Hi there! I have a young growing family of four. I am aware of middle-class being diminished, which is where we are at. We are struggling because of tyring to live like our parents did, I understand economics aren't the same back then as they are now. I work at my daghters pre-school, I am going to work more there to help financially. My husband works 40 hrs. with, he is willing to work overtime when the opportunity rises.He also has side work on the computer from home. My husband is my sons baseball coach evenings and wks. We love this time to spend together as a family yet struggle, my husband makes good money, we are not in an oversized home, we have one car pmt. Is forty hrs a work week non existant these days which would mean less family time to set a nest egg for the future? I know of so many retirees who must still work to survive because of health care,etc. Is there a formula for todays young family to survive today and into the future? Thank you!
2006-10-15 02:22:21 · 9 answers · asked by smily 2 in Social Science ➔ Economics
Time flies is so very true. I am the mother of three daughters. I had my kids at 22, 24, and 26. My husband worked 2-3 jobs so we could live in a small house and exist. I stayed home for 15 years to raise my kids on a shoestring budget. It was well worth it. None of my kids drink, smoke, do drugs and all attend college and hold down jobs as well. I was there for them and their friends as well . My house was the place many a child stayed, hung out and I was the mom who was the constant driver for pick up at nights from roller skating and ball games. Yes i resented alot of times that it seemed that I was always the one to be the chauffeur, and the girl scout mom and the helper at school but as they got older those activitiesdiminished and high school ends and everyone life moves on with memories of struggles over money and what a pain it was to leave the house at 11.00 p.m. to pick them up from a arty or ice house but I did it. And I have three great kids with numerous friends who still call to say thanks for always being there for us.....And Do you remember when we did this and you took us there.... Believe me you can live without some materialistic things in order to turn out healthy, GOOD,SOUND MINDED SMART INDIVIDUALS RATHER THAN leave them to be in a daycare raised by someone elses rules when and if they get attention there at all!
2006-10-15 02:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is not the answer. Morality issues aside, it would emotionally and possibly physically damage you for life. You keep making references to the fact that you're just a "girl". Well yes, you're a girl, but you're also a sexually-active girl. And just about everyone who's sexually-active is aware of the potential consequences if they partake in the actions... however, not many people think about what will happen if the consequences happen to the actual person. You and your boyfriend might have a great relationship, or "a perfect life", as you call it, but you need to grow up eventually. And so does he. It's nice that he's in a band, but maybe it's his time to move on from his band and get a more stable and reliable job -- maybe one with benefits? If he's a real man, he'll support you in whatever decision you so choose and won't leave you, but I'm advising you that abortion isn't a good idea. If nothing else, give the baby up for adoption. There are swarms upon swarms of people who want babies but cannot have them. If you don't think that you have what it takes to be a good mommy to this baby, then consider adoption. But please, not abortion. That does no one any good, including yourself. However, since you say that you already have that "warm and fuzzy" feeling about this baby inside of you, then that's a sign that your maternal instincts are kicking in. If you like the feeling now, and you decide to keep the baby, just wait until the baby is born! It's a joy beyond description. Also, if you don't want to get pregnant again in the future, I recommend taking much stronger precautions against pregnancy... this stuff typically doesn't occur at random. Good luck in your decision.
2016-05-22 03:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing right now, this is your life. This is the life your children will remember when they are grown up. This is your now, we don't live in the past or the future.
It's ok to have goals but don't forget that life is about the quality, the happiness, the satisfaction you have right now.
What are the important things, the things you can't live without. The basic needs of your family, food, decent shelter, car, household goods, clothing. Beyond this, everything else is a want, the extra things that tend to take over our lives.
You have to sit down and think about what you are working for, what you need, what you want and why. You can't enjoy LATER if you are not happy NOW. You'll be too stressed out in the meantime. You'll lose touch with your children, they will become strangers to you.
Face it, family is all about the children.
No one should have to work more than 40 hrs. Beyond that fatigue sneaks in, burn out is next.
With only 24 hours in a day, on a normal day a family has only 4-6 hours of free time. Barely time to eat, watch a movie, maybe play a game, then get ready for bed, then it's time to go to sleep. Children need more time with both parents.
What good is it if the kid has all the toys and gadgets in the world, if she never sees her father, doesn't know him, if he has become the stranger always running out the door, away from her? And her mother is too busy working with other kids at her school to be with her?
It's time to simplify the way we live, learn to be happy with fewer things, but more time for each other.
The lesson from Katrina is that your life, your things can be swept away in a heartbeat. What really matters is family, as long as you are together, alive and well, is all that counts.
18 years seems like forever when they are babies in your arms, but that time passes in a flash. They are grown up and gone, walking out the door into lives of their own. That's when remembering the time you spent with them, laughing with them, running with them and hugging them, will come to comfort you.
Funny, it never seems like it was enough time.
What are the memories of your childhood?
2006-10-15 03:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Charise1270 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time together as a family now because you never know what is going to happen in the future,you and your husband could end up splitting up which is what happened to me when my children were 10 and 12 and im glad we spent a lot of time together as a family while the children were young and if you dont spend time together now you cant go back in time,that time is lost forever.
2006-10-15 03:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by daft lad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law used to say to me my husband and I have both good jobs, work really hard, buy the kids nice things, provide them with a good home. Why is it that when you come over and take them to the park and then make something out of a leaf or a stick or a pile of stones they treat you and it like gold. They treat us and the things we have like garbage. I answered her it takes only one thing...your time. My nieces and nephews are now grown, even though we don't see each other very much anymore they still remember the times we went to the park and walked. Keep it simple while they are young.
2006-10-15 03:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by onlyonemeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think no amount of money, material items, or nest eggs will ever replace time spent with your children while they are around. Who do you want to teach your child moral, social, ethical, spiritual values? If you want to teach them these things you have to be around to do that teach them. Not only in talk but in action. However if you want them to learn it from the kid down the street so you can enjoy a nest egg keep working. I think you have to sit down and really figure out what your priorities are and take it from there. If you children are your #1 priority then isn't that where the majority of the time should be
spent???
No one's tombstone ever said I wish I would have spent more time at work
2006-10-15 02:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything Is all time management... gravitate to whats important go with your gut, enjoy every moment! Change course as it makes sense
2006-10-15 03:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by RJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had an answer for you and I don't think there is an answer. spend as much time as you can with the family but it is a learn as you go proses. good luck
2006-10-15 02:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by norsmen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tomorrow is never promised.
2006-10-15 02:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋