we are ment to get married in 9 weeks but i am having doubts. I know he loves me but in his worls there is no such thing as 50 50 and it is driving me nuts
2006-10-14 22:09:50 · 15 answers · asked by omissy2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If u are having any doubts at all then it's best to cancel the wedding. Chances are, issues like these don't get resolved with marriage and it only has the potential to cause big problems later on.
2006-10-14 23:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belivie everything should be laid out on the table before the marrige hun. Marriage consists of honesty.If you can't be honest with the man your going to marry there is something wrong.I say this becuz the 1st year of marriage is usualy the hardest.Many parterns think the other will magicaly change and grow up after saying there vows.nope...what u see is what u get.So don't go in blind or hoping things will work itself out take the intative and bring it up. This is ur life and ur happiness at stake .Know how much ur worth and don't ever put ur feelings on hold or u will never stop (speaking from experience) wish u best of luck in what happens
2006-10-14 22:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know now before it is to late. This will only get worse. Now is the time to get every thing out in the open. If you are going to marry then both have to know that it is a shared life. The words of both have to be heard and considered. Let him know now that you will not be done this way. What you have to say counts to.
2006-10-14 22:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its about give and take and acceptance of the ratio irrespective of the percentage, if you wanted a 50 / 50 ratiio perhaps you shouldn/t have settled for what you have now as you have condonned the ratio as it currently stands.
You can't complain if you have been tolerating it, marriage isn't going to change that...
2006-10-14 22:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jaylaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way a guy will listen is if hes face down on his face tell him ur leavin him if he doesnt listen to you if that doesnt work try counseling
oh and relationships are never ever 50 50 sorry not even marriages
2006-10-14 22:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cant meet you half way then DO NOT get married. Things probably are not going to change just because you are married. There is nothing wrong with waiting. what is more important? being happy or rescheduling?
2006-10-14 22:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stand on a chair, take your shirt off, and say, "Look at my boobs!", then once you have his attention, say Honey, look at my mouth." now you have his undevided attention. depending how he responds, you'll know in your heart.
50/50 that's a hard one. A gentleman, feels less than a man if he is not the provider.
2006-10-14 22:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need to go to a minister and get counceling now before the marriage. Tell him if he doesn't go there will be no marriage. You need to get this worked out before the marriage or you will wind up miserable or a runaway bride. good luck.
2006-10-14 22:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by marilee w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people have doubts before they are due to get married, talk to him make him listen as this is your future, if he doesnt listen to you then do you really want to marry a man like that?
2006-10-15 02:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by crazycase2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him while you are eating in a restaurant that you want to postpone the wedding!!! he can't make a scene and he''' definately LISTEN. Argghh men.
2006-10-14 22:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by NOTurBFF!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋