This is geared towards people who lost their virginity before marriage. What made your wedding night special? And to people who stayed virgins till marriage do you think it is as special for those who are not as those that are? For people where one person was and one person wasn't has it caused any rifts in your relationship like one person being jealous that they weren't the other's first or does one regret loosing their virginity and not waiting? No real reason to ask this question I was just talking about it with a friend and wanted to know what other people think.
2006-10-14 20:43:23 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the newly married couple has never had sex before....it's special but probably very scary, shocking and humbling. ;) hehe
If one is virgin and the other is not....it's possible that it might go a little better than the first scenario....the one who has had sex before may make the wedding night more comfortable and sweet.
If both partners have had sex before...but never with each other....it should be exciting and new and whoaa! ;)
If both partners have had sex before with each other, I guess it's the thought of being legal and married makes it special and exciting and having sexual relations as a married couple!
About 'rifts' in the relationship because one wasnt....that should have been dealt with prior to getting married. ;)
2006-10-14 20:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
".Then how do these people have a "good" wedding night if they have already had sex before?? Isnt the charm of wedding night all lost if they have premarital sex??." Um, that would be a big, fat, NO! My wedding night was awesome BECAUSE I'd had plenty of pre-marital sex! Our wedding night is still on the Top 5 list of sexual encounters between my husband and I, it was that awesome. By the time we got back to our hotel room, we were SUPER turned on and the sex was fantastic. We then went on to have similarly great sex for 3 consecutive nights while on our honeymoon. Had either of us been virgins, that wouldn't have happened. It would have instead been painful, awkward, and traumatic. There's no way in hell I would have wanted to be a virgin on my wedding night, because I remember being a teenager trying to get used to sex, and all the frustration and pain and awkwardness that comes with learning about your body. I didn't even enjoy sex that much with my first lover. I had to "try out" a few guys before I really got the hang of things. Waiting until marriage might have doomed me to bad sex for life! However, I can only talk from MY experience and what was right for me. I had 12 lovers before my husband, and although if given a chance to do it over I would have skipped a couple of them, for the most part I'm glad I had those experiences, because they taught me a lot about myself. No matter how many times you've had sex, though, each person is a new learning experience. Every partner has their own little quirks about what they enjoy and what turns them on, and my husband and I are STILL learning new things despite working on out 9th year as a couple. No matter how many guys there were before your husband, HE will still be the special one because HE is the one you chose to share you life with, making him the last lover you'll ever have because he's the last one you'll ever want.
2016-03-28 09:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding night was great! No I wasn't a virgin when I got married ...far from it actually but it was still a very special night. I was in bed with the man I loved for a long time who was now my husband...that's a big deal!!! And very special as well. I don't believe people should wait until they are married to lose their virginity. I have always felt this way since I was young..which drove my mother crazy but I was always aware of how important sex was in a relationship...(I guess too many days playing sick and staying home watching Ricky Lake and Jenny Jones...LOL) But anyway...sex is very important in a marriage which is why you should test the waters and see if you could really spend the rest of your life with this person. Hey! It worked for me!!! :-)
2006-10-14 21:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage is a sanctity given by God. It is so hard as sexual beings to control ourselves. I trully believe if one waits for marriage, the marriage will be extremely blessed, and the sex fantastic. However, I slipped before marriage with the man that I married, and it was just as fantastic, because we truly loved eachother, and "made our vows before God". My husband had many partners before me, and yes, it did cause some "jealousy", however, we talked about the fact that it is his past, and he no longer has anyone in his heart but me. We have been married for 12 years, and now if he runs into an "ex" from his past, we can talk about it, and it does not bother me in the least. In fact, it cracks me up that I am curious about old flames all these years later, and he'll even say to me like "your boobs are way bigger than hers" or the sex stunk with her ( I'm sure he's trying to console me, but at least there are no jealousy issues anymore)!!
2006-10-14 20:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because alot of people have sex before marriage doesn't mean that the wedding night is a waste.....I think that that is a womens coice of what she wants to do......I just think that the wedding is special and the honeymoon and you being one is special I dont think that sex means everything so why do you have to wait till your wedding night also it is supposed to be fun if you lost your virginity on your wedding night it would hurt..........Like I was saying b4 sex is NOT the answer for love......
2006-10-14 20:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by s.m_chicka_09 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The wedding night is going to be fantastic even if you have both been experienced before. Just the thought of being married and committing your lives together is enough to make the night wonderful. It is your first night as man and wife. It will always be great for the couple.
2006-10-14 20:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is great. That way you always have someone nearby to have sex with. And if you don't want to have sex, there is always someone nearby in case you change your mind.
This whole business of waiting till you are married has to be a individual choice. Would I have married my wife knowing that she had sex before ? Yes.
There is much more to marriage than sex.
2006-10-15 01:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What made our wedding night special was the fact that we were united as one and we knew we would spend the rest of our lives together. And even though it wasn't our first time, the sex was special because it was the first time we made love as man and wife.
Sex is painful and uncomfortable the first time and not something you want to experience on your wedding night, trust me! You want the sex to be good on your wedding night and first times usually suck. HTH : )
2006-10-14 21:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not consider fumbling around, not knowing quite what to do so special. We lived together before we married. I had a new gown for bed and we were in a great hotel with champagne. It was great.
2006-10-14 20:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question! People these days act as if virginity is a disease they must get rid of!
2006-10-14 20:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋