If my boyfriend says that I am still angry about the same stuff over and over?

Question

My boyfriend of 6 years says I talk and cry about the same things all the time.
Does this mean he is losing his love for me or am I in someway driving him away? I just really confused about what he means.

Answer 1

It means you never got over it and you keep bringing it up. In order to let things get better you need to let it go. It does sound like you are driving him crazy and away from you. Have you considered counseling? You need to let go so you can start over, to make things better. If the problem was so bad you can't stop feeling pain and hurt over it maybe you need to let him go. Then you and him can start over and have a good and happy life.It hurts I know but I am just being honest.
~Good Luck~

Answer 2

"Feelings that are buried alive, never really die." Most women have a hard time letting go of issues. Mostly because problems are not really resolved for them.
Communication is: Talking about problems and feelings. Coming to a understanding. Coming up with solutions and following through.
It frustrating when you think you've worked out an issue. Just to have it come up again, and again. If you are sounding like a broken record then the same issue is bothering you.
Most men treat relationships like a new car. In the beginning they do over maintenance. As the newness wears off. They start to neglect it. The car starts knocking and making noise. They ignore it hoping it will go away.
Your a sqeaky wheel. Most men avoid issues that there inable to fix. Either because they don't know what to do. Or they fear what to say. he may be viewing you as a mother figure and feel he's in trouble. Try counseling. For yourself if he's not willing. Maybe they can give you the tools you need to get through to him. Good luck.

Answer 3

What he says is that you are constantly bringing up past issues, and that everytime he finds you crying, it's regarding the same thing over and over. What he means by saying that is that you need to let go of the past, get a grip on reality, and quit being such an emotional mess. And yes, if you continue this behavior, chances are you'll drive him away. Men like women that are emotionally strong, not insecure and needy. You relationship seems to be at a standstill. Get a hobby, make new experiences with him and it'll be easier to focus on a future. You can't move past this unless you find a way to replace the issues with something else.

Answer 4

When he says it he means that you're arguments are all the same. When you're angry with him, do you often find it's for the same thing? Like, "here we go again" sorts of things? IOW, you're harping on the same old things, things he does or have done that made you angry or hurt you, and he's not getting the message that you want him to hear. Sounds like classic miscommunication to me. It doesn't necessarily mean he's losing his love for you. It just means he wants you to stop harping.

You two need to sit down and talk. You need tell him honestly and openly what's bothering you. Do it from a "I feel" point of new, not a "you do/don't do this or that" point of view as it tends to sound accusatory and will only make him angry. If you want his attention, simply tell him how YOU feel.

Answer 5

You need to address the reasons you are still angry and bring up these topics. If you haven't let go there is a reason.

You could drive him away by making him feel bad about the same issues over and over again.

You need to sit down with him and talk about these issues one by one when you are not upset or angry or crying. You need to get to the point where you will not bring it up again and leave them in the past.

Good luck..

If you need to.. get some professional help. You may not even know why you keep bringing them up and at that point you may need some advice from people who are qualified.

Answer 6

You might be...My boyfriend of 1 year says the same thing...and hes getting to the point where hes losing interest in me, i can tell. So my best advice to you...is take a step back, assess what's wrong, deal with it quick, and then...GET OVER IT! Its hard, but it must be done. If you really love him, you need to change. And its been 6 years....I'm sure he will wait for you, and if he doesn't, hes not worth your time anyway.

Answer 7

If you are not living in together but just as boy friend, then be angry with him totally,,, he is just nagging you instead of you nagging on him..

But if you are living in together, then that means he is looking for a reason to exit and that maybe it,, your nagging him on the same issue which to me might just be on his mind and is not actually happening.

Which everway,,, be prepared for the worst,,, but six years of being boyfriend is at least better,

Rather than be a wife and then he will just leave you later for nagging which is not so good a reason to leave a wife..

There are still many good guys out there,,, willing to get married to a good girl for a lifetime of partnership..

Answer 8

Sounds like there are unresolved issues. Both of you need to work on resolving the issues so that they don't drive the 2 of you apart. Don't hound him over these issues because you will lose his respect if you just b*tch about them and not do something to resolve them. Also, I would lose respect for a guy that didn't want to resolve issues that were driving us apart.

Answer 9

It means you don't let things go. Doesn't necessarily mean he is losing love for you, he's just trying to tell you that you don't deal with the matter at hand, you bring up old stuff.

Answer 10

The female sex cant let go of something, even when the male corrects his errors like helping with the dishes and helping clean and helping with the laundry, the female always forgets that he is trying to help now and is stuck in her delusions that are heightened by her hormones and pms attacks.
there is no cure for this as the female of the species is forever stuck in her dimensia. Start drinking massive ammounts of beer now.