I have a friend, and were both involved with career and other activities...we are both single, and when we met we talked on the phone often. Now it seems i was doing most of the calling. So I backed off to see if he will call...its been 2wks and i have called once to leave a message. He did call me back and we tried to hook up this past Friday when we got off work. Well he was suppose to call me when he got off from work, well he didnt i had to call him and it was like 9pm when i decided to see what happend...he was so apologetic and I nudged it off like i just woke up, it aint that serious...then he says we will hook up sat. or sun.....well its sunday he did not call all day yesterday, but am i mistaken isnt that just common curteousy, I mean we are not in love or committed to each other. So should i call and tell him he is no valuing a simple friendship or just wait until he calles me and then tell him.
2006-10-15 01:40:30 · 14 answers · asked by CeKaye L 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call if u give a ****.... but don't if not
2006-10-15 05:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by jjwilliams69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound desperate. So what if he calls or doesn't call? He doesn't sound romantically interested in u. Perhaps just as a friend. And u don't call ur friends every day or something right? If u push him too much, u might just end up losing the friendship altogether as he might think u're obsessed with him. Just let it go. If u like him, he doesn't sound worth it coz he'll be doing this throughout ur rship. If u like him as a friend, then meet up once in awhile. U don't have to be desperate to talk to him everyday. He's got his life and u have yours too.
2006-10-15 08:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you have expectations. when expectations enter, problems will occur esp in your "non-committal" set-up. better be sure with what you feel and talk about it with your friend if there's a need for you to go to the next level of friendship. you sound like a girlfriend to your friend. unless you have your own rules which the two of you have decided. or... if you cannot take his attitude re keeping his promises, how come you are still friends. either you accept him as he is or confront him about it.
2006-10-15 09:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by math 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite abvious to me that this is a one-sided friendship. You are putting way more energy into this relationship whatever it may be....
He is not pre-occupied with hooking up or calling you... it is very clear......
Don't flog a dead horse.... as they say...
This is a done deal..Don't call, find a new friend who wants to have an equal partnership......
Move on
2006-10-15 08:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being that your not in a relationship don't let it bother you so much but i have a Friend like that and if i don't call or make a date we have set up he gets really upset with me and no he doesn't call he waits for me to call an sometimes it takes forever for me to call an he expresses his upset and i just tell him i have a life outside of our friendship an i apologize if i inconvenienced he in any way and he's pretty understandable he just happy were still friends
2006-10-15 09:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by mel b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Lack of common courtesy hurts. I would call him to tell him how disappointed you are that he didn't care enough to let you know he was busy or just didn't want to get together. Better the truth than to be ignored.
2006-10-15 08:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will sound weird if you call him and tell him that you dont want to call each other anymore you know? So I suggest you wait at least 2 days and maximum a week if not call the loser and tell him maybe you deserve someone better, someone who actually cares.
2006-10-15 08:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Brooke101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes not intrested in your friendship or he could have just met someone & thought that you had feelings for him so he didn't tell you.Give him up.Im sure you have lots more of friends!
2006-10-15 08:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by frozen_blue.angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone. If he ever calls, dicuss the weather and leave it at that. It appears he's too busy to remember to call you. Maybe he's not thinking about you when he's not talking to you, maybe he remembers you whenever you call.
2006-10-15 08:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he from where you live at? Do you ask him if you guys want to hang out on weekends and get to know each other. Plus you should get to know him and ask him out or have one of your best friends ask him for you.
2006-10-15 08:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by sexychick14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't call him anymore and that if he really likes talking to you than he'll call you back. don't call him anymore cause it makes you look so desperate for him.
2006-10-15 08:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋