my boyfriend lives with me, n has done since january 2006, i love him alot but.... he has gone out with the lads alot and enjoys a laugh and drinkin wich i dont mind, there has been ten occasions (yes i have counted) wer he has not come home not rang, not attempted to txt or ring me, he has stayed out he has either been "nicked", "gone to a party" "gone to the pleasure rooms liverpool" . he is a big flirt but says that he would never cheat on me and ther is only me he ever wants..he does things that make me think he is lying. i dont want to accuse him coz thats wer we will split up! :( SHUD I BELIEVE HIM??
2006-10-15 05:40:14 · 25 answers · asked by vicky_js23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should belive him until you have evidence to say otherwise.
If you expect him to phone or text you when he's out with friends then i'm not surprised you don't hear from him.
However, if you live together then that's a completely diffrent thing, in that there you should expect he tells you where he is as you would to him.
I think it's unreasonable if you live with someone to just dissapear, living together is a sgn of commitment.
If you do share a house, tell him your not willing to except him not coming home, lay down rules, a reasonable time to be home say 3am at very latest for example.
Another way is tell him that if he is going to stay out then so are you and go to a friends for a night without telling him, see how he feels.
2006-10-15 05:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds suspicious doesn't it. The trouble is flirts sooner or later get tempted to take things further given an opportunity. You can do the CSI thing and quietly check his clothing, mobile phone etc. Also confront him and ask him how you are supposed to know where he is and what he is up to. Ask him if he is happy if you do the same and stay out all night with a similar explanation?
2006-10-15 05:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what a "pleasure room" is, but this guy doesn't sound like someone you want to be involved with for the long term. You can do a lot better. Move on to someone else.
2006-10-15 05:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by mike_answ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes using u and all the time u say nothing hel keep doing it.
hes got every thing he wants. His mates, the pub, probably girls, and u the doormat waiting for him when he eventually decides to come home. If u realy r the only one he wants why does he leave u at home when he wants to enjoy him self.
2006-10-15 06:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Bubu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he's taking the p1ss out of you! 1 golden rule in life that I live by is...You only get treated by people how you allow to be treated by them...you dont have to have it!!
Just make it your golden rule..never to be treated like sh1t by anyone. I have lost beautiful girlfriends because I wouldn't bow down and be mistreated by them and all my mates thought I was mad but I have my pride. I would much, much rather be alone than be treated like a tw&t !
2006-10-15 05:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by returnofkarlos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is cheating then he is... A woman's intuition is something that men will never understand. I am saying this from personal experience. This is a tool that you must use to your advantage and run while you can. Trust me I've been through this.
2006-10-15 05:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by karessakincaid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him sweetie, sounds like something is not quite right.
At the end of the day, if he is cheating on you then you are best off without him and meet someone special that you deserve.
All the best.x
2006-10-15 05:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe him babes, if he has made the commitment with ya , then stay calm! he could just be smoking a reefer round his mates till the sun comes up.If u really cant trust him anymore, then it has to be crunch time , better u know now .Good luck babes!X X X
2006-10-15 06:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by stew j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does not even tell you where he is going (does he have a cell phone he will answer?) then he is NOT respecting you and your relationship
My advice NOW -- and I know this will hurt and you will hear a lot of stuff from him - LEAVE NOW - he is going to promise you a lot of things - as he has a nice place to crash now - with "added benefits"
he is using you - get out
2006-10-15 05:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just using you, and if your sat here asking this question you know it too !, tell him this is not the relationship you want, and if he don't change you will end it.
2006-10-15 06:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋