lets say you save a girl from suiside, she has no friends and her parants dont love her.
you take the best of care of her.
and you listen to what she hase to say and give your best.
then one day she leaves you and now you dont have eney friends becuse you put all your time into her.
what would you do?
2006-10-15 04:41:07 · 20 answers · asked by cyclon613 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess start over with the knowledge that you saved a life and made it better.
2006-10-15 04:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by rimples25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were the stepping stone she needed to get back on track and now she doesn't feel she needs you anymore, and wants to move on with her life. It sounds like you chose to invest all your energy in caring for her which isn't always healthy for a relationship as once the needy partner feels better they can feel sufficated by the partner who is caring for them, although obviously that wouldn't have been your intention. She no longer needs you and has moved on, so if I was you I would take the very good opportunity to do the same, and make some new mates and concentrate on you. If another love interest comes along focus on being an equal partner rather than their protector, and things will be more likely to work out long term.
2006-10-15 05:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't feel upset...you have to understand that she's not your girlfriend or anything...this should be a lesson for you not to forget your friends for anyone...sometimes even if you have a girlfriend...you shouldn't neglect your friends! No doubt that a lover is important but when they leave you...your friends are the one you will back you up! Plus, this girl isn't your gf...she's just someone you help out of pity...so forget and forgive and move on...and she might have other issues perhaps...so just let her know if she cherish the friendship you are there but if she's using you then she's not worth your time thinking about, therefore move on get new friends...I'm sure you will find true friends one day...be strong you are a nice person..God bless you!
2006-10-15 05:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Shining StaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a friend like you 6 years ago when I could have used one. What you did was the most tremendous thing a person could do for another human being. I am so proud,..but with her she has got issues obveously and you need to accept that because it is really all you can do as of right now. I would do what I just said.
cheers darlin
2006-10-15 04:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you put all your time and efforts into helping this girl and pushed everyone else out of your life in order to give her all your attention! First of all; we all learn from our mistakes, NOT saying that what you did was a mistake, because the girl did need someone to lean on through it all, but, there was other places you could of referred her to, such as suicide hot lines and even your local hospital would of helped you get her the help she needed! Try going back to the friends you once had; explain that it wasn't what you intended to do "to push them away" that you didn't know any other way to handle the situation and ask if they will forgive the absence of friendship! Good luck!
2006-10-15 04:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends always come back. You need to work your way back and yes you will. Try to not dwell on your loss and not to bring it up around your group of friends so they don't think you are whining!!
I am a parent and parents may not always listen and act on their best behavior but they do love their children.I am thinking that her parents are having a hard time to relate and understand her and that they may need some counselling.
Back to you ...go back to hanging with your friends and they will come around, even when you are in a relationship that is loving and fun never give up your friends you can have both!!
~Love & Light to you ~
~Smile~
2006-10-15 15:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel sad, write a sad note to the Yahoo Answer Gods - and MOVE ON! If the loss is so unbearable and you can't make friends - then it's time for a therapist - group or individual.
2006-10-15 04:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read a book called 'who moved the cheese?' only takes an hour, decide which character you are and move on. find friends, be glad you saved another humans life, surly nothing is much more rewarding than that?
2006-10-15 04:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God that he allowed me to help this girl get her life back , and then look for more opportunities to help others & this time be sure not to give up all the friends he sends my way for her sake .
2006-10-15 04:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...I've been through that before...You be yourself...go out...to parties...school...and you talk to new people...You did the best thing for the girl but you should have included her in your daily life...But in your case you didn't so just be yourself and go find new friends! Trust me I did!
2006-10-15 04:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋