Okay I really like my bf, I mean a lot, been dating bout 6 months now. We'll graduate high school this year and we talk about moving out of our houses to get away from our parents and we'll see if we move in together or near each other. The problem is; he says things like "Whatever you think is my answer" I mean he doesn't do it all the time but I don't want him to ever do it, well I mean for stupid things I don't care cause I do that too but he does it for big stuff. Plus he is SERIOUSLY talking of giving up being a chef so he can go to my college the last two years of college so we won't have to be apart. I'm trying desperatly to convience him not to do that, that things change and though we are together now we might not be later, plus in college we can see each other often. He won't listen he's determined to give it up and come with me. I want him to do his own thing and not ruin his life following me, what should I do to help him?
2006-10-14 19:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by prankstergirl91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FYI he's not clingy or needy or anything like it'd seem from this, he's actually the best bf I've had except for this part.
2006-10-14 19:11:46 · update #1
my best friend is doing the exact same thing. tell him that. that u love him so much that u dont him to throw away his future. tel him ull stil b together even if u do live fr but u care about him too much to let him thow away his futue like that. or ttry to find a college tthat offers both ur majors. or 2 colleges that r closer. do some research.
2006-10-14 19:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like all he is trying to do is support you, which is a good thing. A partners full support is one of the best things that you can have in a relationship so you should be happy about that. He clearly wants to be with you, and who knows you guys might be together for a very long time, so you should be doing all you can to be together. However if you think it is best for him to be doing his own thing what you could do is have a break from each other for a little while and pick up where you left off later down the track. This way the relationship isnt badly damaged and the both of you can focus on yourselves rather than each other. It may not be the easiest solution but it could be for the best. Either way I hope everything works out for you two, and i hope Ive helped. Good Luck
2006-10-15 02:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth.
Quit leading him on.
The issues is with and your inability to be truthful.
Tell him the truth - tell him that you are not interested any more and that you want to see other people. Do not expect him to get that from your little "hints."
If you do not do that, your situation will end on bad terms and you will be partially responsible. How would you like it if you were the one that is being strung along... think of it that way. Would want that person to lie to you and string you down some no-where path?
Do the right thing. If you can?
Most people run from the truth and blame others for their own weakness. So if you can't, don't worry, your like most others.
Good luck and have a happy life and remember to have fun....
2006-10-15 02:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by John Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that his profession means a lot to you . that you really need for him to be part of the dream as far as the home goes . he know your gonna get your way so why bother no bust to you i know if my g/f says this room would look better in this color i know to just go and put on painting pants . yall rule in that part hands down your situation sounds nice i wish you both well
2006-10-15 02:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone who has his act together - he doesn't understand what it means to be a man. A woman needs a man who is a leader, not one like this.
2006-10-15 02:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit him down and have a serious discussion tell him that if he gives up his dreams and later on he regrets it u do not want to the one that he blames
2006-10-15 02:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by earthgoddess777 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if me, i would just tied him up in a room and tell him not to ruinthis for me leave your own life man we see each other enough what more do you want
2006-10-15 02:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixwolf388 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
time to move on
2006-10-15 02:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u want to be controller.
2006-10-15 02:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋