Ours is a love marriage. I have always wanted a life all alone with him and wanted to start everything from scratch. I respect his parents but I just cannot compromise on my dreams. I have told about this to him before marriage also. Now, I am depressed that nothing is as per my dream. I tell this to him and he is also disturbed because I feel low and not able to adjust. I feel I would not compromise because I have dreamt about this for almost 4 years,which I always express to him too. I know he is in a dilemma. The problem now is because of this he is not ready to have sex with me. He is still very affectionate and caring but with respect to sex,he is not ready to anything. We have it only once or twice in a month. By his touches I easily get aroused, but when he does nt do anything I am getting into depression every day. When I try to arouse him he shows great disinterest. I know for sure both of us love each other a lot and cannot miss. I need a practical solution for my problem.
2006-10-15 04:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bad match. It would seem likely that you will figure out in time that he is more attracted to men. Sad for you. Is this an arranged marriage?
2006-10-15 04:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are married and you are just 5 months old, I think you can have it annuled. But seriously, it sounds like he has a deep problem as most men are ready to have sex from day one. If he is ready to get help I'm afraid you have a problem there that you can either live with or get out of the marriage.
2006-10-15 04:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is one compromise after another. If you want a happy and sex filled marriage then you should learn to compromise. Can't figure out from your post just what your dream is that you don't want to compromise on but is it really worth losing your happiness over? Will it make you more unhappy to compromise?
2006-10-15 04:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have both got images in your mind of what you wanted...now that youve got it..it just doesnt all fit together like a fairytale. You need to work together to build off of those images and make a wonderful reality with one another. And sex..well sex is just a perk. If he isnt ready, try talking to him about why he isnt, let him know that you are more than ready for him. And ask if there is any thing that you could do that might help him. But like I said..you must take what you wanted and peice it together with what youve got...then youll have a masterpiece!
2006-10-15 04:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by mabluu_22 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to tell you this but there is no pratical solution to your problem. #1 What did his parents have to do with your dreams and life. You are not married to them.
#2 your husband needs help, councilling, you too.
# 3 What is your dream, What are you having to adjust too.? you are not clear here.Your Husband is warpped in head, get help, sex only 1 or 2 a month,
I would not more put up with that than my husband would put up with that from me.
2006-10-15 04:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is one of those CONTROL the situation ppl. You will be settling for 2 x a month at his choosing.....I would suggest----cutting him off when he comes to you wanting his little piece 2x a month.....
Communicate to him----that until he realizes that you have needs to and that 2x a month isn't acceptable his privileges to your body is NONE----
Sometimes MEN need a wake up call....You are the one starving for affection and wanting MORE ----Take matters in your own hands....maybe get yourself a battery operated something ----to get you thru the lonely empty times.
2006-10-15 04:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have had this all taken care of before you got married.what do his parents have to do with anything? Do you live with them? If so move out and get your own lives. There really is not enough info. here to give good advice.
Sorry!
2006-10-15 04:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for a make over, new hair style and color and some new sexy outfits. That would be worth a try. Good luck.
2006-10-15 04:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get to a counselor, him to try and uncover why he is sexually intimidated, and you so you can learn and understand the best way to help him come out of his shell without getting frustrated.
2006-10-15 04:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you're both in the parenta house then move out cause thats affects alot of frustartion in the relationship if you're home alone then maybe foreplay more cause me/my mate do and we enjoy it we do it like 3 x'z a day or more if we're not working... you/he need to talk more on it cause it takes two to tangle...ok... smile...
2006-10-15 04:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋