There is someone whom I have known for 6 years.I love him very much and he loves me (or so he says). Im 18 yrs. old and he's 19! Whenever i tell him i love him tho, he just shrugs or doesn't say anything. We wanted to get married and have kids (of course later on in life) Recently, he's decided to love someone else and not tell me about it! Yet all the while he says he loves me and i beleive him! He says he loves me more than anything and that we will always be an 'us'... Should i continue to believe him or let it drop? Is it foolish of me to love him even tho he is seeing someone else? R there any sincere guys out there who loves females for who they r or do u like to play with our emotions until we can't take it?
2006-10-15 04:32:14 · 14 answers · asked by hot_mama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave him alone, there are other guy's out there dieing to go out with you, Your just so wrapped up with this one you haven't noticed them. So what are you waiting on get out there. Good luck.
2006-10-15 04:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, you never decide to fall in love, it happens. Second, you've known this man for 6 years and if nothing happened during or throughout this time, the love he has for you may be that of a sibling, perhaps he doesn't see you as someone other than a friend or sister...but talking about marriage and children and always being an "us", that has to stop. Tell him. Maybe he has to learn...maybe you should stop all contact with him. You're young and you will meet someone who loves you for real...and who will want to marry you and have a family with you, for real. I am completely sincere and I am deeply in love with my GF for who she is, who she was and for the woman that she will be. I do love her unconditionally just as someone will love you.
2006-10-15 04:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know this is unfortunate. The chap may actually love you just as he says and cannot help himself. This is not a defense it is just to say that this type of conduct may continue even if you got married. The dishonesty is the question and you are going to have to confront him about it. You are not married but he should be up front with you or you should reconsider whether you want to continue your relationship. Make him decide now.
2006-10-15 04:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, I won't get into who plays with who's emotions here. But I think you need to look at the signs here hun. He shrugs or says nothing when you tell him you love him. When he may be telling you he loves you...as a friend even if he doesn't say that. This way he doesn't have to commit to FALLING in love with you. Does this make sense?
2006-10-15 04:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick his *** to the curb, he's leading you on...specially if he's loving somebody else. And NO we don't all play with emotions, lots of people do it unfortunately on both sides of the sexes, but there are sincere folk out there (such as myself :p, but i'm taken.) so find somebody worth your time, let it go, shoo him away, cause he's 19, and he's on the "i need to find who fulfills me the most" stage, or the "gotta get as much booty as i can before i settle down" stage, and he probably has you as the girl to settle down with, but he still needs possibly those 2 factors, which is why he uses the L word, to keep you around until that time that he's ready. So let the fool go, and look for somebody that isn't gonna go through that dumbass stage, and is somebody more stable and secure with his life/lovelife.
2006-10-15 04:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you know the answer you are too afraid of the pain it will cause. Break away, And date and enjoy your life now while you have the chance or you will never learn. There is so much more to life than being in a relationship. Being single, you have so much out there that you can do. Being a couple tends to keep you from too many good chances to explore the world and yourself. Too many opportunities out there for you to pass up. Enjoy being young please, I've always been hooked up, I'm 39.
2006-10-15 04:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are plenty of guys out there that love girls for who they are, but I wonder if this guy in question is one of them. It sounds to me like he is stringing you along, and if he cared for you in any way (even as just a friend) he would be honest with you. It sounds like he's being selfish, and my advise to you is that you should do the same. Stop thinking about him and start thinking about yourself. Don't let him make you his backup plan. Go out and explore, find other guys. You're only 18 and there's plenty of time and plenty of other good guys out there. The truth is that you're both young, and if you're truly meant to be with this guy it's more likely that it will happen when you have both grown and matured a bit.
2006-10-15 04:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of guys will tell you what you want to hear, just to get some from you, and will keep doing so for as long as you let them. l would say it's time to move on and find someone who means what they say.
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-15 04:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately us guys are lead by our peters. Yes he could love you but been lead astray by another woman and the chance to score. He needs to learn to pass up temptation. But the problem is when were hard it seems all reason leaves us. I am sorry and even for myself I wish it wasn't that way. Give him another chance if you want ,but dont marry till you know he can be good.
2006-10-15 04:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is love: to fly toward a secret sky,
to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment.
First, to let go of live.
In the end, to take a step without feet;
to regard this world as invisible,
and to disregard what appears to be the self.
2006-10-15 04:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by raj the secret 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He may be sincere when he says I love you, but being IN LOVE with you might be a different story. There's a difference ya know.
2006-10-15 04:39:13 · answer #11 · answered by kcgsister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋