i m tired of my life?

Question

i m tired of my empty life...... nothing to look froward to .... a husband who's is away and never tried understanding me.... i feel the most lonely and depressed whn i m with my husband... he is too sweet and sensitive to open my heart out .... i hve nothing to look forward too in my life my
life is a big zero.... i hope i get a friend ,a mentor,before i lose it....

Answer 1

I found the real meaning of life when I started giving to others. I too, used to feel as you do. I started looking around and realizing how much suffering in the world there is, and that there were things I could do to help. Every time I gave, I was forced to look beyond myself. I started feeling better and better. Pretty soon, my life was full of joy knowing that I had helped another human being and their lives were better because of some small act of kindness I did. Here is what you do, start visiting old age homes and volunteering your time. Go to the soup kitchens and help out. Help people who cannot pay you back. You will feel the smile of God shine down on you, and your life will never be the same.

Answer 2

Hi, sometimes the idea of an empty life falls upon everyone's head. Yes you feel bad, useless and everything going down the drain. However this period of time works upon our will-power and fail to carry on, loose all the good work and forget all about our capabilities. Your thoughts, husband and all the bad feelings should not ruin your life, because finally it is YOUR life and nobody else is living it for you.

So I strongly suggest that you pull up your socks and start thinking positively again, bring some cololur into your life and kick off ahead. Stick to your goals and re-find your friends. I am sure you have a lot of talents which you can share with others.

If you need support I am here to give it to you. E-mail me on [e-mail] We will discuss things further.

In the meantime, good luck

Answer 3

I think volunteering at a homeless shelter or a food bank would maybe help you see life from a different perspective. If all you are doing is sitting at home by yourself and moping in front of the television then shame on you. Help out others, take classes to work your brain, join a gym. You really truly have only one life don't waste it on poor me. Everyone and that is everyone gets depressed once in a while and only they can get themselves out of their funk. Sometimes it takes a professional but most times it just takes us to do it. Your life can only be empty if you choose for it to be that way.
I am 51 I have had to Pull up my bootstraps many times in my life (dad's old saying) and get on with living.

Answer 4

It seems you think that you are missing out on a lot of the things life has to offer - but you also are afraid to try anything new. You are afraid to hurt your husband.
Well - this fear you have to change anything is your biggest enemy, you need to learn to deal with it. Otherwise you will be stuck in your world forever. Your husband will be hurt even more if you are losing it.
So - you really need to find new people, friends, contacts outside. You also need to find out for yoruself what you want in life, what things are you missing. Perhaps you could write up a list for yourself. Like I want to travel the world, I want to go out dancing, I want to play in a theater group....whatever...write it all up.

And then...chose one...one of the things you would love to do....and - why not ask your husband whether he wants to join you in this new exploration.
You know - your hubby may be as bored and lost as you are and he does not want to talk with you bwecause he is aferaid to hurt you.

In a maariage and every relationship it is very important to involve your partner in your life, that means also in what you feel and what you do or want to do.

In worst case things turn out really really bad, you hubby starts crying and things do not work the way you want. But then....don't forget - this is your life, you ahve only this one here right now on earth. So handle it with care. Don't be afraid and if you have to go through conflicts with your environment then deal with it. If it means that you find out you and your hubby are a total mismatch (I don't think so though) then you have to draw the line and separate.

So - turn around now and get active, open your horizon and penetrate your fear.

Answer 5

Keep sitting there feeling sorry for yourself and literally thousands of possible friends will call knocking on your door. Like hell they will. Get up off your backside and get out and meet people. Go to Weight Watchers or something similar and meet other women. Some of them are most likely in the exact same position as you. So, come on now, cheer up and make up your mind what you want to be - a happy, lively get-up-and-get-em girl, or just a plain old cabbage...............

Answer 6

You need to get a hobby and meet people with the same interest and have a good time doing it. Alot of people say helping others gives them a sense of self worth, I do feel good when I help someone who needs it. You will be in the same rutt until you get off your duff and do something about it. Good luck.

Answer 7

Do something about it! Get out there and start making friends.. and talk to your husband. I mean I know it may be like talking to a wall..... But geeze! You have to do something to save yourself. Spice up the bedroom life? Have you tryed that? You need to start feeling sexy, have you thought about kids? Do you have any? If you do then foce on them and raising them.. If you havent and you want kids... Maybe is the time to give it a try! Get a job... or get a better one. Go shopping! Give yourself a makeover.

Answer 8

Join a 12 step program.

Answer 9

If you don't like your life then change it. Go back to school, get new friends, take up new hobbies, join clubs, even leave your husband if you're so unhappy.

It's not that hard. Just change your life.

Answer 10

Get out of the house and go talk to somebody NOW! .....a friend, a parent....but somebody! There is a better life than what you have now....all you need to do is pursue it! Best of luck to you!