Am I actually ugly?

Question

I've endured years of insults about the one thing that bugs me the most: my face. I look at me in the mirror every morning before I catch the bus to school, and my face to me seems fine, only with minor acne problems. I wash it, and the zits are gone. Only few remain and I think I look fine, after with the great hair combos I come up with. I think I look great, but some others don't. Only 4 girls out of the nearly 100 I knew think I look cute. The other 96, however, think I'm positively hideous. I feel like it's my face and my name: Sean Zachary Roberson. After enduring a bad day at school, I stay silent the entire ride, and feel like crying at home.

Should I just give up for good? Or do I need to just keep trying? I somehow think I'll be single until I hit graduation day in high school.

I'm 12, gonna be 13 in February. Sometimes my dreams involve me being laughed at in the hallways at high school, even though I'm not there yet.

It also sometimes ends with me being killed via gunshot.

Georgette, my character involves video games and a dancing stage manufactured by Konami, plus math class. Some (well, most) find that combo geeky, and it somehow makes me feel that way.

And other people, two of those girls I knew I met via Y! Messenger via here and FFR. They think I'm cute because I showed them my pics and my cam.

I don't think they were telling the truth.

H2O, I didn't ask them, they said that themselves. And they were classmates. Of the 96, about 85% of that (I'm too lazy to do the math) were the cool crowd, and 10% of that, I was part of their crew.

Answer 1

well u could add a pic so we could judge for our selfs..but if i had to guess i would say ur ugly...sorry but if 96 girls think ur ugly u probably are i know a few girls you any guy with a pulse is cute so that could be the remaining 3 girls

Answer 2

I think Sean Zachary Roberson is a great name!!! And hon, let me tell you, there was many a boy who I went to school with that may not have been model material, and when I've bumped into them years later, they are like WHOA! HOTTIE!!! I have 4 sons myself, the oldest is 15. At one point, he may have looked a little, shall we say, "Geeky" for lack of a better word, but now!! The girls will not stop calling him or leave him alone!! I won't lie to you, being a teenager is comparable to a roller coaster ride most times, but when you really think of it, most people dont seriously meet their true honest to goodness friends until probably around college and their 20's, etc. By then, more of you have matured and will know that there is much more to a person than "Just a pretty face" Heck, some of the most beautiful, pretty girls in my highschool had ugly personalities and were so fake. I would definitely not care what they think. True friends will stick by you, no matter what you look like. I hope I helped, even just a little bit. :)

Answer 3

Not all of them, but many people you age are really cruel, silly, immature, and jerky. Don't ask people if you look good. If you are ok with how you look in the mirror that's all that matters. If you ask twelve-olds if you're good looking they're not going to say "yes".

Whatever is going on now - whether its reasonable or ridiculous - is going to change when you and your classmates all get a little older. You're at an awful age.

Twelve is when most kids don't have girlfriends or boyfriends. Some do, but most don't. You're too young to be worried about that right now. Just be the best person you can be.

If you ask anyone how you look (and particularly if you let twelve-year-olds know you're a little insecure about what they think of you) they'll leap on the chance to make you feel rotten. Stop asking people that question. Even if they think you look ok they'll think you're fishing for compliments and not give you the satisfaction.

Answer 4

Are you a good guy inside that face? I mean after all, no one can see the insides of others, but that is where we decide how we are going to be to the world. As for those 100 girls you seem to have asked, I want to know if they were a group of your classmates, or just people off the street? Because if there were something hideous (really) about you, I would think folks would run the other way, but you said you HAVE ASKED THEM. So they didn't run away. No, you maybe don't want to try modeling at this point, but have you ever seen pictures of famous people in high school? Oh my gosh, I would not have known Tom Cruise! Take heart, there are still changes your body (and face) are making. I was a slow developer for a girl, and was flat-chested until I graduated high school. That sucked.
One other thing.... you seem to be the only one not as sure of yourself as you should be. So your face doesn't look like something off GQ. Do any of those girls lay claim to any magazine covers? I was totally surprised when I went back to my highschool reunion for the first time.... the dorkey guy that rode my bus and made all of us girls laugh with his jokes, and pal'd around with us had actually grown into a quite handsome guy, had a lovely wife, and a couple of kids. His love back in high school was baseball. He'd always loved it. I found out he was now coaching his son's league. My advice is do what you love. If fishing for comments on your appearance is what you'd like to continue to do, go ahead. If the answers hurt you, I would not suggest it. But develop whatever your passion is, watercolor painting, learning acoustic guitar, basket ball or another sport, who knows where it will take you? But PLEASE do not rely on someone else's opinion of you to control your own opinion of your life. Nothing is more attractive than someone committed to their zest for something.

Answer 5

First of all, DONT GIVE UP, you are so young sweetie. High school opens more doors, and shuts others. Dont worry about being single, i worried about that all the time and all it seems to do is depress you, if you go LOOKING FOR IT,you WONT find it, but if you just wait and let it happen it will. You look absolutely fine. Everyone has acne at that age and its no big thing. Dont cry, if kids are mean. Just know your a better person, NICE GUYS DONT ALWAYS FINISH LAST. So be friends with girls, be the guy they can talk to, not the one that wants sex and booty and sooner rather than later you going to have 15 girls beating down your locker asking for your digits. DO NOT GIVE UP and for your bad dreams....yoga...herbal tea and a freaking blue and green dream catcher will make that go away. Dont worry and just focus on school and friends. Dont let mean kids get you down, they will be working for you one day. So keep your head high.

Answer 6

Mate, you're young - there's plenty of time for dating & stuff. Plus in the next few years your looks will change heaps & you'll stop looking like a boy & start looking more manly - that's when things get interesting. I never went out with guys my age when I was 13 because well - I just didn't like them! Give it time seriously. Also one persons idea of good looking is totally different to another persons idea because if we were all after the same thing wouldn't it be boring? Just be good to yourself - concentrate on school at the moment & then you'll be smart & cute by the time you're 16 & that's a winning combination!

Answer 7

your only young. Dont stress to much about what other girls think. I was told i was ugly, im now 20 and have a great bf. Smetimes some girls will agree with others just to look good. I bet not all of em think ur ugly. There is some one out there for everyone, and ur someone will come along.

The longer u think bad about urself, the more depressed u will become. I hpe that helps.

Answer 8

No way boy don't you DARE let any one put you down like that. The reason the other girls say you aren't cute is probably because they have friends that might like you and thier friends probably want you all to themselves. Most girls are kinda shy. The guys that put you down probably know you are competition. I want to see you on web cam so get back to me k? I'll give you my msn. If you e-mail me. I have no problem with being straight up with someone. It's just the way I am. I think the problem you have is the way you look at the situation. You are looking at what they are saying. Look at their real meaning. BTW ... I'm 14 hee hee. Sorry. Back to the point. The real meaning might be jealousy. That's what I think. Get back to me.

Answer 9

1. Kids are cruel.

Everyone 'blossoms' at different times in their life. Just try to keep your wits about you and have a sense of humor about things now. Make sure you take care of your mind for now so you can do better once you are older. Dont worry about 'love' just yet. That will come later. There is someone for EVERYONE. Beauty must first begin on the inside.

Good luck, stay strong.

Answer 10

Don't worry about the girls who gave you negative answers but focus on the ones that think your cute.

By the way, Sean, it doesn't matter what others think even though at your age I know that sounds like crap. Focus on what makes you happy stop worrying about the girls. Someday that very special girl will find you irresistible and she will be the one.

Unfortunately, how we feel about ourselves comes through to other people. If you feel ugly by the end of the day, that is what is going to come across to people. If you think you look great then you DO! Don't let other dictate your happiness or what you feel about yourself.

Answer 11

If you think that you are good looking than that is wonderful. Who cares what others think. If you walk around knowing that you are a good person who respects themselves the better the chances are of people respecting you. Loook yourself in the mirror every day and say " I love you" It may seem weird at first but you have to love yourself (not in a vein way) for others to love you back.