I love my wife and nothing is gonna change this,but I need diversity.
2006-10-14 20:21:55 · 14 answers · asked by alternative4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't convince my wife to get involved in swinger parties.She's not open-minded.So pretty hookers and condoms do the trick.Fair enough?
2006-10-14 20:24:42 · update #1
Why do I feel like a jerk,dammit?
2006-10-14 20:26:56 · update #2
be straight with her, tell her you can't be with just her. yeah, she'll be pissed, but it's better than if she found out you were cheating or something.
2006-10-14 20:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by hex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because, in my opinion, you are being a jerk.
I don't believe monogamy is nature's way, and there is tons of scientific data to support this. Monogamy is society's way.
That said, some people can handle swinging, some can't. Neither is wrong, it's just different strokes for different folks.
The point here is that you are cheating on your wife. That is wrong. In my opinion it shows little respect for her or your relationship. Turn the situation around: how would you feel if she was seeing others behind your back?
There is a huge difference between swinging and cheating. Swinging is something couples do together for the couple. Cheating is a selfish act of deception. Swinging is sharing, cheating is being selfish.
You'll find it hard to get into the lifestyle as a cheating "single male". Even if you lie to swingers you'll be sniffed-out really fast and most will not go there. Too much potential for drama.
I think you need to decide what is more important, this diversity, or your marriage.
2006-10-16 00:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are behaving like a jerk, that's why. Stop behaving like one, and you'll stop feeling like it. Although the reason you feel like a jerk, it seems...is because you love and respect your wife...weird as it may sound. You want to get her involved in your polygamy, but she's not interested, so you resort to prostitutes, but this is equivalent to cheating, so you hate it and feel like crap.
If you really love your wife, stop all activities that could or would hurt her. Instead of having diversity in women, have diversity in lifestyle. Focus on pleasing her, whether with candlelight dinner and a romantic romp in the bed, or with massages and a cuddle.If you really make her feel good, she'll want to do the same for ya.
Before you know it, monogamy would be the most natural thing in the world. Because you're putting too much energy into the rs to think of diversity.
2006-10-15 03:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Freelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't agree with you. If you love your wife she is the only one who you want. You don't need diversity because you can get plenty of diversity with her and a little creativity.
True love is devotion to one person. You love, respect, cherish, honor, and are true to one person.
I find monogamy to be very natural. I have never been able to date more than one person at a time. That one person seems to take up all of my energy, and I could not have enough left to give to a second boy friend.
2006-10-15 03:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do You alternative4 take, (your wife's name) to be You lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, as long as You both shall live?
Does that ring any bells? Did You agree, and pledge that before God and Your Wife?
You should have NEVER gotten married if You felt this way.
You are being selfish.
Let Your Wife move on with Someone who appreciates Her, and that will be Faithful to Her. Not only to be fair but especially before You infect Her.
Then You can go get a springer....I mean swinger.......
God Bless Your Wife, and God forbid any Children involved.
2006-10-15 03:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by JusticeStandsTall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should have never gotten married. Because monogamy is part of what marriage is all about. If i found out my husband was sleeping with HOOKERS behind my back (potentially giving me who KNOWS what kind of STDs) it would be over in a heartbeat, especially when i had already told him i was not ok with an open relationship. What you're doing is bound to really jeapordize your relationship with your wife.
Something like this really should have been discussed prior to marriage.
2006-10-15 03:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by zi_rakfiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u probably feel like a jerk because u are acting like a jerk! u have a consience for a reason, so y are u ignoring yours?
honestly if u didnt want to b monogamous y did u get married? It's wrong because u are lying to her, if u told her and she was cool with it, then it wouldnt b a problem! but if she's NOT cool with it, then u should divorce. she deserves not to b lied to by sumone she trusts, there are too many std's running around, plus u deserve to b with sumone u can be honest with and enjoys the samethings you do!
2006-10-15 03:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't love your wife, you have not proof in any way that you love your wife. you think of her as a pet that you feed and cloth but that is not love.
and to your question. Yes monogamy is natural. 5 billion people in the world and most are in a form of marriage.
2006-10-16 13:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Monogamy is the evidence of our superior nature, unlike animals. Would you feel the same if she would be cheating on you? poor girl your wife, you don't deserve her
2006-10-15 03:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by viziata 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Monogamy is unnatural for some people, and for those people, realizing it is unnatural for them, they should be honest and upfront with anyone they date, and NEVER get married. What were you thinking?
2006-10-15 04:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one needs "diversity". One person should fulfill everything..monogamy is natural.
2006-10-15 03:25:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋