why do some people get romantically involved with the same sex? physically, a man/woman has everything that any man/woman has, so why? what kind of attraction is there?
2006-10-15 05:55:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i am trying to make some sense out of it all, and no, i don't have a plan in trying to be a homo, thank you.
2006-10-15 06:05:35 · update #1
from your question,you obviously are not gay.you cannot possibly understand unless you are gay,I'm not being rude,but that's really the only way to understand.
2006-10-15 05:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by jen 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you can't understand it, there may be no way to explain it. For some, the "opposites attract" of heterosexuality just does not work. They may have been turned off of the opposite sex, or they may never have turned onto them in the first place. They got comfortable with their own gender when they were young, in locker rooms and the like, and made friends back when there was no sexual implications to it. Once they started to feel sexual attraction, they found it was for the people they already knew, the people who were enough like themselves to perhaps be a bit of a narcissism thing.
There are many reasons. But you specifically started with "romantically," and then talked about how everyone has the same thing, which is presumably about genitalia. That's not romance, that's plain old lust. Romance is what you do when you are not in bed; or at the very least, includes all those things about companionship, camaraderie, enjoying being together, which do not have to do with sexuality directly.
May I point out that saying you do not swing that way yourself is very different from saying you just do not understand it. It is not necessary to declare that you do not understand in order to "prove" that you are yourself heterosexual. People will believe you.
2006-10-15 06:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe men do not know how to make a woman feel good and visa versa, different strokes for different folks, I have never been with a man that made me feel good, they were usually in the wrong area. So to each their own, I like my women, no offense. Unless you are going to try it why are you worried about what makes others feel good? Does not make much sense to me.
Don't ask a stupid question and end it by saying you don't plan to be a homo, that in itself is saying you are narrow minded and hateful, full of deceit and anger. Go to another site if you are going to post angry hateful and troll like questions.
2006-10-15 06:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We are trying to find something in ourselves. The BALANCE
between the two aspects of the Lifeforce, we understand as the Masculine and the Feminine.
Many are trying to do this externally. Dressing up, acting out, and through sexual experimentation. But it needs to be
done within. By how we treat one another.
The Serenity prayer is a good affirmation for finding this
balance.
As you know though. Humans are very complicated creatures.
There ain't no typical nobody. As there are masculine women.
(not necessarily meaning lesbian), and feminine men,
(not necessarily meaning gay).
2006-10-15 06:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by Medicine Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're no different than you. You have an attraction to men and I don't. You don't have an attraction to women and I do. It's preference. I've never enjoyed sex with a man, I never got anything out of it. They are intimidating to me and control freaks. They can't keep their main brain zipped inside their pants...I just have so sexual attraction to men as you don't to women.
2006-10-15 09:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like the "chemistry" is there for you when you're with a man, so it is for lesbians when they're with the right woman, and so on. Just like you feel no "chemistry" or sexual attrition to a woman, a gay man feels the same about women. It is nature, pure and simple. For "romance" to happen there has to be chemistry first.
2006-10-15 06:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If some power told you that you must find females attractive the same as you do males, could you?
I suspect the answer is no.
It’s the same for homosexuals, just in reverse.
2006-10-15 06:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Mackey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same attraction that heterosexuals have, but for those who are homosexuals.
It's really not that complicated.
It's just part of who we are. Just as being heterosexual is part of who you are.
There's no rhyme or reason, it just is.
As far as "hellcat"s responce, ignore the idiots.
What she fails to see, and so many others fail to see, is that it IS NORMAL for US.
No, it's not "normal" for a heterosexual to have sexual relations with someone of the same gender, but that's not what's going on here.
It IS normal for homosexuals to be attracted to other homosexuals of the same gender. That's what being homosexual is!
2006-10-15 05:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
We are attracted to the same-sex instead of the opposite sex. Are desires, sexual fantansies and urges are for the same sex instead of the opposite sex.
2006-10-15 06:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' I think you already know from self experience and are just trying to get points or start a ruckus....move on to something else
2006-10-15 06:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by West Virginia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's the hormones I guess... as it is said, when there's a perfect chemistry between 2 people, it's normal they get involved romantically... gay guys are attracted to guys and lesbians are attracted to girls, the same way str8 guys are attracted to girls and str8 girls attracted to guys...
2006-10-15 06:16:13 · answer #11 · answered by Gilno E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋