Teenage Pregnancy?

Question

I think it's getting out of control.
Youngest girl I've heard of having a baby is 11.
That just sickens me.
Menstrual Cycles shouldn't start until the girl is 20.
Kids having kids.

Your thoughts?

And they actually think that they can just dump the child on the parents and go on their merry way.
That makes just makes it even worse.
This mainly is going to the ones who didn't think they weren't going to get pregnant, thinking they were good to make the dude wear a condom.
It isn't that hard to make a dude wear one.

Oh this totally excuses the ones who are raped and/or sexually abused.

Answer 1

Ok well I had my son when I was 18. My boyfriend (now husband) and I used condoms and I was on and off birth control because of other problems. All it took was one condom to break and I got pregnant. Well, I moved out of my house, got an appt, went to school, worked and took care of my son (well, we both did). I know that a lot of teens are stupid and careless and don't think it can happen to them but that doesn't mean that it's ALL teen parents. I feel that I'm a better parent then some people in their 30's having children. I'm married with a four year degree, a four year old, a home and happy. I didn't dump my son on my parents or have them raise him. They watched him on occasion but he went to daycare of my husband and I made schedules opposite eachother so one of us could be with my son.

Not only that but the teenage pregnancy rate has gone down I believe.

I do believe that a lot of teens are just stupid like I said. What I hate is when you see someone who is 15 and having their third baby. I can see one accident if that but to have them over and over--well, that's ridiculous.

Yes, I was a teenage mother but I only had that one accident. I managed to stay pregnant free for almost 4 years (Im currently pregnant with my second which was planned).

But not all teen parents are bad or stupid or irresponsible. It just sucks that the ones who are truly great parents have to get a bad rap from careless, immature, selfish teen parents.

Answer 2

Unfortunately there is no magic switch, so there's nothing you can do to change when a girl begins her menstrual cycle.

Hmmmmm.....for some reason I think that a lot of people have a problem with a teenager getting pregnant, but fewere people have a problem with her having sex in the first place. That's the real problem. So.....if a girl doesn't start her cycle until she's 18, it's ok for her to have sex when she's 14 because she won't get pregnant?

I think part of the problem is poor parenting...parents are too busy or have too many "other problems" or too many other kids...parents just don't know what's going on in their kids lives. The other thing is that we live ina society where sex is everywhere, but the consequences of sex are not displayed in movies, music videos, tv shows, porn etc. I am glad that I am not growing up as a teenager in today's society. And, no, I'm not blaming society for the teenage pregnancy/sex problem....or maybe I am.

Answer 3

Well, there is nothing that can be done to hold off when the menstrual cycle starts.
Any child that is not watched or nurtured is going to find things to do (experiment). Parents have to be more involved. Of course, some parents are too controlling and may end up pushing the child away (which could end up having the same result). The parents should better educate their children about sex, etc.

Answer 4

I think that at 11-14 is pretty sad, and just wrong. I feel sorry for these girls as they truly must have had a hard life, or definatly felt neglected for some reason or another, however, 15 and up, a little more understandable. Not every teenage mother is 'trying' to get pregnant, and some, are in long term relationships, and being careful. That said, I don't think in todays society that young teen are taught enough about sex, relationships and what goes along with it. They get the sexual education version of it, but times have changed, and the older generation needs to stop looking at discussions about it as a faux paus, and relise that it is out there more and more, no mater how much you try to protect your child. Because it is out there, kids are talking about it, hearing about it, and kids get curious. We need to educate our chirldren younger, about what sex is and the reprocusions of it, and teach them about what its should be.

Answer 5

ummm..I was a mom of 2 by the time I was 20. I had my first 4 months after I turned 18 and had my second 4 months after I turned 19. i haven't lived with my parents from the time I finished my junior year of high school. My kids are NOT dumped on my parents or my fiance's parents other than the 40 hours a week my mother in law watches them while I work. Did I also mention that I pay her to watch them. I finished high school with a 4.0. I'm not and have never been on welfare. You really shouldn't generalize.

Did I also mention that I wasn't "trying" to get pregnant? I was on ortho evra (the patch) with my first child and the nuva ring with my second. I was also a virgin until I was 17. I'm still with the same man 4 years later.

Answer 6

Well, I have seen a 9 year old pregnant. I work in a hospital. Some girls start that early and that is life. I think teen-agers should be wary of having children. They need more life experience. However, I was in my thirties when I had my children. Twenty somethings should have the children and be married. Parental guidance is very necessary

Answer 7

Oh God, I can't stand it when they say we don't understand. We shouldn't HAVE to understand because we made SMARTER choices than you! I know that sounds really snotty, but I don't care. I WAITED to have children so that I could provide a suitable life for them, not just the best I could offer at that time. A homeless guy in a cardboard box could offer a child his best, but his best isn't going to be THE best for the child. Having sex as a teenager is a SELFISH and CARELESS act. Just because you have a beautiful baby to show for it doesn't mean you didn't make really stupid choices. It's great when things work out- but they could work out even better had you waited and planned something as HUGE as bringing a child into the world. LIFE should not be taken so carelessly.

Answer 8

I don't think we can turn our backs on these young people. It's up to the adults to educate children in such a way to prevent this from happening. But once it has happened, the only solution is to support them emotionally and financially. They are, after all, still children! If we would all find some way to mentor the youth of our society, we could really make a difference.

Answer 9

I had my daughter when I was almost 16. My mother didn't tell me anything about sex. She didn't really care. She wasn't involved. So girls like me goes out and experiment. The lack of parental involvement is the problem. Some of us don't have daddy at home to say that we are beautiful so we find that elsewhere. We don't have mommy telling us about birth control or the guys we should watch out for or the things they will say to make us have sex with them so we sometimes get caught up. It all starts with the parents and role models.

Answer 10

i think you should be quite! you don't know what your talking about. have you ever been sexually abused or raped. you ever been raped and not had the money to pay for an abortion? a study has been done that 80% of teenage girls having a kid was raped or abused. the reason why they have sexual relations is because they re parents are like you! you don't know what its like when you get home from having your dignity raped out of you and the only thing you can turn to is what you like is going to make you feel better. unfortunately that's sex. your gonna convince them to go to a councilor????? didn't think so!!!!


you older people dont know what you talking about... piont bank i am 17 and it just so happens im VERY happy to be parent to be!!
at least i know whats good with teenagers. you even look at the culture?? i bet you guys wernt perfect at our age either. people and hollywood pemote SEX! you guys ever even talked to a teenager these days?? NO!!