my mom and dad fight alot and she said if they dont figure out their problems they are getting divorced i dont want two dads and two moms
2006-10-15 03:11:58 · 11 answers · asked by kk94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's not a whole lot you can do! Is it just because they are fighting? You said something about two Dads and two Moms. Take both your parents aside (not together) and tell them how hard it would be on you! Maybe you could suggest counseling!
2006-10-15 03:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I'm really sorry to hear that your mom and dad might get a divorce.
I want to tell you first and foremost, and I am sure everyone answering here has also told you, this divorce has nothing to do with you.
Second of all, sweetie, you will never have two dads and two moms. Your mom and your dad will always remain your mom and dad. No one else can take their places and even if they divorce and remarry again later, the other people in their lives cannot replace them as your parents.
Third, sometimes when two people argue and fight a lot, it's better for them to be separated. The problems they have are bigger then what you may imagine and it is hard for two people who fight a lot to live together. Your parents can always talk to someone, like a marriage counselor or therapist who can help them with their situation.
Your mom and dad will always remain there for you. Divorce is a VERY hard and daunting task, but in the end, if that is what makes your parents happy and stop fighting, then that is it. I don't know how old you are so I can't say anything more then just that.
There are many children out there whose parents are divorced or separated and things have all worked out. Just pray, tell your mom and dad what you think and hope that things do work out for the best in the long run.
Good luck.
2006-10-15 03:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Asia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their problems have nothing to do with you. For the most part you cannot fix them either. The next time they fight take a deep breath and confront them. tell them their fighting hurts and scares you and they need to seek counseling. Then get your mother alone and make sure she knows you do not like her discussing her and dads personal problems with you. The fact is parents can fall out of love with each other for many reasons, however the love they have for their kids does not go away. You also may wish to talk to another adult that you feel secure and trust with about thr situation. Good luck
2006-10-15 04:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey first off do not blame yourself...If they do get a divorce..yes it will be hard but you have to remember that your parents love you more than anything. I know it sucks to go through a change like this but you WILL come out the other side. Dont bottle your feelings up inside...like others have said talk to your parents and be open with them about how you feel. But really the big thing to remember is its NOT your fault. Good luck and keep your head up!!
2006-10-15 03:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by babo h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never have two dads and two moms. Let your parents handle this situation. the love your parents have for you will never change. Just think about it this way, would you rather your parents stay together and fight and be miserable, or part ways and get along as friends?
2006-10-15 03:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is better than listening to all the bickering back and forth. Divorce is a difficult thing. But remember it is between them, and not because of you. People grow apart and get divorced all the time. They might even get along better by living apart. You don't think so now, but it may be the better solution to their problems.
2006-10-15 03:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two happy parents apprat are much better then two miserable ones together. And u do not have to look at the step parent as mom and dad look at them as a possible friend . your parents deserve to be happy and in the long run u will be happier too
2006-10-15 03:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey , they are not happy together anymore. you need to think soon you will be 18 an out on your own. do you want to worry about them there an aruging? i would rather think of them as being with someone they are happy with and no more of the fighting. think , it more at x-mas time too , lol. but i know what you are going through here an it isn't fun , it is heartbreaking. but this happens all the time. and you need to realize they must do this an move on to be happy again. good luck ...
2006-10-15 03:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do besides be there for both of them. Its their decision and marriage. You don't want the both of them to be unhappy ....do you? I know its tough to watch them break but sometimes its best. If you have good parents they won't make another "mother or father" come in they will wait until you are 18 to get re-married. And that's even if they DO get re-married.
you'll be okay
2006-10-15 03:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counselling, and tell them you will go too. family counseling gets everyone involved and bonds the whole family.
2006-10-15 03:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋