I'm 17 & i'm studying in a pre university college 1st yr. I'm new to this college it's very huge but i've very less close frnds. I've made many frnds over here but i feel very uncomfortable with them. I dont have so much fun with them as much fun i used to have with my old frnds i'm really missing my school days & all my best frnds.......
2006-10-15 00:21:08 · 15 answers · asked by nutan_nutty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i totally relate with you.i was in my school for the last 14 yrs and had my best frnd there.i really enjoyed with them and loved them and still do.but then this year i shifted to a new school with a totally different atmosphere.honestly i too miss my friends and the fun i had there but i have stopped comparing.i guess if you to stop comparing things will get better.look around your new campus and find the good traits.think of your past life as a closed chapter and begin this new chapter of life.i call mine phase-2.relate with your new friends.if you find discomfort in their company then try and tell them about it and change the thing that cacauses discomfort.dont open up completely but start with the small stuff like what you like, what your ideas and opinions are about different issues.you dont find good frienmds easily but this world is made up of a great variety of ppl.contradiction makes life interesting!and just relax write a dairy for confiding your feelings and keep it hidden.think of your newe life and the mistakes that you wont commit as you did in part 1.it takes time but soo you adjust.share thing with you frnds like private jokes or making fun of proffessors.roam around your campus with them and just hang out.life starts at 17 but those who say it have never lived their childhood.be confident and relax.i am sure you will start enjoying.good luck
2006-10-15 00:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 everyone goes through what you have been through at the moment. Having found yourself in a new college with a new set of friends no doubt puts you in a discomfort and no wonder your feelings go to old days friends. But you should know one thing that it is common for a youngster to be in a new environment when it comes to study or career and the best thing at the moment for you is to find a same friend who too is in the same situation as you and strike a friendship. Both of you start sharing what you two miss from the recent past and try building up a friendship. Apart from finding a soul mate in a friend try calling up your old mates, talk to them about the new friend you have found, intro him or her, try sending mails to old friends about the new environment you are in, how do you find it etc. Keep a diary of what new things you find in the college, how many new friends you got etc. log on to the local websites and try find some interesting tourist attractions, get help from local friends to show you around those places, take pictures of the places you visit, share the pics with your old friends. In this way you can not only share your feeling with your old mates but also share the same with the whole world that is not far away from you. Still doubtful log on to yahoo answers try reading questions and answers of the participants and you will find you are not ALONE ANYMORE. all the best.
2006-10-15 07:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by ECQC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Nutan i can say that u should always try to make new friends and should never compare with the old one's as they may have similarity.But u must always feel that these are the people that u going to live with till ur University is done.So u must always make them feel comfortable with U as they must also have the feelings as u r having right now.
so getup and cheer up and find a good group of friends in ur university..bye take care..
2006-10-15 07:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by satish k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the friends with whom you have developed friendship cannot be uncomfortable as you think. You have to choose good persons among them. While selecting a good friend, you should bear in mind the following aspects.
1.His character 2) His habits 3) Attitude & behaviour with others
4.His report in the college 5) His family background 6) His past history.
You have to make little exercise to gather information. Don't mind if you get one or two good friends. You can unhesitatingly share your feelings with them.
2006-10-16 02:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be really hard for you to adapt to new situations especially when u dnt have close friends but I think you should join more clubs at college for example if you're interested in playing chess etc. That way you can make new friends whom you share the same interst with. Hope this helps buddy.
2006-10-15 07:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by sim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i cn undertsnd wht ur goin thru n its nt easy lemme tell u....such changes do disturb us to a lot extent n in skool uve been frends for a long time say around 14 yrs or so....but u cud meet up ur old frends too n it takes time to build close friendship wid college mates....here evryones come out of a cocoon n r trying to change n adjust to da new independent life so they dont trust each oder so easily n hence may take time to come close to u jus wait n let time pass in da mean while hangout wid dem do things u like ....go out for movies n lunches n alwez try to b of ne help wer u can b dis wil get u closer...al da best!!!
2006-10-15 16:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by jess_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nutan nut
It happens when any thing change, please acept the change, you are now from school to college, in school your spent many year, not possible immidiately to forget old association but in new envoiremement it will take time to understand earch other, as you are uncomfortable with your class mates, they may too be with you.
Open your heart of friendship toward them with fair mind. Talk with them openly of fair subjects, check their inner strength then to whom you feel, he or she can be a good friend for you, can keep your secret with him/her, understand your feeling and have no personal greed, extend your friendship hand towards him/her.
you will see the difference but first extend your hand without any prejudice/ greed but with pure love and friendship a fair friendship. you will have all happines in your lap, then you will not have much time to remember your old friends and busy with new friends, this is world a continuing...
Best of luck, hope after three year you be in Master programme with flying colours or in any high prefession.
2006-10-15 07:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by MK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry .i happend to me too when i joined in college then graduation .more or less time but definitely u will adjust to it & start liking it. it would be hard for u now till then make a call to ur friends, or spend time chatting .
2006-10-15 07:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by amithaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz dont worry ! i understand ur problem .. just relax..
we cannot have all the time goods in our life... but may be u are going to experience something more happening in college...
and keep ur things wd in u.. dont share.. bcoz ppl hurts us when they got to know wht we have wd us... best of luck it is a secret..ok friend
2006-10-15 07:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by styleguru_1986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A mother is a best friend at all times.
2006-10-15 14:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Muttama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋