I dont want it at all. He looks at porn lots, and doesnt care what I think about it, so whatever.
I dont want to have sex with him but he still wants to have sex with me, I told him to get it elsewhere or find someone that can suit his needs...he tells me to ***** off...I think we should end it.
2006-10-14 19:47:31 · 19 answers · asked by navin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason I do not want to have sex with him is because he has been physically violent to me in the past, I have lost interest in him because of that, he thinks I use this as an excuse not to have sex with him. I havent left because he tells me to get ******* and that I will not get custody of our son, so what should I do.
He knows how I feel but doesnt listen.
2006-10-14 19:55:55 · update #1
sounds like it's pretty much over . ..
go to couples counseling to help with the transition to separation and divorce.
2006-10-14 19:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I can tell you is I am the one that that has always gave to my husbansd although I wasnt there the way I should have been .He still cheated but it hurts beause I gave him sex when ever he wanted or unless the red man was spilling his paint. In my case he cheated because of neglet thats it, I know it wasnt because of what I wasnt doing in the bed but what I wasnt doing when it came to heart. I hear people all the time say if he wants sex go find it somewhere else but guess what when he does it not a goos feeling AT ALL! dont say that cause believe me you dont really want that. Find out what is keeping you turned off from him and fix it! Marriage is so misunsderstood and that is the problem. Love him and try to find what was it to make you love him so much before ansd try to repair it, people say counseling, that I dont agree, but if it works do it!~ but dont ever give up on something GOD has made for man kind to seperate themselves from this crazy world....... Bottom line, there is NOTHING out there, trust and believe me just bull ****! if they are not gay they are in jail! Molesters etc...If its just sex? Baby girl finds ways to make it better, If he is doing everything else give him that,,, believe me he has to be a great guy just alot of man power, there is nothing is nothing wrong as long as he is about you, GOD BLESS in your decision! Take care good luck
2006-10-15 03:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it could be both of you two. Why do you not want to have sex with him, is there a way that both of you can meet in the middle. Mabe both of you can enjoy a little porn, and give you a break from sex. Make it a one day a week thing mabe? I like porn, but I enjoy pleasing my partner more. In the end, it will be what makes both of you happy. If there isn't any compromise, there isn't much of anything. Wish i could help more...
2006-10-15 02:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by icu292876 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad, but I once dated a guy that was heavily into porn however It was not like he would lie in bed looking at a magazine then say, ok, I want some. We would watch some movies together but a hint to you.........when watching one together it he never got to see the whole thing! lol. Some men like it, some like it too much. It is just who he is. Perhaps he is just looking to do something different in the bedroom and you are not going along with it? I don't know. But don't feel like you are not beautiful or anything because he is coming to YOU.
2006-10-15 02:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so jealous! My husband has seemed to lost his interest. It's just a thing... He's a guy. Get drunk and deal with it a few weeks. You end up having the most outrageous sex when you're drunk. You shouldn't tell him to find someone else. Why don't you want to have sex? Do you feel unsecure with yourself? He finds you sexy and wants you, you should feel good about that, anyway. good luck
2006-10-15 02:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dignity and respect is a two-way street. tell u 2 f-off is not good at all: however finding a happy resolution could be as easy as making a date for consitual sex. IE: determine how many times you like sex and how many times he likes sex, and devide by two. if you dont like sex at all then the problem isn't him. the porn is a issue of men being more visually stimulated. try stimulating him by dressing sexy. he will be more emotional with you.
2006-10-15 02:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by erick j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is a definite problem somewhere in the relationship. If you don't really want to end it try counseling. If you feel like the relationship has run it's course and you don't love him anymore, then it might be best to end it. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-10-15 02:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can have emotional roots.
Perhaps he needs to get some counseling.
Some sex addicts use sex as a way to comfort themselves and the sex has nothing to do with sex or love. Time to get him some help.
2006-10-15 02:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need counseling...You just posted a question on who wants to **** your boyfriend....I think you both need help!
If he's your husband and you love him, why the hell are you treating him like that and why would you let him have sex with another woman?
Do yourself a favor and grow up...
2006-10-15 02:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U SERIOUS?!?! HELL YEA...u need to get a divorce immediately and for the time being just separate until your divorce is final. the best thing to do is to not be around him when he's vulnerable like that...so yea end it and move out.
2006-10-15 02:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by curious one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋