i went to a lap dancing bar with my gf last night.we got really drunk and a man bought us some drinks so for laugh we both gave him a quick kiss.anyway later on i was talking to two men.when i looked over she was kissing this guy full on at the bar for ages.what should i do.she says its my fault????????????
2006-10-15 02:11:17 · 24 answers · asked by lisasbarred 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is your fault. You made her go to that club, you made her drink alcohol then you grabbed her tongue and stuck it down his throat. She didn't want to do it, you made her!
Are you serious?
She has to apologise, she took things too far and if she won't then I suggest you get another girlfriend.
2006-10-15 02:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice. Well obviously your g/f is too immature to accept responsibility for her actions and is blaming you instead.
And you are so insecure that you are threatened by a kiss in a bar with a stranger when everyone was probably too drunk to know what they were doing.
Why don't you two just chalk it up to what sounds like a fun night, have a good laugh over it. Go to a Lesbian bar the next time so at least you won't be uncomfortable with the gender.
2006-10-15 02:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter who decided to go to the lap dancing club, you both got drunk which probably wasnt intentional you both wanted to have fun. It definately wasnt your fault she sounds immature to not accept that it was her decision to make.
If you asked her to jump off a bridge would she?Its not as if you ask to go and kiss this guy. Get rid of her if she cant act like an adult, its probably not the first time shes done it anyway if she can do that in front of you.
Also, it doesnt matter how drunk you are you still know what your doing.
2006-10-15 03:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is it your fault? Anyway - she might like guys too, I thought you'd have been through that by now when you start seeing someone. Any time that one person in a relationship does something with someone else that the other person in the relationship doesn't agree with it will cause trouble. Get on the same page as to what's acceptable & what's not for you both & go from there.
2006-10-15 02:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for the "it's your fault I did something" head trip. Ppl are responsible for their own actions. She may have been responding to something about you or your actions, but that's different - it's also what you should talk about WHEN you are both done being angry with each other. If the bar was your idea, then you already got a clue about what might have her feeling irritated or insecure.
2006-10-15 05:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 some, ?
2006-10-15 14:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she is saying is that you are responsible for her behaviour, think about it, are you? She thinks that because you both kissed the guy you gave her the green light to go further. you will have to decide if you want a relationship where you both do what you want or do you want manogomy? If it's the latter then you are with the wrong person.
2006-10-15 04:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Joel W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why were you there? I think you were maybe testing something - why else did it go so far?
It's not your fault, but you can't be surprised considering where you were.
As cruel as it sounds, let go of her. For her to say it's your fault is wrong, and just her way of transfering guilt.
She's not good for you.....
2006-10-15 03:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by sammi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm sure you pushed their heads together until their lips met...however you WERE both drunk so forget about it. It meant nothing - unless you take a stance and make it mean something.
2006-10-17 08:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if she was kissing him, you went out for a drink and had a laugh - it could have been worse
2006-10-17 09:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by trixieb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋