I was married in 1998 and my wife left me in 2000 and she was carrying. I waited for 6 yrs hoping one or the other day she will return to me. But all the hopes were shattered when she neglected and she was not ready to see me also. My son is now 4 yrs old and he does'nt know I am his father. In depresion I went to Qatar , worked for 2 yrs and now I am in Abu dhabi . I fell in love with a madras Muslim female and we both love each other (she knows my history) It is easy to convince my parents. What should I do to make my life easier?
2006-10-15 02:07:19 · 9 answers · asked by shakthi v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tried to convince her in so many ways , but she was stuburn. She wants me to stay in her house and serve her parents, which I consider one of the shameful request . When I rejected to this proposal I was not allowed to see my child . More over I love my wife very much which she did not understand . I am not egoist
2006-10-15 03:07:54 · update #1
I wish I could show some empathy for you, but hon, you deserve to be feeling this way. You knew your wife was pregnant and back in 2000 you chose to do nothing but "wait"? What in the world were you waiting for? It is now 2006! This was your child...what about taking some responsibility? Can you imagine what this child is going to go through in life without having a dad in the picture? You've already denied your child so much. You abandoned that child as much as your wife abandoned you. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. And first now it's starting to bother you?
Do your son a favor, get in contact with his mother and see if she wants you in the picture. If not, sign over those parental rights. You do not deserve this child. It was not fair for you to ignore your obligations, get involved in another relationship, and then come back years later because your conscience has gotten the best of you.
And the only reason you bring this about now is to make YOUR life easier? What about the son you've ignored all these years? Take your selfishness somewhere else.....I've had my fill of it!
2006-10-15 02:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sakthi,
Basically the originated anger was carried over due to both of your egos for such a long time. Seems to me, both are egoist but one of you seems at a higher version.
ormally if seperated in a span of few months everything must be OK. But it has not happened in your case. And seems you have not taken any steps to convince the situation getting one step below. Any lady will go thru high truma , during there pregnancy and delivery and they need male support to the max at that time. Since she has missed that and you didn`t do that at time, you missed her. No way you will get.
At the same time, new life will not so good , because of your nature, unless you get changed. If you get changed try with your wife.
2006-10-15 02:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by kingly g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your current girl friend the muslim girl thats fine i would say dont let her go but to have to serve her and her parents is not acceptable,personally i would get out of the relationship and work on finding your wife and romancing her start to write her letters and write your son letters to or send him a card send him small gifts and this will slowly aloow your ex wife to let you back in her life and you will slowly come out of your deppression
2006-10-15 10:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a grip for one thing nothing happens in gods world by mistake it might not seem like things are going too god at times but its all in gods time not your! if its destined for you too reunite with your son it will happen and as for the new girlfriend well take it slow and think about every possible situation good and bad then figure out if this is what you want good luck!
2006-10-15 02:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly try and analyse your feelings, take some time out for that. Find out with whom would you be happiest. Then follow your heart.
P.S. I suggest first try for your first wife and if the chapter is closed you can move ahead in life. You should.
2006-10-15 02:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by mukee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple! Grow up and stop staring at the spot on the ground where you spilt your milk on. You ain't gonna get it back. Move on, man. Focus on the new girl you have found and stop looking back. You'll lose the new one if you keep brooding over the old one.
2006-10-15 02:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by sally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the child and meet him because you are the father if you wait too long the child might get old enough to understand that you didn't come to see him or her and she or he might think you don't care about him or her.
2006-10-15 02:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by jordan r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be cool. and be positive and u wont feel anything as difficult
2006-10-15 02:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Deepu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋