my best frnd... a guy....was in relation wid some1...actually he and i became frnds thru tht gal only ...but thn we both ...our frequencies match to such an extent that inspite of the fact that we havnt yet met each other since our frndship of last two yes being in the same city and living in neighboring areas...we share everythng and we read each others mind so correctly....
he tells me everytthng reg his gal and their problems....wch never end..
few days bck they had a breakup coz of somethng , i belive due to my frndship wid him... now he wants to patch up wid her and she asked him a single ques-" do u still share everythng wid her ( vch means me)" and he accepted it coz he does... and they had a fight again...
he told me even this as soon as he finished this tlk with her...
now i dont understand wat i m supposed to do... i mean i know he cant live widout her...so i told him tht " i thnk ur rel wid her is more imp thn yr best frnd" and he dint rep...he isnt rep since last 24 hrs
2006-10-15 03:00:09 · 10 answers · asked by just yrs! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i mean wat i said was correct...???
he says in his whole life he jus had one best frnd and thts me...he trusts me so much so do i...but i want him to be happy...
now if at all i tell him to patch wid her i m sure our frndship will be over vch we both dont want ....and if i tell him the other way round he will lose her forever may be coz of me....
i just dont know wat i m supposed to say over this and how to react ...coz he is waiting for my opinion...
2006-10-15 03:03:36 · update #1
i know i shudnt leave him alone in dis situation but he isnt replying to ne of my msgs....
and i dont thnk we are involved so theres no question of accepting or nethng.....
i know both of their feelings as i was close to that gal since my childhood and i know very well that they both love eachother crazily .....
i feel so guilty regarding this ....
may u thnk he isnt replying coz he is thnking over bout my decision to step back....but atleast he shud tell me so that i stop worrying bout him....
oh god there are thousands of questions swirling in my mind....
help,,,,,
2006-10-15 03:53:11 · update #2
also the first time he told me regarding his realtion with her ( that time we werent as gud frnds as we are now) he was already having a lot many problems with and it was just due to me that those guys had the patch up.....
but thn his problems with her never end coz she never accepts him as he is....no doubt she has definately changed somethngs in him for good but thn their fights nvr end and he is altime hurt....
2006-10-15 03:57:39 · update #3
First be honest with urself about ur relation with him. I mean what kind of relation u really have with him . It seems to me that you both are in love with each other but not facing the reality.
2006-10-15 03:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by James B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,I would like u to understand that u r the victim not guilty. So release the guilt out. Coz ur guilt is the problem. Now, the answer can be given to the boy not to u, coz if anyone can solve this problem PERMANENTLY is he. I really feel sorry for u. Sorry for being personal but I mean it.
The answer is :The boy must make his girlfriend comfortable with him without loosing u. He is faithful to both of u. But u can see "being only faithful is not enough." Manage relations dear, manage. Losing one for another is innocence or may be stupidity.
For u : Don't worry, sleep well & its not necesarry to take decision in the time that the problem causer sets for us. Take care.
2006-10-15 13:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by raj r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess, if she is ur frend's galfrend, then she shud hv been more understanding n sensible. she must realise dat u n she r completely different persons 4him, 1 a best frend n d other a gal frend..
n moreover u mustnt leave ur frend alone in such a state.. as u must b knowing wat might he b going thru rite now..
i think u must giv it all a bit of time.. may be her galfrend understands d whole situation, n everything turns out 2b normal.. or may b ur frend realises dat she isnt like wat he expected of her..
in my opinion, any kind of decision on ur part, might b misinterpreted by anyone.. So just gud luck n hope evrything turns out 2 b wel.. n plz do let us know bout it..
n may b i might just agree with JAMES B as well..
2006-10-15 10:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u knw u're a gr8 gurl if u honestly ritten al dats been mentioned here....c 24 hrs is too lil time n its only we gurls who count each hr for guys its nt da same....so jus wait n give him sum time n space hes surely pondering on da situation n wants to make a rite decision vch wil b beneficial to all of u. at the same time mayb he having a talk wid his gf n trying to make her see his point of view....n i dnt understand whts wid dat girl...y is she so crazily insecure abt her guy....if they love each oder so crazily n if ur her childhood frend she shud b understnding enf to knw ders nothing on btween u too...so mayb u cud hav a heart to heart tallk wid her n let her knw all dat u wanna assure her n mayb ur past evidences abt certain things will help u convince her abt the close friendship u n her guy share wid each oder.... n jus tell her dat evryone needs a bst friend to share those things u cant wid ur gf/bf....hope ths helps ....n da last thing is u don hav to feel guilty abt this at all....u been a gr8 friend to both n are n amazing girl....nt saying ths so tht u overcum ur guilt but its a true heartfelt thing...pple like u r rare to find these days,,,,,, i mean who wudnt want to carry on wid der bst frends partner if hes so good n nice to u ...al da best....u come out of this soon....!!
2006-10-15 16:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by jess_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cannot lose ur best frnd fr a girl
tell him 2 leave that girl alone
she's stupid she's jealous and throws tantrums
nobody will want such a girl
2006-10-15 10:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by viya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at the same situation which I had to be few years back. But it was not so bad, we are still best of friends. You need to give space to both of them. Your friends Gal, thinks you are getting inbetween both of them. Slowly com out of it. Say to your friend politely that he needs to work it out with hernot with you. Every time he comes to you, redirect him to her. Say him to speak to her not to you. If it still does not work as a true friend, you need to come out from this friendship. its hard but you need to do it. All the best
2006-10-15 10:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Do you love him? If so, let him know as he obviously is in love with you. You share everything with each other - share your own true feelings too. Good Luck
2006-10-15 10:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by stuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you thought you were doing what a best friend should do and that is step back!! Ask him what does he want?
2006-10-15 10:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think maybe she is mad at you cause you have a better friendship with him than he does with her.
2006-10-15 10:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by sexychick14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't instant messaging or texting...spell out your stupid words..
2006-10-15 10:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by just another kid. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋