Baby trouble?

Question

Ive just had a baby 4 months ago and im afraid i may be pregnant again too soon, i have to do a test but im definately late.
Id never have an abortion i think its cruel, however, i dont think my partner and I can afford another one. were both great parents but im confused.
What should I do?
SERIOUS answers please i dont like people just answering a question to get extra points its pathetic!

Answer 1

I know other people who have gone through the same thing- just months after having their first child, they end up pregnant again. As surprised and understandably upset as they were, they ended up being great parents to both their children. Times were tough, but they made it work. If abortion is something you consider cruel, chances are you'll regret the decision to abort this fetus (if you are indeed pregnant) later in your life. My suggestion is to wait until you've confirmed your pregnancy (or lack thereof) before considering your options. The fact that you're a new mother is stressful enough- worrying about another pregnancy will just stress your body out even more, causing your period to be even later or not there at all. There are lots of reasons you could have a late period. Pregnancy is just one of them. Best wishes with whatever outcome you get. :)

Answer 2

I know this may not be what you want to hear, but if you are pregnant and can't afford another child so soon, have you thought about adoption? I agree with you on abortion being cruel, especially since there are so many people out there who want a baby but can't have one. If you feel like adoption is out of the question, maybe you and your partner can sit down and come up with some way to manage your finances so you can afford to keep the baby. Good luck to you and hopefully all will work out for you in the end.

Answer 3

Try not to worry, your period is irregular after you have a baby. It take a bit for it to go back to normal, plus, if you are breastfeeding, it may not come at all. I breastfed for 6 months, my period came back after about 3 1/2 months, but was irregular until I was done with breastfeeding. Find out if you really are, and then think about what you will do. The cost isn't tooo much differance, because you already have all the stuff for baby. It is overwelming, but don't forget, pregnancy is long, and your kids would grow up being the best of friends. Its a hard decision, but try to look at the posative things to having them close together as well as the negative when you think about your decision. Be strong, you will make the best choice, and use the community resources. Go to your local health clinic and talk to a nurse, she could give you some numbers for places that will help you. Buy your childrens items(clothes, toys) from second hand stores. Kids grow out of things so fast, that alot of the clothes they sell are like new. Do breastfeed, as this is a huge money saver, and try cloth diapers for while you are at home, and only use disposible when going out. There are lots of ways to cut the cost, don't panic, and remember, you would be giving your child the best gift, a sibling!

Answer 4

First of all, find out if you are really pregnant. If you are not, you are worrying for nothing. And if you are not, talk to your doctor about birth control, or sterilization.

If you are, your choices are abortion, keeping or giving it away. If abortion goes against your standards, then don't do it. Its a choice.

If you keep it, then you will have to adjust your family to support it, perhaps you will need to go to work and put the kids in day care or your partner will need to get two jobs.

If you give it away, do so with an open heart and realize, one you cannot take it back and two you are doing exactly what a parent is supposed to do, do what's best for the child.

None are great choices, and you already know what happened and who to blame(yourself) for the situation you put this possible child in. We all make mistakes, just learn from it and don't do it again. Good luck to you and yours.

Answer 5

There are ways to care for another baby...
Use low cost diapers,
Cut back on other expenses that are not necessary example smaller cable package.
Buy clothes second hand and at yard sales... I get tons of stuff that way. Along with general baby stuff.
Accept help from family.
If your pregnant you can do it just fine, things may be thight though.
If your not I would ask the doctor for some birth control.

Answer 6

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER NEED TO SIT AND DISCUSS THE PROS AND CONS. AT LEAST YOU DO HAVE SOMEONE THERE TO SUPPORT YOU IN ANY DECISION YOU DECIDE. NOT EVERYONE AGREE WITH ABORTIONS BUT IF YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT AND THE BABY WILL HAVE TO SUFFER THEN DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO. IVE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT. THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THAT MY SON TURNED 1 AND I WAS ABOUT 4MTHS PREGO. I HAD NO ONE TO BE THERE. SO I WAS STUCK IN A SITUATION WHERE I DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE.