My bestfriend is single. I'm not. And she knows that I usually spend time on the weekends with my husband. I would love to invite her along when we go out, but it's usually akward when it's just the three of us (she and my husband don't seem to get along very well).
Last friday she invited on a girl date, and then my my husband called and said he'd be coming home early and we could have dinner together, so I called my friend back and told her I couldn't go after all. She seemed really pissed off at me for cancelling.
She always seems like she's competing for the time that I spend with my husband. Could it be that she's jealous of him?
I adore my friend, but how can I make her understand that my husband comes first?
2006-10-15 03:17:07 · 12 answers · asked by Peaches M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Time to set her down and have a talk. Shes very jealous of your hubby. Ya might wanna put a stop on it now before it gets worse, she could cause alot of problems for your marriage.
2006-10-15 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does the husband come first? you live with him and see him all the time, you don't live with your friend. I'm jealous of my married friends, they have something I don't and I'm lonely and bored and they aren't. Yeah, I'm single, so I don't understand. So please nicely explain why the husband comes first. I think guys are boring.
2014-04-23 13:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from experience I have had a jealous best friend before and sometimes I hate to say it but women can be so dam bitter! You are right your husband does come first because you made a vow to him and your savior that you will be there for him....your best friend needs to just find something or someone to make her happy because it seems as if she feels "out of the picture"! If she is truly your best friend she will realize how she is acting toward you is wrong but then again if she isn't you will see the true colors! I know because I have a husband and a best friend...they don't like each other but still they know their place!
2006-10-15 03:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends just don't understand that husbands come before friends. Sometimes they get jealous. You may have to talk to your friend about your priorities and how now that you are married, your husband has to come first. Does she ask other friends to go out or just you? Does she have other friends? If not, that may be the reason because she only has you.
2006-10-15 03:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Hubbie should always come first no mattr what,and why are you letting the 2of them together. I don't think it is right to put a man through the pacesof having to put up with someone he does not like. I just want to know what you are playing at do you love this girl, are you lesbian or something? That is also wrong. You married for better for worse ...etc you did not marry the friend, but your husband and shame she don't get a life of her own
2006-10-15 03:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My sister had this happen to her. She eventually dropped the friend. You're 100% correct to put your marriage first in all things. A friend who doesn't understand this ; isn't really a friend. It is one of the sad things that occurs in our lives. We really do outgrow friends. It shouldn't have to be that way but unfortunately, those that are single have only themselves to consider and there isn't anything wrong with that. However, when we choose to marry we must consider our partner in all things.
NEVER go against your husband and pick a friend over him. Think of the message you will be sending him. Think of how you would feel if he did that to you. You did the right thing. Don't feel bad.
2006-10-15 03:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by kane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she's jealous. It's hard for our single friends to understand... it's just like when we were kids and our parents said, someday you will understand... only you can't say that to your friend. You need to talk this over with your husband, and make some extra time for your friend. Just let your husband know you are doing it for her, not because you don't want to spend time with him.
2006-10-15 03:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tough spot. Could you sit her down & tell her "Look. I love spending time with you and feel torn, let make a date one Friday a month or whatever to get together". Making sure you pass this by your husband prior to the conversation. I applaud you for putting your spouse first, thats the way it should be.
2006-10-15 04:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can spend quality time with your husband and some time with your friend too. You need to work out a plan to spend time with each one, but your friend must know you have priorities.
2006-10-15 03:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not shes jelous of your husband but she is uncomfortable that she don't have someone to go out with on a doubles date,along with you and your hubby..
2006-10-15 03:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋