this man calls me @ work @ least 5 times a day.if i tell him i can not talk he calls back in 5 or 10 min. calls cell phone with the number to show when i don't answer he calls back with the number hidden.he tries to force money on me. yes i have takin money before but notice he is getting needy. never hade sex with him.made it known of no romantic intrest.he looks like a psych patient. i don't want to hurt his feelings because he doesn't have any friends. calls my job and ask coworkers when i work,he doesn't take no for an answer ask when do my cycle come on so he can go buy my personals.wants to dress up and serve me and my date like a formal dinner, going in army full time and want to set up alliottment for me. wants to meet me place and buy things for me if i let him he tries to kiss me on my cheek. i just can't shake him. no one will tt him because he is the same way with everybody. tries to buy friendship. reads romance novels to impress. all of these thing is not cool help me!!!
2006-10-14 22:35:07 · 22 answers · asked by Michelle M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he's not an annoying man...he's a downright stalker...
I think you better seek authorities or anybody to get him out of your life, if this continues, and you let the whole thing be draggy and unclear, still gives in to his weirdo requests, one day you decided to break once and for all with him, he will go even more crazy...better to act fast, don't drag on.
2006-10-14 22:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by meow 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Michelle,,,
That's not an annoying man.
That's a Actual Stalker or a Latent Stalker.
Nobody ever thinks those things will develop into anything seriously dangerous or even Deadly.
Most times,it does not get that far,,,even if it does get LOTS Worse.
Several people here immediately and clearly pegged the guy as a stalker.
How?Why?
Cuz "Your guy" is TEXTBOOK of what we've all read in the headlines about Too Many Tragedies .
Take it Seriously.
It's Better than in the past,,but it's Still HARD to get anything done about it "Legally" untill it's gone further than it should.
Tell EVERYBODY You Know that You're being stalked and disclose the Guy's name,description,and other details.
Tell your Family,Friends,Neighbors,,Workplace so they will be at least aware of what's happening in that aspect of your life
"Visit" your local police station and explain your situation in detail.
You DONT have to press charges,,,probably couldn't anyway,,at this point.
But you MIGHT be able to file an "Information Report",,,which is sort of an Official Memo of the conversation/"visit" which goes into a file.
What it does,,,is to DOCUMENT your concerns.
It establishes a "1st alert" to Law Enfoircement that,,the guy aint right.
Then,if You ever have need to Call the Cops on him...they take that Initial Contact into consideration to establish a PATTERN of the guy's behaviour.
You might even call the District Attorney's office.
The more ATTENTION You can focus from Others onto HIM,,,the SAFER You are.
Friends and Neighbors are AWARE,,and can be on better LookOut for the guy creeping around...
Cops already heard about him once,,,so next time he's then annoying THEM
No matter what You decide to do,,,
BE CAREFUL and stay Alert to your surroundings.
Beware of HIM,,,,
there is NO WAY to predict when such characters will shift into Throat-Cutting Mode.
You may run him off & he leave peacefully--then come back SNAPPED after a ride around the block & looking for Blood.
Dont Ever think,,"It wont Happen to me..."
Wake Up,,,it already IS,,and has been.
It's already advanced a few levels.
All You're Betting Your Life on now is,,
How Far what's Already Happening will go.
Guy dont Sound Like a Stalker,,He IS a Stalker by definition
Get Serious
He is
2006-10-14 23:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by TXm42 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is very much like stalking and most city and states have laws about it. If he will not take no for an answer keep documentation of the calls and unwanted visits etc. and report him to the authorities. If this is what you decide to do tell him no and cut off all ties to him, you cant tell him no one day then the next day be friendly to him. Sending mix messages would negate any action the authorities could take. Good Luck
2006-10-14 22:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by twonew21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hate to be the one to say this but' There are a lot of stupid men out there. It messes it up for guys like me. The only thing i can tell you to do is report him to the cops where they will know to watch him. In the mean time maybe you could find you a BIG boyfriend that can take him. Or' Just kick him in the gonads. Maybe if he is not to stupid he will catch on. Come out and tell him that you are not interested. After that take no more calls from him. If you have to change your #.
2006-10-14 22:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a serious problem and if you have any big guy friends or brothers that wouldn’t mind giving him a good scare that’s what I would do!lol If that doesn't work call the cops! This guy sounds like a freak! But maybe I would suspect a freak like that probably has some sick fantasy or perception about his perfect girl for him. So maybe if you know some of his friends ask them if there is anything he feels strongly about. For example maybe he believes strongly in something political like abortion. And if he does; start wearing pro-choice or pro-life shirts and ruin his fantasy and make him disinterested in you.
2006-10-14 22:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by reganomics 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you actually told him any of this? If not do the following, heck maybe do it anyway: Report him to the police, let your coworkers and management know what's going on with this guy so that he won't know when you're working, change your numbers and for god's sake (do you have NO common sense????) stop taking his damn money!!! With the last bit taking his money you're leading him on and letting him know that you can be bought, even if it is "only" your friendship.
2006-10-14 22:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mariah 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should communicate your feelings upfront, honest & direct to him. Don't keep leading him on because you don't want to hurt his feelings. The more you encourage him (by not telling him to stop), the more he will continue. In his mind, he may be thinking you not only like him doing this, but also there is the real possibility of a more intimate relationship. I realise you don't want to hurt his feelings, & the fact he may not have any other friends, but his behaviour is starting to have a negative impact on your quality of life. Life is to be enjoyed. It is not your job to role play with this guy. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should make a stop to it. Harrassment & stalking is a crime.
2006-10-14 22:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is so simple you entertain it by allowing him to buy you things and accept money from him. Stop It!!!
Just tell him to leave you alone the time to be subtle is long over. Tell him to get lost, guys can handle it, do it and get on with your life!
2006-10-14 22:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jaylaw 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my past relationships, I have learned that you have to make the guy think it's his idea to go away and leave you alone.How you accomplish that is probably different for eveyone that uses the technique. Use your imagination. You definitely have to find the one thing that will make him want to go away.
2006-10-14 22:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by babidoozer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be upfront with him...Tell him he drives you insane. For most NORMAL people that is enough. Also, i just read TXm42's comment and I agree....That's two of us! Take Heed and beware! Oh yeah, the other one is.... MACE OR PEPPERSPRAY!
2006-10-14 23:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋