Should I change?

Question

If you know what your faults are should you change or are they what make up who you are?

Answer 1

Your faults are who you are but also having the insight to know what they are and be willing to change to get rid of them is also who you are. I suggest you try to eliminate one of them and see if this makes you like yourself better or if it seems good so that others like you better. I found that sometimes I was quick to judge others and intentionally I would choose to wait and have more patience 99 times out of 100 it paid off and what I initially thought was wrong about a person turned out to be the opposite. My new choice of waiting longer before I made my decision about someone turned out to be a strength instead of a fault. I hope you choose to become the better person that is in you and don't let the faults in you run your life. Choose to be better whenever you can. Good luck.

Answer 2

Are you afraid of losing your identity? If you have a fault that causes pain to other people, like a mean mouth or a drug problem, then yes, you should try to change. You'll still be you, just a better version of you. If your faults hurt yourself only, try to change them too. Be good to yourself; think of your future. If your "faults" are just interesting quirks that hurt no one, then keep them if you feel like it.
You are so much more than just a label and changing is part of maturing. Imagine the type of person you want to be in 10 years and aim for it. What do you hope people will say about you then?--and I'm not just talking about career success, I'm talking about personal values.

Answer 3

Yes, but how will you go about it?
By seeing yourself to have faults?
Who is doing this seeing?
Is it not the very thing that seems to have the faults? Can you separate the I, which is also You, Me, My and Self from the faults you say you know. We have many words that mean the same thing to us. These words when looked at closely make little sense.

For example I am going to change myself.
I and myself are not distinct separate things only in language do they appear so.
But all that aside your question is more than valid.
If it is realised that human beings are out of balance in themselves, or have faults, as you put it, then does that realisation have it own action.

Just to realise!

Can 'You' lift 'Your'Self' by 'Your' own boot straps?

Answer 4

Being A Clone
I Am Not Alone
Every Fiber Of My Flesh and Bone
Is Identical To My Brothers
If You Had Ever Seen Us
You'd Recoice In Your Uniqueness
And Consider Every Weakness
Something Special Of Your Own

Answer 5

interesting question. i would say that there are some things that it would make sense to change, for our own benefit or for those close to us, and other things that can never change. some of our faults are more serious than others. it depends on the person you want to be and the course you want your life to take.
for example, i have always been a weedy person, i hate fast rollercoasters, climbing trees, etc... i wouldnt say it governed my life but i tend to stay on the safe side of everything. not to say my life is not enjoyable because of it, its just the way i am. and it only becomes a problem when other people tell me it's the wrong way to be. when people say you need to change in order to be 'better', is rubbish. only you can change and you will if you want to... but i think also a certain amount of our personality is hardwired and will never change. dont try to be anything other than you are.

Answer 6

Everyone has faults. That's what makes us human. The key thing is to recognise these faults as you do. If your so called faults aren't harming anyone then why change? Nobody is perfect.

Answer 7

That depends. There are aspects of us that others find fault with because we are different to them - e.g. if they think you talk too much or are untidy. There is no need to change this behaviour unless it makes your life easier to conform.

Then there are personality traits which make our own lives more difficult, such as being indecisive or lazy or drinking a bit too much alcohol. It's a good idea to recognise these and address them but it's not essential.

Then there are behaviours or characteristics which make others lives more difficult - for example being excessively bad-tempered or drinking far too much. These should definitely be corrected.

Answer 8

You change the things you want to. If you like the way you are then why change.
You say you know you have faults. It would be the prudent thing to try and change because you have identified them as faults.
Recognising your faults and making no effort to rectify them would be a pretty selfish attitude.

Answer 9

Your faults are part of what makes you unique, but as to whether to change or not is not a matter of 'should' so much as do you want to.
I don't know what your fault is, but if you're content with it and it contributes to your life and being, then you don't have to change it.
If it's not working for you-if it's causing you grief or unwelcome drama then you have the choice to change if you want.

Answer 10

There's a difference between idiocyncracies and faults. Idiocyncracies are the little things--like tapping the nozzle, trying to get that last bit of gas out when you're filling up--that you do without thinking. They make up who you are.

Faults are things like being to judgemental, consistently getting drunk, etc. Faults usually hurt someone, whereas idiocyncracies do not.

You should definitely work on your faults (and embrace your idiosyncracies!).