why do us girls always end but hurting more then boys? why do we hold on to the past when then can move on five mintues later? why do we still ring and text them? when they tear our hreats apart? why do we still want to be friends? why do we still care? why do care when they keep hurting us?
2006-10-15 00:27:59 · 21 answers · asked by laura m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If only I knew. I still dream every night about the bastard that dumped on me and I still want to be his friend! God knows why I have plenty of friends. Guess its like they say 'time is a good healer' and the best remedy is get out there and flirt and have a laugh and realise just how special you are. You are obviously a caring sensitive girl. Be strong and move on!!! x
2006-10-15 00:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by pinkkitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't agree with Shadow on this one.
Society expects guys to move on more quickly and get on with life. It's sort of forced upon us. Decades and generations of men being the breadwinner have seen to it. It previous years it was essential for survival.
Guys can hurt a lot, believe me I'm a guy have been there and done it and have cried a lot in private, public is a different thing however.
As society conditions guys to be a man and move on with life there is less demand and support for guys to sort there problems out.
therefore my belief is Guys just get very strong and resolved as a result of this but don't know why or have the language to understand what worked and what didn't work as a consequence.
Therefore guys don't necessarily expand their knowledge of their failures (in all walks of life) as women do. And there is a saying that we learn more from our failures than we ever do from our successes.
I guess what I am trying to say is that what you phrased in your question (and where I do agree with Shadow) .is the weaknesses that you are suggested are in fact strengths and although it is painful you should look upon it as highly positive that you will grow from your experiences.
I do however urge you to encourage men you know to talk about their feelings more, afterall we can all improve our lives and the planet with a little more understanding.
2006-10-15 08:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think you can generalise like that. Sometimes I've hurt a lot more than the girl when we've split up, sometimes it's been the other way round.
You should find the answer inside yourself if that's how you are feeling :)
Talking helps, if you still really hurt after sometime maybe you need to see a counsellor.
2006-10-15 07:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, men are predatory, while women are more nuturing and emotive - Does this mean men have no emotions such as you describe? - don't you believe it!
We may not show it as much, or even admit to it (the macho instinct prohibits), but hey - those caring, nuturing, emotions you have are some of the very traits which we guys find so appealing.
There are plenty of us out there who feel the hurt, admittedly there are some who inflict uncaring hurt on others, but there is one or more who will be there for you when needed most.
Keep your caring nature, accept that not all us guys are nice guys (that's our problem, not yours), and some time you and your mr. nice guy will meet.
2006-10-15 07:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women feel things differently to men. A guys different in that he can put things to the back of his mind a lot quicker than a woman. Thing is though, even though this is true guys still hurt as well you know even though we try to make out that we don't cos of the macho thing.
2006-10-15 07:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're about 14? Get over it and get on with your life. Obviously the guy did. Sounds more like you're trying to write a really sad poem or something! Get over it and stop dwelling on what's now in the past.
2006-10-15 07:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically, women are more emotional creatures than men. However, I think that men feel the same things that we feel. But, they are better at hiding them. Have you ever heard the old saying..."women wear their hearts on theirs sleeves"? Well, it's true. It is also that women are more prone to care about someone's feelings, etc. We may show our feelings differently, but men and women aren't that much different. We are just a little more honest about how we feel. That's all.
2006-10-15 07:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly u are generalising with ur comments!!!! in my experience women are much more hard hearted than men, i find they are able to just move on while im still thinking about them and hurting! this simply shows that both sexes can be like this when they no longer like sum1 and have moved on 2 sum1 else!!
2006-10-15 07:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by adriboff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough being a girl, but all this pain and hurt means that we grow up to actually be a lot stronger emotionally than a man could ever be, I promise. xxxx
2006-10-15 07:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are always more emotionally invovoled and I think a lot of us tend to wear our heart on our sleeve, but we also allow it to happen.
Men hurt too, it's just that many of them don't show it as openly as we do.
2006-10-15 07:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by horsegal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋