my wife died during child birth.I don't think I can get through this!
2006-10-15 02:06:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so sorry to hear about the lost your precious wife. It is so painful when we lose someone near and dear to us. Thank God you have a beautiful daughter that's a part of your wife. I know this may sound corny, but to get through this you'll have to turn to God and He'll see you through. Get some grief councelling, attend a support group for those who've lost loved ones and ask your doctor if he can put you in touch with some guy who has lost his wife during childbirth. And if you're not already doing so please join and get involved in a church and if you are do not be afraid to talk with your pastor and reach out to other church members. My prays are with you and your beautiful daughter. May God bless you both.
2006-10-15 08:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that what I am about to say won't matter much to you now, but the only way you are going to get through this tragedy is to pray. Ask God to comfort you and to bring you through on the other side. He won't take the pain of losing your wife away, but he will hold you as you go through. Don't be bitter, everything has a purpose and there is a plan for everyone's life. Maybe the plan for your wife's life was to give you the daughter, if so, she has completed her journey, and now the two of you have to move on, never forgetting the gift your wife left you. Everytime you look at your daughter, you will remember, it will hurt for a long time, but the time will come when you will be able to look at her and smile as you remember your wife. These are just words to you now, but they will soon become a reality. Don't close yourself off, be surrounded by people who are positive, and then again remember to take time for yourself. Be open to love again. May God bless and keep you in his loving arms, lean on him, he can handle it! If you don't know him personally, now is the time to get acquainted.
2006-10-15 02:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for the other half of you being taking away so early, but she'll always be watching on you.
I cant say ive had to go through with losing my other half, but ill try and give you some suggestions.
Did your daughter survive?
If she did keep yourself occupied with her, watch her grow and develop. Its great when they smile.
Go and see family often, they can help you through it.
However, id go out as much as i could do different activities, for example, cinema, bars. Just have some time for yourself. Go and meet new people, this will not make you forget your wife but thats not what you want to do, you need to celebrate her life, that you loved her deeply.
It will take time, you'll never forget such a great women that was a huge part of life, but it will get easier.
2006-10-15 02:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my wife 2 years ago due to liver cancer, Yes, it is very hard to cope with, I was in a long state of depression. What I did have going for me, was a great support of family and friends, and even my job. Nobody left me alone, everybody fed me until I was ready to get back on my own. Now, after 2 years, I am happily remarried, But my wife will never leave my heart, and my current wife understands that, and is very supportive.
Rely on your friends, and family for help and support, and by all means, do not be afraid to cry. Crying always made me feel better, and let me vent my emotions.
2006-10-15 02:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.. Your wife passed away giving birth to a beautiful child. Take all that grief and turn it to love and raise you new child in a loving environment. NEVER hold the death of the mother over the child. Not their fault. My prayers go out to you.
2006-10-15 02:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by sabbycat76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to grieve! I am so sorry for your loss :( An a support group might help you, things like this have happened to other men. Know that when you look at that little baby, a part of her is there. Make her proud, and be the father she knew you can be. Talk out loud to her if you like, tell her you miss her. This is a hard thing that won't just dissapear, it takes time, you do need support in this! My heart goes out to you hun!
2006-10-15 04:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by tonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh...im so sorry...
was this a recent event...i think it will take time..time does heal though its a very cliched thing to say
youve got a child in her place you need to give the child all you have
sometimes thhese things happen and its what lifes about....you couldnt have done anything neither could had she...its the way it is.....gried is something you have to deal with if you dont it will build up and eat you up.....take some time out.....and i swear to you it will get better...it always does...god gives us something inside us that when someone passes away we have the strenght to move on in time.....when i think of my family or mates or anyone close passign away i think i wont be able to live.but when it does happen god forbid, i know il be okay...everyone has to be okay...its the way it is....
ust take some time...dont rush anything it will be ok...youve got a child, make the most of having her and be there for her/him
2006-10-15 02:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your lost. Cry and pray to God. But know this everything happens for good. You have to be strong for your daughter. You have to be a mother and father to her. Your wife will watch over both of you. Trust her and trust in God, time will heal your pain.
2006-10-15 02:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To cope with a loss is tragedy enough, but to be left with a beginning is a blessing. She left you a bright active part of your love. Carry on just to see the outcome of yes you can do it and who will step in as your support group.
2006-10-15 02:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 20:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋