They have both gone to jail for fighting to protect each other from the system but still they love each other and want to find a way to work things out. Is it possible to love someone that you just can't live with or without?
2006-10-15 02:59:21 · 11 answers · asked by ljames3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to much time together is usually the cause here. you need to tell her you refuse to argue over the silly things and it should be cut to 50%. you all need to learn how to communicate without the yelling an screaming...i know it is easier said than done. but if the argument has nothing to with the two of you directly , you need to back up an tell her that.
2006-10-15 03:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they both have a stubborn streak when it comes to the bickering. Neither one wants to give in because they may see it as a sign of weakness or failure. True love isn't always the smooth ride people portray on television. There are many hills to climb and i, being the true romantic that i am, believe that with a little work any relationship can be salvaged. The first step i would suggest is to be totally open with their significant others. One other thing is work together to get through obstacles. Be each others best friend. Depending on the child's age, doing family things may bring them closer. The most important thing i learned through the years is not to take out your outside problems on your mate. Ex: bad day at work, come home, blame everyone for your day.
So, i guess my answer is yes, you can love someone and still not live with them, but why go throught that when you can learn to live together and be happy....
2006-10-15 03:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by bev_lev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like they're stuck in a rut. It's very easy to remember how much you love someone when you're without them. Then you get back in and you remember why you left them in the first place. It's classic really. If they really want it to work they have to stop bickering, someone has to be big enough to forgive and forget, to put aside what went wrong and simply put LOVE out there. Act in love and you'll get love in return. But it's also the hardest thing to do, because it means putting yourself in a vulnerable position.
But yeah, it is possible to love someone you can live with or without. They're just coming at things from the wrong side. Someone needs to stop arguing back and come from a place of love. That would change things completely I'll bet.
2006-10-15 03:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that sort of interaction just gets started, and then becomes the norm. You might try some professional, third-party involvement - though I would not encourage such counseling in this instance for a long period. Perhaps 3-4 visits. It might provide you with the true source of the bickering, and some new ways to curb it.
2006-10-15 03:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are divorced. it is because marriage is all about two peoplle working together to stay together. being honest and forgiving. otherwise, it just doesn't work. If one person is working harder than the other it doesn't work. love is a complicated thing. marriage is just two people working together. my parents loved each other deeply and had me. but my mother just wouldn't work at it. she expected my dad to do all of the work. they fought for hours on end. the pain in divorce, seperation, and fighting for the child is so great and so painful to the child that they feel un wanted and that it is their fault. the child feels like it was a mistake. and that if it wasn't here than its parent's relationship would be better. if the child gets involved, than it is going down hill from there...
2006-10-15 03:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by maryfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that a woman will put up with constant battering, finally call the cops, and get upset, when they take her old man to jail. She sees a paycheck walking out of the door in handcuffs.
2006-10-15 03:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to both embrace the concept "it takes two to argue" and decide never to PARTICIPATE in the argument. If you don't participate it will not happen and escalate, in their case as high as jailtime. They need to try to GROW out of their dysfunction.
2006-10-15 03:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not love. It's dependence is all. Nothing more. Nothing less.
2006-10-15 04:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call that love? I call that co-dependence
2006-10-15 03:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's life, who knows if it's possible or no....
2006-10-15 03:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋