2006-10-15 02:17:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not advisable! Confess to God. He understands and will forgive you if you truely repent and most importantly, he FORGETS about it. Your spouse may forgive but will NEVER ever forget! I'd prefer the former, won't you?
2006-10-15 02:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by revello 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No don't confess to a spouse. Deal with it and live with the shame but to confess would only serve to cause hurt. Get checked out at a clinic of course.........and if infected ten maybe it puts a different light on everything. But if possible no confession more often than not that isonly for yourself not what is best for the other person. Be honest about the relationship because something drove you to the arms of another......if you don't want the partneer anymore then move out and minimise the hurt factor if at all possible.
2006-10-15 06:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
Assume you have cheated. Your spouse does not suspect.
What does a confession do? It inflicts pain and anguish on
your partner to what end? If you want out do it. If you want to send a message to pay more attention it will. They will watch you like a hawk. If you want to relieve your guilt, well you are the cheat you live with your guilt do not push it off on them.
If you have the will to cheat you should have the will to keep your mouth shut and deal with your own behavior's consequences.
Honesty may be the best policy but there are times when unwanted information blurted out only hurts. That's not honesty that's despicable. Honesty would be not having an affair in the first place. Don't start honesty with inflicting pain.
2006-10-15 02:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is unique to each couple. It's a choice which must be made - just like whether to ever have an affair to confess or not.
2006-10-15 03:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have the affair in the 1st place , there must be some thing missing in your relationship, Maybe you have been with your partner a long time and the honeymoon period as long gone and you just wanted a bit of fun, but if you really do love your partner , think 1st would it break their hearts, and would you ever be forgiven , do you still love your partner , if so , do not tell them , that's only this is a one off ,
. Try getting the spark back into your relationship , go out for meals , or to the local pub and watch a singer, get the bedroom full of candles and if your a woman buy some sexy new undies, your partner ask why the change , just say you feel stuck in a rut and you read in a magazine , how to spice your love life up. I would suggest an std test to just in case. best of luck x Debbie JX
2006-10-15 02:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by bonniebella 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on what you hope will happen from confessing. If its just to relieve your guilty conscious then the answer is 'no' don't do it. You'll only hurt the person you're confessing to and end your relationship. Of course if thats what you're hoping for then 'yes' by all means confess. Nothing like killing trust to end things. A lot of people will tell you 'they'd rather know' but what happens when they do know? Their world caves in. Some people can work through past affairs, but do you really want to risk that if you want to carry on?
Conclusion - depends on the outcome you hope for.
2006-10-15 02:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no way. I am totally happy and if he came home and told me out of the blue that he had an affair I would be ruined. It would hang over the marriage until the marriage crumbled because of it. There would be no trust, if there ever was any. It would be the basis of all fights. And, it would be brought up for no reason at all. You will never hear the end of it. Don't tell!
2006-10-15 04:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't confess. Your partner had probably guessed anyway, but somethings are better left unsaid. As others have said, people often only confess to unburden their guilt. But this is unfair on the innocent party within the relationship. You had the fun, now you must decide how you are going to cope with the guilt.
2006-10-15 03:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not confess to your affair, if its only once and you want to remain married? Learn from it and identify your internal or external reasons for having the affair. Then start to fill the void and renew your marriage. Realize you have done something wrong and work to fix it immediately. This is now your ongoing commitment to remain faithful and loyal to your marriage partner. Putting your mate and children (if any) in front of yourself...this is your commitment to your marriage and to your own life.
2006-10-15 02:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ladyd2576 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, the only purpose confessing would serve is to make you feel better and your partner worse. Not confessing you keep a private matter private, you commited the act now you have to deal with the mental fallout. Why inflict that on your partner?
2006-10-15 02:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no but i think it's sly and underhanded having an affair, plus you'll never be fully trusted by the person your having the affair with if you ever break up with your partner, because that person will know the real reason why you broke up in the first place, also why go hurt someone else because of you selfishness and inconsideration towards your partner...it's wrong...dump the bit on the side and get back on track in your marriage.....don't hurt your partner, it's not right, it's cruel...affairs are bad news, they only end up in tears
2006-10-15 02:37:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋