cheating spouce?

Question

i think my spouce is cheating, can anyone tell me a good way to find out

Answer 1

Until the spouse is caught red-handed you can not say for sure if he/she is cheating you. It can be only an imagination for you. So what you can do now is to stop visualising things and ask him/her direct and get an answer, and if the answer is NO stop the matter then and there. If it is YES, try to findout where you have faulted. Set it right and lead a good family life by giving your spouse one more chance to correct.

Answer 2

This is so stupid! You should never ask a spouse if they are cheating. It's very rare that they will confess and be like, "yes". Think about it. If the guilt of cheating was eating them inside they would have confessed already. The best way to find out if they are cheating is to snoop. Don't over analyze everything but there are certain things that can't be explained away, get actual concrear evidence until you have that you really have no way of knowing if you are with a cheater or not.

Answer 3

Billy,
If you think your spouse is cheating you need to follow your instinct. You can be direct and ask,,,or you can start snooping around for clues. The fact that you suspect something tells me there's trouble in the relationship. If I were you, I'd sit down and have a good honest talk with myself and come to terms with what is up in your relationship...what issues are you in disagreement with, if you are arguing what are you fighting about ? Has there been a past event that has started to corrode your trust ? once trust, ( in any intimate relationship ) is damaged the after effects are often, suspicion, & mistrust, because of fear that there will be more pain to come... short of hiring a detective to catch your spouse in the act...it's best to dig yourself. Confront your spouse and don't let up until you feel that the truth has been exposed....it may take a while but once the truth is on the table you'll either be closer asa couple or begin to end the realtionship by acknowleding you are seperating with both of you on the same page. If your spouse has been cheating it does NOT mean YOU ARE TO BLAME,,,it means they are not the person you thought they were....

Answer 4

Ok, I've never had this experience before, but I've seen enough tv to sort of tell. If she seems to be nervous around you or just plain avoid you that may be a clue. Also going out late after work, or disappearing to an unknown friends house all the time and (I know this is really bad) try to check messages on her cell, to see if there are guys calling alot. If all of these happen to come up there are spouse detectives to find out if she's cheating.

Answer 5

There are many tell-tell signs. Working longer hours, unexplained absences, meeting up with the 'girls' or visiting a 'sick friend' too often, new grooming habits, unexplained phone calls. Ever receive any of those 'Oops wrong number calls?' Has she bought any new underwear, lingerie? New perfume? Is she wearing it more often? Does or has she ever smelled like another man (cologne)? Hickeys or back scratches? Has the sex life dwindled? Any email accounts that you don't have the passwords for? Ever check her call list on the cell phone? How about that cell phone bill. Internet usage, chat rooms etc...
A neat program to use is Spector. Usually there is ALWAYS a paper trail. Any unexplained ATM withdrawals? These are things to look for.

Answer 6

Well alot of people think they need to hire someone to find out for them. Then they follow them around to see what they are doing. My thoughts are this. If you have been married for awhile then you should know the answer to this. You would have seen a different attitude towards you. Not being somewhere she says that she is. Working late all the time. Spending more time at a freinds house instead of being at home. There are ways that you can find out but you have to have open eyes to see what you need to see. If she is going out then ask her "Well i thought about us going to the movies", see what she says. If she says she is working late call to talk to her if she is not there WELLLLLL, then you can ask her where she was when she gets home. She have a cell phone? sneek into it one night and see what is there. Before you start all of this you need to be able to see that there are changes in her attitude that makes you think that she is cheating. If your are jealious with no reason you will drive her away.

Answer 7

Well you can call cheaters and publicly embarass her if you know for sure she is....or you can down right ask her, and just let her know that if she is that's ****** up and you wanna have your fun too, not to mention that's nasty cause YOU can catch whatever disease that bastid has, and last but not least, why couldn't you just break up with me instead? So THAT WAY, if she lies and says she doesn't, well then that after statement will hopefully shed some light, OR, if she's telling the truth and she hasn't cheated...least there's an understanding of the sick and foul games of cheating...and then you might have to forgive her for distrusting her. That's my 2 cents.

Answer 8

what is the reason you think he is cheating? Is he doing things that he hasn't before? Is he spending more time away? You need to start checking out what he is doing on the computer and phone calls. Is he leaving early for work or coming home later then normal. Or you could just come out and tell him how you feel and as him if he is cheating.

Answer 9

1. cell phone bills are the best,
2. and don't be affraid to call his work when he says he is working late,
3. check on his excuses like if he says he is going to a friends call and ask for him,
4. ask if you can go with him if he is going somewhere and if he says no ask why?
These are just some ways that I found out, he never thought that I would call his friends house or check on him at work and it paid off. He was and I found out.
I do hope he isn't but here are my suggestions.

Answer 10

Get a private eye to follow her.Or better yet why don't u trust her? What has she done to make u feel like this? The only thing u can really do is wait it out...Sooner or later she will slip up if she is really cheating on u..Or there is always following her or having a professional do it. I like the trust issue better.....