My husband and I are 19 and 20.. Im 37 weeks preggo. He doesnt see an issue when he invites his guy friend over with his prospective girlfriend and her extremely cute friend that is single that he knew vaguely in high school to drink vodka while Im at work.. I managed to get off work to a drag show that they were all going to and I was totally left out! My husband and these other people sat in a circle and I just so happened to be on the backside of it. The single girl even sat in his lap! He sat in hers! all the while Im sitting outside the circle right behind him by myself. Afterwards we went out to eat with a booth that seats 4, guess who had to sit in a booth by herself... fat preggo wife. He is even trying to get her a job where he works... He doesnt see how this upsets me! The next day after I told him how hurt I was about the girl he drove to her house by himself to get his jacket and wallet that she ended up with! Shouldnt she have dropped it off at his friends house?
2006-10-14 22:02:06 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He said he was going for a drive to think and I called his guy friend who told me that he went to the girls house to get his jacket. When I confronted him about where he went he never brought it up.
2006-10-14 22:03:47 · update #1
As much as I hate to tell you this sweetie it sounds like he's cheating on you this is never easy especially when theres going to be a child involved my advice to you leave the bastard and sue him for child support or get him to sign over his rights No man or woman deserves to be treated the way he's treating you in the end the choice is up to you but you might want to ask yourself is this the role model I want for my child??
2006-10-14 23:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pregnant and working and he's having a good time while your at work--That's a NO--NO! You didn't mention if he's working so I can't go there about that. What I do know--No woman should be in your house around your husb when your not home. Not even your mother, sis, aunt, etc..--that's how things get twisted. When they did the lap thing you should said something, that is total disrespect. This man is having an affair in your face--going 2 her house, getting her a job and he barely knew her. He has feelings 4 her that's why he's getting sloppy at what he's doing. He doesn't care about you and your feelings--if he did he would leave this chic alone. If hubby can't get it 2gether I suggest u leave him alone. I rather raise my kid alone with a piece of mind--than holding on 4 the kid sake and being dogged. Tell those girls 2 stay out your house!
2006-10-14 22:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is cheating on you. I am so sorry you are going through this. I would never tolerate such as thing. It is definetly time to sit down and have a talk with him to see if he is really committed to your marriage. I would also explain how you feel about the other woman. You could try marriage counseling, if he is willing.
I hope things get better for you. If he really does end up being a jerk, then you are better off without him. You really don't want your baby to be raised around an uncommitte cheater, right?
Take Care!
2006-10-14 22:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think about what you want to do here, He is obviously not respecting you as his wife, and he is obviously carrying on a relationship with this girl. It is plain and simple. I would leave and move on with my baby, make him pay child support. Why are you at work pregnant and he is at home playing games with Friends getting intoxicated mid afternoon. you deserve better, let him go and get yourself together for yourself and your child. Let him and girlfriend have each other, neither one of them have any morals or self respect. They can torture each other. Being alone and happy without the disrespect is not the worst thing that could happen. A child growing up in a single parent household is better than growing up in a house with two parents who do not have any life together and one is being so blatantly disrespectful of the other, what is he going to do after the baby is born stay home drunk and entertain while you work and have girlfriend baby sit. come on you deserve better here. Get your self together and move on. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-15 00:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to believe in family. My solution would be way strange and you might not like it. Personally, I would have a talk with his brother or sister about setting up a similar situation with the table turned on him. Ie have one of them bring a friend to dinner and flirt you up or have you sit on the guys lap without letting your husband know it was a setup. If it gets him jealous and keeps him home great. If not, I wouldn't trust him and would set to work on getting a part time job or higher education right away. I would establish myself to not need him, so I can afford to leave him as soon as I'm ready and I'd surprise him when I do it. ie I wouldn't let him know I lost trust until I no longer needed him. It would be great, if you can get his family's support especially if they are close knit. Good luck, you shouldn't have to go through thisat any time, but especially not when you're so close to delivering.
2006-10-14 22:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously enjoying the attention this other female is giving him. I just cant believe she is doing it right under your nose, i am totally sorry about that. What you have to remember though is your pregnant, i know its easy to say not to stress about it, because i know i would be too. I would honestly ask him if he has any feelings for this girl and ask him to tell you the truth. If he denies anything is going on then maybe get someone to follow him one day or something like that to find out if your not just immagining what could be going on. Your not happy and you should be, pregnancy is a wonderful thing. I just hope everything goes ok for you. But remember out your own self before anyone else. Get your parents to help you out in this as much as possible if you can. Good Luck in your future!!
2006-10-14 22:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by -=á?¦ §êÃ?Ã¥ ?=- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, sounds like the man is cheating or flirting a little bit too much! I believe that the reason why he is doing this, is because your preggo! I bet once you give birth to that baby, and lose some of that baby weight, he'll be all over you. You also gotta think, you guys are still so young. Put that man in check and make him remember the vows he said to you.
2006-10-14 22:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Gabbrielle S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband needs to expect you more as his wife and his child's mother. To me, you should of talk to him aside that night the girls and other friends where at your house drinking. That girl just showed no respect of you. You need to be tough when it comes to other woman steps into your territory. If you don't defense it the first time, they will be getting the wrong message of you are OK with them doing so with your man.
2006-10-14 22:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mochi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes obviously not ready to be a father and being around trashy little homewreckin whores makes him forget about the huge responsibility that will inevitably arrive in three weeks. i would have a heart to heart and find out where his head is at. if he continues to act this way move home and let him see what he stands to lose. you r beautiful --and no little whore should make you feel any different. good luck always
2006-10-14 22:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by nonners1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't want to discourage you, but pregnant women generally are less attractive than the other women. You gain weight, move slower, you might also be more irritated than usual. And probably your husband doesn't like this. In a nuvella I read, the title of a chapter was "If you don't want me, I want you". You should be like this. Even if he doesn't ask you to sit on his lap, you go and do it. You're his wife, you have all the right in the world. And another thing: try looking as pretty as you can, and don't neglect the sex life.
In my opinion, you got pregnant a bit too early... You're barely out of your teens! But it was your choice, and I hope things will work out good.
Good luck!
2006-10-14 22:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋