2006-10-15 02:16:30 · 15 answers · asked by joh_nathon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm pretty its not you with the problem. Maybe your wife has some kind of chemical imbalance and needs maybe medicine to help stable her emotions. I dont know where people get this unrealisitic idea that all your happiness is suppose to come from your spouse. She has to be happy with yourself and where she is in life and then she can enjoy happiness from others. only with Gods help can you make your marriage all its suppose to be. Marriage comes in a kit that needs put together. It will take some gluing here, hammering there and planing a bit on the side until at last what you have is a thing of beauty and a joy forever. Pray and God will you lead you to do the right thing. With God on your side, who can be against you.
2006-10-15 02:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound really bad but it's the truth. I was happiest when I had some time to myself, I didn't have to worlk full time, I could get things done around my house, plan a decent dinner for my family and have time to focus on my husband. He lost a business, got depressed and I had to go to work full time with three young kids. I was never so unhappy in my life. I felt like all I did was run, from sun up till sundown, I didn't enjoy cooking for my family anymore, it became a chore, I was too stressed aout about everything that had to be done to be happy. I think women are under too much pressure to work, raise kids and keep a perfect house anymore, where's the fun for them? Then everyone wants to know why we're unhappy? Well if WE knew someone else was going to do the laundry, scrub the toilets, do the dishes, and mop the floors maybe we could relax and enjoy you.
2006-10-15 03:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband says the same thing about me. I know I get upset alot but inside my mind I'm thinking "Why can't he just do things the way I do them". I feel like I have to do everything if I want it done right. I also work ten hour a day in a factory standing and have two small children plus and extra job at night cleaning an office and I am always so tired. He is a school teacher/coach. I just don't feel like I get enough help. Then he wants to know why we don't ever have sex!! Well I say he just needs to set up an appointment. Have you talked to her about this? Is it bad enough to seek counseling? I know alot of it is just me, I admit it. I just ask for help trying to get everything done. Like right now- I have been up with our little one since 7am and our 5 yr old is up too and my husband is still in bed and it is 8:30.
2006-10-15 02:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by ArkyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not "make" her happy. She either is, or she isn't. We are all responsible for our own behavior. If there is something in her life that is causing her to be angry, frustrated or bitter you can not solve that by becoming her lap dog. You both need to get into good professional counseling and find out what is at the root of your problems. That is the only way this situation will change. And if she won't go, you go, and deal with the fact that your partner wants to stay unhappy.
2006-10-15 02:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot MAKE her happy; she must choose to be happy.
The more you try to make her happy, the more frustrated you will become. If she becomes "upset about everything," then she may be depressed in the medical/psychological sense of the word. There are numerous self-diagnostic tools on the internet which can provide info and reference for you, including tools for assessment of loved ones and ways to suggest and encourage resort to primary phyician and mental health professional for diagnostic and treatment purposes. A clinical psychologist can administer and interpret a written (multi-choice) test such as Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory (MMPI) which can be helpful in disclosing emotional difficulties.
2006-10-15 03:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Talk to her. Talk to her. Ask her this question. Much like you asked here. " It seems no matter what I do you are not happy, what is wrong?" Then let her talk. Listen to her answers. Understand that subjects which involve basic personality traits cannot be changed. Only SPECIFIC behaviors can be changed so lead her to those. Offer to change specific behaviors in return for a better attitude on her part. If that does not help you will need to consider taking a harder line in future.
2006-10-15 02:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to have her sit down and have a long talk with her. Find out what's going on. Let her know you feel she's not happy and ask if your doing something to bring this on. Ask what you could do to make her happy. You never know she might have something in the back of her mind making her feel this way as she also may need to see a doctor to rule out any medical problems. Good luck to you ;o)
2006-10-15 02:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every sex survey is unanimous when it comes to what women want the most sexually. Yes, you guessed it; they want more oral sex, more often and in as many ways as possible. So limber up your oral love muscle and begin drinking her nectar directly from the pot using only your tongue - no hands. Next, try some positions that afford better oral access - have your partner sit on the edge of a bed while you kneel between her legs, approach from behind while she kneels on all fours or have her straddle your face.
2006-10-15 02:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 07:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did everything and she's upset?? did u try asking her what makes her feel happy???
2006-10-15 02:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by judy abott 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋