he lives, he should die behind bars, away from any and all other young women out there, and that is the sole reason why you should testify, to keep him away from other women for as long as possible if not forever. However, you must also face up to the fact that your irresponsible actions had a lot to do with what "happened" to you.
2006-10-15 06:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey you really do need to do this. Because you dont know how many other girls he's done this too. And you definately dont want him around you anymore and you dont need him to be around when the babys born either. You will be fine on your own w/ the help of family. You have to testify against him thats the only way that it wont happen to you again and it wont happen to others people.
2006-10-15 06:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should testify against him. Put him in jail forever. He will do this again and again to young girls. Get as much help as you can. Let your family help. The more help you have and the more people who love that baby the better off the baby will be. Please take into consideration of the baby. Do what is best. Remember there are many people out there who can't have babies. Please think this through.
2006-10-15 06:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by angelica 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes you need to testify against him. What he did to you is rape and he needs to pay for it. Because if you don't whats to stop him from doing the same as he did to you to someone else. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm glad your family supports you and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-15 07:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am afraid of thunder and lightning, but I am OK with them on my sound machine but not the real live ones. I am afraid of thunder nowadays its because I had a nightmare about ghost rider a couple years ago. I hate it when thunder storms start at nighttime, I'm worried they're going to knock out the power and stuff.
2016-05-22 04:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Defiantly testify against him. Let him rot in jail. He deserves worst.
2006-10-15 06:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by hp one 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋