I want to move on but I can't because I don't want to leave my 10 month old son without his dad and I love him to much to leave him, but I can't take his childish games anymore. He hurts me to much and the baby sees it and feels it to because he cries when he sees us arguing. I don't want this for him and I don't need this either. What do you guys suggest I should do?
2006-10-14 18:23:16 · 10 answers · asked by LaDii PyRoH_LoKs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
did you try to seek advice from welfare/family people? Can't really gauge whether you should leave your husband or not...too few details. But yes, with a baby, things got more complicated, but I would suggest if things got too unbearable (and you do have done your best in saving the marriage), then seek help from your friends/family, leave him, get a new life with your son. You might be thinking it would be the best for your boy to have a father, yet, in long term, if you and your husband contnd the argument, quarrels etc, I think the boy's gona get hurt even more, the enviro is even more unhealthy for him.
Just my piece of advice..take care
2006-10-14 18:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your serious, then get a divorce. Make sure you get joint custody. I don't see how ,someone that's not happy in a relationship, can stay in it only because the children. The children
will always be able to see their father. Both you and your husband have to move on. The kids will not be used to the living
arrangement, but they will get used to it. Just remember when
he gets older, he might choose to live with his father, which you
have to accept. Just like he had to accept living separate from
his father. Now when you say you can't live with out him are you referring to your husband? If you are then you have to deal with
it or talk to him with out arguing letting him know how you feel
and see if that helps. If not back to square 1. I"v been separated
for many years and I'm happier then I was before. My Daughter
was only 3 years old when we got separated and she too was
happy for both of us. She said she would move out if he moved back in. Now she claims my new guy as her father. She is now
22 years old. And doesn't speak of her biological father. But in your case he's only 10 months so his face is the only person
he know so don't break that relationship.
2006-10-15 01:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like Dr. Phil says, a child would rather come from a broken home than live in one. It's so true. Kids can go through so much more stress and depression being around it. You should move on. Doing it while the child is so young will be easier on him. trust me.
2006-10-15 01:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by spunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you either get some kind of help or you just need to leave because the baby and most importanly u dont need the stress
2006-10-15 01:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by JEN L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he will always be your child's father but your child will not grow to be happy if all you do is argue and fight around him. move on, dont let your baby be the reason you stay in a messed up relationship, you are not doing your child any good.
2006-10-15 01:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but you won't. There is a big difference. Until you decide to do the deed, all the questions in the world won't make any difference. You decide what you can live with and what you can't. Right now, you choose to live with it. When you decide not to, you will go.
2006-10-15 01:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a father is the man who pays attention and nurtures the mom and child not the dumb f??k who went to bed with you! Get out of there and stop using that kid as an excuse to stay. FATHER is love, not, dick or dickless!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-15 01:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tina Zecca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.hypnosis.edu/streaming and watch the video on relationships for free.
2006-10-15 01:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Belross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your inner heart, be brave and ask god just for the sake of it.how old are you and him?can you make it out side of this hectic mess?
2006-10-15 01:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by sideall06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on & get counseling.....
2006-10-15 01:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by stress77mulah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋