I know what the typical answers are. But just to elaborate on this relationship. This man and I have been friends for over a year, and gradually it grew into a much deeper feeling. Possibly on both sides. He has told me he loves me, but I have yet to return the saying. I feel bad about his wife, but I don't feel guilty for loving him. It seems right to me. I know that he feels very deeply for me. I have discussed this with a very close friend and she asks if I expect him to leave his wife. I don't know how to answer that question. I couldn't ask him to do that, but if he did I would be very happy. I do love this man. He is quite possibly my soulmate. The problem I have is, do I let him go now, or do I pursue this relationship and posibily get the man of my dreams? The marriage is not a happy one. They married because she got pregnant. We have not been intimate and I do not plan on being until he is divorced. Please don't answer if you don't have some CONSTRUCTIVE advice!
2006-10-14 21:58:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him go now. Seeing a married man with a child is no foundation for a relationship. Even if he and his wife are having problems and they are not happy, who's there to say they can't work through this. All marriages have problems and his is no exception. If you two were together, will he love someone else when you have problems. What a man does to one woman he'll to the same thing to another. Your soulmate will not be someone's husband, who's looking for a way out of an unhappy marriage, that you'll have to wait around for. He'll be single, trusting, caring and bringing you joy and happiness. You will not have to wonder about him. You and you alone will be the apple of his eye.
2006-10-15 08:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by merry59 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it's kind of hard for me to believe that you have not been sexual with him...My advice to you is put the relationship on ice for awhile and see what happens...First of all I wouldn't want his marriage to end on my behalf if it was not based on love to start with than let him make the decision...Because if he does happen to leave her for you and it doesn't work out who do you think is going to be the blame....If its possible that he may be your soul mate than nothing will stop destiny....Give him some space and see what happens....
2006-10-14 22:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because men looks like a man/gentleman at the age of 30+. Generally below that age u can see him as a normal collage going boy not a man. May be that might be one of the reasons that girls get attract to man.
2016-03-18 09:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! A man will take care of his family first. If he doesn't, that will show the kind of character he has. Unless you feel like being the other woman, there will be a big problem
2006-10-14 22:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats why I try not to get involve with married men. Well u got to ask how much u really want him and will is he really to go that far with u. Are u able to handle that if the ex wife ask for help or check out the child are u emtionally ready for it. If not better step back. U must be very strong and determine if u really want to go on with him.
2006-10-14 22:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is characterless..sory to say but from how much time uhv known this perosn u r in love with... how can u believe such person & even love him... juz remembr he made sum1 pregnant..in his senses.... & the marriage is not successful i know but if he loved u then he shdnt hv made that gal pregnant & even married her wen u were already in his life??why?? juz think over it, dont trust this guy m sure u will get a gud n nice person.itz not an end.of life.. & i guess he is right wen he married her itz his duty 4 that child.but if he doznt love that gal then y he made love to her... sory 2 say but if u love him still u have to make a gap from him for ur good sake dear all i can sat this 2 u.hope u realize b4 itz too late.. juz sit down & think rationally
BEST LUCK!
2006-10-14 22:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by ur frnd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless, if the marriage is a happy one or not.....the fact remains that he's married. It's just plain WRONG to persue a married man. Put yourself in the wife's shoes. You wouldn't like it. You apparently have no respect for him or yourself here. You need to remove yourself from this completely. Have you no....morals.
2006-10-14 22:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by xxx 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Just think before you act and maybe talk to him about leaving his wife because you guys could have a totally great relationship and its just unfair on him if his marrige is **** and he doesnt want to be in it, it would be unfiar on both! Good luck
2006-10-14 22:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cokie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed of yourself. You're a home wrecker.
2013-12-06 03:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Ur heart is in its place you will work out this relation.
If it is in your head you will leave him.
This is, considering that he is married because his wife was pregnant and they had to marry.
2006-10-14 22:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋