I got married 4 months ago. Weird but looks like our sex life went down after that, no more crazy and spontaneous sex...Actually, we're making love maybe once in 2 weeks, my libido seems to be at the lowest point right now. Why? It's not enough for my husband. I am crazy about him so why is it that way??
2006-10-15 00:32:48 · 16 answers · asked by bella78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got married 3 months ago and the same thing happened. I think it might be stress, but also my hubby does not initiate a lot too much baseball on TV. when you figure it out let me know good luck
2006-10-15 01:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be due to stress? When you get married, there are so many issues to deal with: where to live, jobs, paying all the bills, meal preparation, housework, grocery shopping, laundry. It's a different world when you have these new responsibilities. Why are you refusing your husband so much? Can you just cuddle with him and let him relieve his needs even if you're not wanting sex? If you focus on HIM, not the sex, it will get better. A woman who's crazy about her husband doesn't refuse sex very often.
2006-10-15 00:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are dating there is always the anticipation that somethings going to happen between you during your time together, it can be a very strong aphrodesiac. After marriage you are together every day so the opportunity is always there. When things get slow for my wife and I, one of us wil call, email, or text the other and tell them what we are going to do to each other later, believe me spending the next 6 hours at work thinking about will bring your libido up. Sneaking off together for a quicky someplace unusual also helps to bring back that dating excitement
2006-10-15 01:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so simple and not exactly Rocket Science. The amount of women who post on here with this sort of problem or the 'He is playing away " or "We seem to be drifiting apart" problems... It is a mixture of insecurity and sexual repression. Make yourself indispensible, give him oral sex whenver and wherever he wants, in fornt of a movie, outdoors, when driving, in a adult cinema anywhere, and to completion, ANAL sex ditto the above, and never ever refuse, outdoor nudity and public fun, some BDSM and explore his feelings about group sex or soft swinging maybe at a club of people of the net..becasue if you don't..I promise that thousands of girls will take your place xx Oh! and igonre the religious nutters and puritan loonies who post, thay are either single for life or it is far too late, note the bitterness in the posts!
2006-10-15 01:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol! That's what I'd like to know! I've been married three times and that happened in all 3 instances. I think it's some ingrained thing taught when younger....here's what you have to do to get a man, then it gets all tense to make sure a man was gotten. Once had, she feels like she made her kill and doesn't have to comply with sex anymore. I'm sorry hun I think it must be a woman thing, but try this, look for things that excite you...different things, try new things with hubby...talk to him and see what he's willing to do/try/let you do. I'm sure he'll be more than eager to help since he will benefit from it.
2006-10-15 00:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, another couple gets married for the wrong reasons.
It takes more than sex to sustain a marriage and that is one thing that a true love marriage can do without.
Being in love and got the hots, two different things. Maybe you can learn how to be in love now.
2006-10-15 00:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i,ve been with my partner for 13 years and i know what you mean if he loves you he will understand but you have to give a little if you want to have sex with him you need to be the one to say or show it once you do it will happen and your libido will come back. show some love.
2006-10-15 06:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by lady o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to worry,guess u are just out of excitement, need to go back in your mint to when u were dating and bring back the memories, coupled with your expectations for the future. that should do the trick,happy married life.
2006-10-15 00:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be something in wedding cake icing. This is a very common occurance. Even when your not in the mood and hubby is let him make love to you. You will get into it and enjoy it and he will know you love him.
2006-10-15 02:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your focus is different now, the "game" is over (courtship), bills and problems prevail. Take time to set aside those problems, and spend quality time together, not necessarily for sex, but for love and bonding! :)
2006-10-15 00:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋