I am at that turning point ....I have to decide whether to divorce or try again.....my gut feeling is to walk away......but I am afraid of God's Wrath on my life.
2006-10-15 00:37:30 · 15 answers · asked by lucy p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have tried everything possible including marriage counseling and you still feel it's time to leave the marriage then there must be a good reason and God will forgive you. Divorce will not keep you out of heaven. How do I know? Because if you truly ask for forgiveness in your heart and soul, you will be forgiven. Jesus died on the cross to save us from past, present and future sins if you are willing to ask. If you are in a bad marriage that is hurting you mentally or physically God doesn't expect you to stay in an unhealthy relationship.
2006-10-15 01:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are one of those that believe divorce wrong. There are scriptural grounds for divorce.....ADULTERY.....that is the only scriptural ground that the bible points out for divorce.
NOW----let me tell you....Scripture states in JOHN 3:16----It plainly states that if you believe you'll have everlasting life.
I was raised fist pounding pulpit BAPTIST....I was taught until DEATH do you part------The man I married back in 1971 nearly beat me to death and also one of our children in 1980. Something inside of me snapped----EYES wide open so to speak.....After nearly 10 yrs of constant physical and verbal abuse I realized that the DEATH do you part would come true if I didn't escape from this man and take my children with me!
It was a long struggle to win and build my self worth...but it can be done. I do not feel I'm going to HELL just because I divorced this rotten human being.
Men have put their own interpretations to what the BIBLE says too. Have you ever noticed WOMAN----don't have these insights as to what the scriptures tell us....it's always MAN...
GET your divorce----Stand with your head held high----and thumb your nose at the doctrine brain wash that you're having shoved down your throat on Sunday mornings!
2006-10-15 08:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to remember the Catholics wrote the bible so how can you trust what they say, look at all the scandals they have been in of late. You might be able to figure it out if you have the magical glasses. If you get married for the wrong reasons, why stay for the wrong reasons? Remember, the good book says you can be forgiven for anything, as long as you let the man be the ruler of the house and you stay home and not have a voice in public. What a bunch of bunk !!
2006-10-15 07:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lucy, although I understand your logic in thinking (Roman Catholic myself), I think your fears say it all. God does not punish us for wanting to make the best of our lives. If you believe and fear God, which it is clear you do, then you are living your life according to his words in the bible. If you read the whole bible, you'd know that we are here on this earth for a purpose....God has a plan for each and every one of us. It doesn't matter how we accomplish that plan, what matters is that we do it while believing in God, have love in our hearts, and go about our days with him in mind. Being in a bad marriage, isn't going to allow you to do that. It will wear on your soul, harden your heart, and bitter your thinking. If you've tried and tried to make this work to no avail, and your gut is telling you to walk away, listen to it honey. God put us on this earth to enjoy all that he's created for us, he did not intend for us to be miserable and with Jesus dying on the cross for our sins, I'm more than sure you are going to be okay.
As for how do I know? I believe God is not the vindictive type who reigns down his wrath if we do something wrong. People make mistakes...we are human, not perfect, and God accepts that.
2006-10-15 09:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the Bible teaches Is that we can divorce because of [hardness of heart]but we cannot remarry, because we still have a living spouse] we can divorce, if we thought we were marrying a virgin, and find they were not virgins,and the one who was fooled can remarry, but the one that fornicated before marrage cannot remarry,we cannot remarry because of adultery, the Bible does not teach, that we can remarry because of adultery, it says only for FORNICATION, And fornication is not the same as adultery. If we could remarry because of adultery, then anyone would be justified by comitting adultery, and as you look at the rise in divorce in the world, you will see that is what people are thinking, BUT they are decieved. we make vows to live with the one we marry untill death, not untill adultery. WE CAN divorce, or seperate ourself from them, but we CANNOT remarry,If we remarry we are comitting adultery, and that is a sin, we can be forgiven for sin if we TURN away from that sin.
2006-10-15 08:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well girly in the bible it says to deal with it, work it out. Divorce is only an option if he is terribly abusing you. It speaks of this in the book of Corinthians chapter 7 when it speaks of a holy marriage. I hope that helps.
2006-10-15 08:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it will keep you out of heaven. While God might not strike you down or punish you in this life, you will feel his wrath and then some after your death. How do I know this? God and I used to play raquetball together after work, we would talk about things like this.
2006-10-15 07:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no lucy, divorce will not keep you out of Heaven. i do agree with one of your other answers, please counsel with your pastor first. God's word tells of only one unforgivable sin. that is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. other than that, exercise your faith, believe in your faith and ask for forgiveness, accept God's forgiveness, move on with your life living your faith everyday.
2006-10-15 07:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hikerdad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your worried about divorce then try to have the marriage annulled by the church.
2006-10-15 08:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by d2347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God struck everyone dead that got a divorce, people would be dropping like flies.
2006-10-15 07:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋