Baby switched at hospital?

Question

If your baby was switched at the hospital at what point would would you keep the baby you raised even it wasn't your biological child? If you found out at 1 year 3 years 5 years. At what point does the emotional bond outway the biological ties?

Answer 1

This is probabLy one of the best questions i have seen yet . Personally im at a stand still . Im really not sure. But i would talk to the other family and try to decide what they feel is best for both children.Biological bond is good but a loving family history is better ,Im not sure i could give up the baby i belived was mine but i would also want the baby that rightly belonged to me.WOW.i think i would want them both .i know this sounds bad and i know if it were to happen i couldnt have both but i know i would not be able to decide an be happy ether way the dice rolled.

Answer 2

the emotional bond is there when you take the child home, and raise it. What would make it any different to have one that was switched on you, or that you adopted. Neither one is your biological child, but that don't mean that you don't still love them. It would be hard, because you would want to see and get to know your own child, but it would be a stranger at that age. I would hope that the two families could come to an understanding that they just go on like they were, but both stay in the others lives no matter what??? I don't know though, if it happened to me, I might feel different... who knows... I am glad for the way that our hospital is now. they are very good with their rules...

Answer 3

I'll give you an answer, but I really have no idea what I'd do.

I've never understood why people insist that the biological bonds to a child are more important than a history of loving them and thinking of them as your child and having them think of you as their parents. I don't believe there's this cosmic pull or strange feeling or connection with someone who shares you DNA, but whom you never know.

That said, I don't think I would want to make a trade. I would have already loved the child I brought home, nursed, and took care of.

Then again, I'm really thankful I've not had to test this theory, because I've never been in that position.

Answer 4

I don't think you're torturing yourself. It's an interesting question that has been raised in both books and movies. I personally believe the betterment of the child is all that matters. It's selfish to break that bond between parent and child simply because of blood ties. 1 year maybe, any older and you risk emotional damage.

Answer 5

Does this seem right: On the same night, Milford maternity delivers Morgan, businessman James and Sarah's son, and Linda's boy Luke Wells, whose father Darryl Moncton left town never having wanted kids, so they will live with her parents, but a nurse switches the babies' name tags. Two years later, Darryl returns but denies paternity; he accepts a DNA test if she promises to leave his life anyway, revealing neither is Luke's biological parent. What must happen now?

Answer 6

ooh, tough one. After a few weeks I wouldnt have been able to part with my girl. If someone had said, But she's not REALLY your baby, I would have said I dont care, she is now. I would still want my biological child as well... assuming there was no fight with the other parents involved I would gladly take them both.

Answer 7

if you put a baby into my arms and told me this is the child that i carried for the term of my pregnancy i would instantly have a powerful emotional bond. it would be even as little as weeks before you couldn't take that baby from me.
at the same time, you couldn't get me to my biological child fast enough either. i'll keep both. :)

Answer 8

That's a tough question. I would think that I would talk to all parties involved (the other family), and try to come up with something that is beneficial and less traumatic for the children. I think that the process would be a lot harder the older the child. I hope this never happens to anybody.

Answer 9

definately get the psychiatrists involved in this one.. have counceling for both families and come up with a solution... if they are older than 3 or 4 they might need to co-parent both children some how.. or have visitations for each.. it would be a tough situation.

Answer 10

Why do you torture yourself with questions like these? With hospitals new security procedures, the chance of your baby being taken or switched is 1 in 300,000. Relax!!