This 13 year old confided in me regarding his mothers suicide attempts and how he wants to live with his father. Upfront he said not to tell anyone other than his father and grandfather. We sat down with them and I did speak with the 13 year old present on how he felt and what is bothering him. How he has constant headaches stomach aches no concentration due to worry. Also so tired of being screamed at. His mother is bipolar. When the adults we spoke to sit idle as they have now for 7 months what do I do? This is eating me alive. I get calls all the time hearing the screaming. I am 300 miles away. The child will not let me speak to the school counselor for him etc because mom has told him they will end up in foster care and she will kill herself. The father for whatever reason gives you verbally what you want to hear but sits idle. The stress on my shoulders is overwhelming and I do not know if I break the trust at this point. Trust should never be broken but I am ever so concerned
2006-10-15 04:17:50 · 10 answers · asked by chattylady47150 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i most definately would contact the authorities, he needs help the mother is troubled, dont feel like your betraying his trust, he needs and wants help thats why he told u
2006-10-15 04:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are right trust should never be broken, in most cases. but this child is screaming out for help. he said that it was ok that you tell his father and grandfather. that's because he was hoping that they would step up to the plate and do something to get him out of the situation that he is in. and they did not do that. so, i really believe that you need to.first of all i think i would go and get a small tape recorder and tape the conversation the next time that he calls and this screaming and yelling is going on, then once you have this proof as to what is going on call the necessary authorities. if possible while you know this is going on contact the police in that area so that they can possibly be a witness to what is going on.just asking, but if it came to it would you be willing to allow this child to live with you? so that he would not have to go into foster care. if you would you need to make sure that you inform his father of this.
2006-10-15 04:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, okay for one if the mom is bipolar then guess what, she's not emotionally abusing her child on purpose.. if u know anything bout being bipolar then u'd know that the mom can't help what she is doing.. it's a disease that she can't control alone if no medication is given.. she needs help.. instead of u suggesting the state, why not contact the father or a relative of the childs so that they can help the mom get the help she needs.. 2nd ur only hearing the childs side of the story, like u said u r 300 miles awayand we all know that children seem to exaggerate and often times lie to get there way..
this sounds like a very delicate situation so u need to be extremely careful of what u say and how u say it (such as words like ABUSE) to the child.. who r u and how do u know this child anyway?????
all children who think they r being mistreated and abused want to go live with the absent parent thinking that the grass on the other side is greener but if the father knows what's going on and he is doing little to help his ex and child then what kind of parent will he be to the boy???
2006-10-15 04:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the father doesn't care enough to get involved and pull his own child out of this situation I would recommend contacting the authorities.
However, is the kid going to end up worse off it the state assigns him to live with his father. He will go from one emotional/mental abuse situation to another. Indifference is worse than hate, it is emotionally zero, and that is what the father sounds like.
2006-10-15 04:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
, yes ,,, tell someone!!! and quick.this poor boy is taking abuse that no child should have to take. sometimes it is necessary to break a confident conversation especially if he is constantly being sick from the worry, he may consider killing himself just to get out of the situation he is in. his mom needs to get help if not only for herself but for the boy as well, why wont the dad listen to what you have to say??? I feel bad to say this but maybe the boy would be better off in foster care until all is well at home. PLEASE talk with someone fast,,, good luck and prayers for this poor boy
2006-10-15 04:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. A 13 year old does not deserve to go through that! Call the child protective agency immediately!! The number is located in your phone book!!
2006-10-15 04:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by AndyMan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you can convince the child his mother needs help. once he accepts that you could tell him he could help in being instrumental in getting the help to her.obviously the father was never any help. don't depend on or wait for him. the only person you can work on is the boy.
2006-10-15 04:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by sumaravindran1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an adult and contact the child's father, the counselor, or the police/CPS.
2006-10-15 04:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rusty Shackleford 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRUST SHOULD BE BROKEN WHEN SOMEONE'S LIFE IS AT STAKE.HE'S A CHILD, REPORT THE PARENTS OR LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF NOT REPORTING THEM
2006-10-15 04:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would contact CPS, something needs to be done...You can do this so she doesn't know it was you.
2006-10-15 04:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋