To love and hate someone at the same time.
For instance, i know someone. I love her dearly. She means the world to me because she was one of my biggest sources of inspiration. However, there are little things that she does all the time that just get to me. I want to kill her but hug her at the same time.
Is this normal? Or am i a freak of nature?
2006-10-15 00:55:32 · 17 answers · asked by falzalnz 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
We place high expectations on those that we care a great deal about. When they mean the world to us but let us down........we fall and we fall hard. You are very normal........and yes you are a freak of nature (which is why I adore you!) .
But if you love her dearly as you say you do, you have to tell her when she does things that "get to you." She wants to know as much as you want to tell her. If you don't, she will continue to do the things that annoy you and your friendship will just go kaplooie. You seriously don't want that. Yes....you seriously can love and hate someone at the same time. WE all do. But how much better to love. So don't kill her......tell her what's on your mind.
**pulls a chair up, turn it around backwards, sits and leans her chin on the back and says, "So what did I do to piss you off?"
2006-10-15 05:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
One strong emotion begets the other on the flip side of the coin.. familiarity breeds contempt.. If you are aware of this then you have a chance of not looking at life through rose coloured glasses and disappointing yourself in how you think things should be in a perfect world.. I'd say you are pretty normal..
2006-10-15 08:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, this is a hard one....I could be totally off....
Sometimes, a loved friend becomes a habit. "we've been friends for forever, what would I do without her, she WAS always there for me," that is the mantra we tell ourselves all the while the friendship is becoming more and more toxic. instead of feeling more sure of yourself after spending time with this person, you feel unsteady, maybe a little diminished or even resentful.
It took my years to come to the knowledge I had a friendship that fit in this category and it hurt like hell but I moved on...
I could be wrong, but it is worth considering....
2006-10-15 09:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As they say there's a very thin line between love and hate. They are both very strong feelings that include a lot of passion. So I think yes, it is possible.
Besides that has happened to me too, so either we are normal or we are both freaks of nature!!!
2006-10-15 07:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kicky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Familiarity breeds contempt."
The better we know people, the more likely we are to find fault with them. It's why there is tension and arguments in families, with best friends, significant others, etc. It's just the way it goes. So don't be alarmed, just give her a hug and perhaps a bottle of sedatives in her tea. :-)
2006-10-15 08:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by gotalife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal. I felt the same way on my high school crush that I had since junior high. I wanted to be with him. But he wanted to be friends and passed me over like leftovers for other girls. I hated him for that.
2006-10-15 08:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Liz Taylor and Richard Burton. Good night.
2006-10-15 07:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it possible. i love my bf but sometime i hate him when he makes me cry or sad. I heard this saying before that love and hate are just two sides of a coin. Without love, there will be no hate.
2006-10-15 08:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this absolutely normal. so Ur not a freak of nature. i felt that about my bf now. i love him with all my heart but then it times when he is just a huge asshole
2006-10-15 08:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by girly g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is. Sometimes I hate my husband, when he's an asshole. Other than that, I love him more than anything in the world. I know that sounds crazy but you brought it up!
2006-10-15 08:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Princess_29_71 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋