im married and i have no parents to talk to.. im confused on what i should be thinking right now..
2006-10-14 18:41:49 · 20 answers · asked by christina p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
About five-and-a-half years ago, when Shrek came out in the theaters, my husband and I went to see it. I bawled. My husband teased me mercilessly, but the poor donkey didn't have any friends!
Ten days later, I missed a period. :-)
I think, first, you should take a home pregnancy test. I took six with my first (well, four on my own, and then when I told my husband, he went and got another box and made me take two more to see if they came up positive, cuz, you know, there are apparently many different ways to pee on a stick.)
You need to talk to your husband, too. Y'all need to decide how you feel about this news (we panicked, but he actually turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to us). I'm pro-life, so I can't in good conscience say that I think you should consider abortion, but I do think that if you don't want to keep the baby, adoption is a wonderful option.
Most people with children (especially unplanned children) will tell you that there's no "good time" to have a baby, it'll always be tight financially and it will always be a HUGE change. But that doesn't mean it can't be the biggest blessing of your life.
I hate that you don't have your parents to talk to. Are they still alive? I think you should still go to them and let them know. Even if there's been a MAJOR falling out, a lot of times, all that anger can disappear in an instant when there's a grandbaby involved. If they aren't alive, disregard that advice and accept my apology and sympathy.
You'll be okay. Just go ahead and find out if you are pregnant or not first. Home pregnancy tests are getting better every year, so you can find out sooner whether you are pregnant or not.
If you aren't, and this scared the daylights out of you, get on birth control immediately. If you are, make an appointment with a doctor, ASAP. Whether you plan to keep your baby, give it up for adoption, or have an abortion, you'll want to see a doctor to see how far along you are.
2006-10-14 19:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when I got pregnant I didnt know at first but I can tell you one thing it is an emotional rollercoaster. I went throguh a lot and a year later I am still going through a lot. It is a hard thing to experience but what I can tell you is that things will work out one way or another. You should sit down adn talk to your husband and go to the nearest clinic and get a test done from there. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing and it is something great to experience with your loved one, family, and friends. Your hormones are probably going through the roof, I know mine was. The best thing also is take a nice hot bath and collect your thoughts it helps, or read a book and just relax.
2006-10-14 18:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by livinlife06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy, we all go through worries if the time is right and so on, but it all works at the end. Hormones are always messing with our minds when things change in our bodies. I'm a mom of 2 and I was confused the 1st time, I've been trying to have another baby but its been hard, so be blessed if you are.. Congrats!!
2006-10-14 19:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by latinababy72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously... 17? married? wow! anyway...
if you think that your pregnant... than let that be! maybe that baby is in there already.. let it be! you cant abort the kid... the first right of the child is to be born and given a name... are u seriously taking away that right from your "maybe child"? you see.. I'm 10...
i have a niece that is 2 years old.... 2 years ago... my 14 year old cousin gave birth! i read this book.. its called "where do i come from".. when i was finished with the book.. i saw... "this was all done for you!" . so... ever wonder if your mom maybe young when given birth to you but still forced to have you in the world... just think about it...
2006-10-14 18:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥MAI♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your married thats great if u choose to have the child itll be born into a solide household
i dont want to tell u what to do but if
you think your ready mentally,finaiance wise,and at this point in your life then i say give birth but if ur gonna be forced to leave school then no
talk to ur parents
and make sure your husband is ready or see what he thinks best of luck
2006-10-14 18:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are too far along for an abortion, then you should just get ready for parenthood and its joys and trials. If you have options you should discuss the matter with your husband and a financial advisor (your bank may do this for free) to see how a child now fits with your life goals
Good luck,
Claus
2006-10-14 18:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Claus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, the first person you should talk to is your husband. You could also talk to a community health nurse who could direct you to any further help you might need. It is also very important to get prenatal medical care - see your doctor!
2006-10-14 18:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Cherry Blossom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Then call a doctor or a clinic to get a pregnancy test done. Mostly, remain calm.
2006-10-14 18:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Superman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, why worry?
Try calling 1-800-251-baby.
I don't know what else to tell you
2006-10-14 18:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Skittles-Dark Edition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 and married?
What happened, couldn't get a life of your own somehow?
2006-10-14 20:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋