Can a man be honest and share about his need of love from his spouse?

Answer 1

I'm guessing you feel lonely.

You love your wife, you're looking for something, anything to feel loved. Without knowing your particulars (age, kids, length of marriage) here's what I can offer...

They say, you can only feel love if you love your self. That sounds like a load of crap I know, but it is true. If you are feeling unloved you have to do several things to get yourself back up to feeling good and worthy of love.

1. Tell your wife you're lonely. Tell her that you love her and know that she loves you, but you're both so wrapped up with (fill in your particulars, here) that you're afraid you've left out the most important part -- showing her how much you love her. Make a date weekly....it helps.

2.Go out with people that make you feel good. This can be your brother, your friends, whomever makes you feel good about yourself.

3.Consider marriage counseling.

I have friends who have been in relationships where they rarely touched, rarely said "i love you" and this led to a few nasty affairs.

We all NEED love. If you can't get your spouse to understand that you need to feel it physically and verbally -- then make it clear that it is unacceptable for you. What the consequence is -- is up to you to decide. (Divorce? Affair?)

There are a million reasons why people get distant....for many, its stress. Stress about weight, money, work, etc. The worst part about marrying the yin to your yang is that often, the things that attract us about our spouses are the very things that drive us batty about them.

I speak from experience. 18 years with the same guy. We have our ups and downs....silences....and joys. I'd prefer more intimacy, more sex, more feeling like a girlfriend than a wife.....and I hate having to ask for it. I hate feeling lonely. When I do, I tell him. If he ignores me, I go out with other people (not dating! but with people that appreciate me.) There are days that I've said "I can't take this silence" and there are days that I can't believe how close we are. Marriage is a crazy dance for us -- but I can't imagine a better father for my kids -- and a better partner in my life.

Whatever you are feeling, recognize that you deserve to feel love. That's the first step. Then tell her. If she doesn't get it, then you have to think about how you can live with it, or live without her and have a chance for love with someone else. Life is TOO SHORT.

Answer 2

I think that honest and open communication in a marriage make for a strong marriage. I want to know what is on the mind of my spouse. You should be able to communicate anything to your wife, and if she is loving you, she should be receptive to your requests, even if she doesn't agree with them. In marriages, you can agree to disagree. Always be honest if you want your spouse to be honest with you.

Answer 3

of course! all married men are honest and share all his need for love with their spouse, and everything else is also going great in iraq!

Answer 4

Absolutely. And your spouse's job is to be understanding and make u feel safe to show your vulnerabilities.

Answer 5

He should. This is open communication in a marriage and is very important to do so for the marriage to grow and survive.

Answer 6

a man should be honest about his needs for everything to his wife. and the wife should be considerate enough to realize he also has need for expression.

Answer 7

yes and no there are somethings you cant say to a woman since we get sensitive on certain issues

Answer 8

CAN?????
YOU MUST!!!!!!!
YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE OPEN MINDED IN A MARRIAGE AND BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING.IF THAT'S IMPOSSIBLE:YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT AS GOOD AS YOU THINK IT IS.
JUST TALK ABOUT IT.

Answer 9

If you can't you shouldn't be married.